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to wish this was a woman only forum?

187 replies

raspberrychoc · 20/01/2026 13:50

I know anyone can join and that's fair enough, I'm not actually trying to impose my wish on anyone or the site but it still always annoys me when I am reading thought a thread where a woman is posting for advice from other women and a man pops up saying "speaking as a man" or "from a blokes perspective" I always want to say I'm not interested in what you think right now, there is a whole world of "men's opinions" shoved down our throats from the time we are little girls and all though our lives on every aspect of our bodies, what we do and think. I'd love just one space like this with lots of women without it having men interject and that is before we even get to the men who pitch up looking for permission to have affairs or get their jollies from dubious posts.

OP posts:
ASeatNextToMe · 20/01/2026 14:27

TheHedgehogCannotBeBotheredAtAll · 20/01/2026 14:22

OMG prh47bridge is a man?! Mind…blown. Perfect example of someone who never starts anything with ‘man here’.

He has been on here for years, but I think it’s easy to tell by his writing style that’s he is a man.

takingthepissoutofme · 20/01/2026 14:27

Oh god, worm, cans, open

Are you allowed to say woman anymore?? 😂

Daisywhatsyouranswer · 20/01/2026 14:26

MyMilchick · 20/01/2026 14:25

What's more annoying is when women post things like "My husband just said that you should -insert manadvice here"

That I agree with. It annoys rhe fuck out of me too. I asked my husband and he said x. Or on how much do you earn threads, my husband earns x, who gives a shiny shit.

SleeplessInWherever · 20/01/2026 14:26

BettyRizzoSlaps · 20/01/2026 14:23

Yes but - I don't want their advice. I want advice from women. I've had enough of their unwarranted advice for far too long.

I do scroll by, but I'm still allowed to say I don't like it.

But what if that advice is actually useful. Is it suddenly not, because they’re a man?

I’ll add that I am absolutely definitely a woman. 😂

ASeatNextToMe · 20/01/2026 14:25

moofolk · 20/01/2026 14:23

I accidentally voted YABU but 100% YANBU!

although like you I don’t know what can be done about it, having men here pisses me off!

You can change your vote if you click on the other option.

Daisywhatsyouranswer · 20/01/2026 14:25

travelanxious91 · 20/01/2026 14:17

Yes agreed. You can often immediately tell the man on the thread as its often a cold, unsympathetic and often covertly sexist response. And agree that it's good to know that they are men rather than thinking a woman has this view, which is the assumed sex on this forum unless said otherwise.

Often it is a woman, you can look at history. Sure it’s not a given, but more often than not it’s women attacking women on here.

parenting, appearance, weight, relationships, dress, working mums, sahms, you name it, and there is often a woman just gagging to judge.

lers not pretend women all support each other in some mythical sisterhood.

MyMilchick · 20/01/2026 14:25

What's more annoying is when women post things like "My husband just said that you should -insert manadvice here"

moofolk · 20/01/2026 14:23

I accidentally voted YABU but 100% YANBU!

although like you I don’t know what can be done about it, having men here pisses me off!

Daisywhatsyouranswer · 20/01/2026 14:23

Quite frankly I’ve seen more mysogynistic mean comments from women to other women on here, so meh, no, I take no issue with men commenting, they’d have to really ramp it up to even come close to some of the shitty comments women attack each other with on here.

BettyRizzoSlaps · 20/01/2026 14:23

TheatreTheatre · 20/01/2026 14:20

There are loads of super helpful men here. And nice Dads who need and can give parenting support like the rest of us.

prh47bridge has given invaluable support on schools and family law for decades.

There are knobhead men - there are also too many knob head women!

Just deal with or ignore each post as you think fit.

Yes but - I don't want their advice. I want advice from women. I've had enough of their unwarranted advice for far too long.

I do scroll by, but I'm still allowed to say I don't like it.

TheHedgehogCannotBeBotheredAtAll · 20/01/2026 14:22

TheatreTheatre · 20/01/2026 14:20

There are loads of super helpful men here. And nice Dads who need and can give parenting support like the rest of us.

prh47bridge has given invaluable support on schools and family law for decades.

There are knobhead men - there are also too many knob head women!

Just deal with or ignore each post as you think fit.

OMG prh47bridge is a man?! Mind…blown. Perfect example of someone who never starts anything with ‘man here’.

TheatreTheatre · 20/01/2026 14:20

There are loads of super helpful men here. And nice Dads who need and can give parenting support like the rest of us.

prh47bridge has given invaluable support on schools and family law for decades.

There are knobhead men - there are also too many knob head women!

Just deal with or ignore each post as you think fit.

BriefEncountersOfTheThirdKind · 20/01/2026 14:19

Placetobreathe · 20/01/2026 14:08

It's not the men who actually say they are a man that annoy me.

It's the men who post extremely unsympathetic and misogynistic advice on threads without revealing they are men that i think are quite frankly dangerous.

They undermine the OP and give unwoman friendly advice while in effect masquerading as a woman.

Most of those are probably just women with different ideas to you being called men for that simple crime 🤷‍♀️

TheHedgehogCannotBeBotheredAtAll · 20/01/2026 14:19

ASeatNextToMe · 20/01/2026 14:15

There is one with dad in his username that is fucking awful.

Yes I know who you mean.

travelanxious91 · 20/01/2026 14:17

Placetobreathe · 20/01/2026 14:08

It's not the men who actually say they are a man that annoy me.

It's the men who post extremely unsympathetic and misogynistic advice on threads without revealing they are men that i think are quite frankly dangerous.

They undermine the OP and give unwoman friendly advice while in effect masquerading as a woman.

Yes agreed. You can often immediately tell the man on the thread as its often a cold, unsympathetic and often covertly sexist response. And agree that it's good to know that they are men rather than thinking a woman has this view, which is the assumed sex on this forum unless said otherwise.

ASeatNextToMe · 20/01/2026 14:15

TheHedgehogCannotBeBotheredAtAll · 20/01/2026 14:14

Sorry, PigletJohn and VimesandhisCardboardBoots are two great examples of men I like seeing posts from. There’s one with dad in his username as well and a couple of other decent blokes on here who add to conversations. The fake ones pretending to be women, on the other hand… 🤬

There is one with dad in his username that is fucking awful.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 20/01/2026 14:15

WSCamp · 20/01/2026 14:15

I don't mind men posting at all. It is annoying when they preface their post with "man here!" or similar- who cares? Anyone could be anyone on here so it's the content of the post that counts.

Oo I like to know upfront so I can scroll past 😂

Upstartled · 20/01/2026 14:15

Wasn't there a rumour once that PigletJohn was Sarah Beeny?

WSCamp · 20/01/2026 14:15

I don't mind men posting at all. It is annoying when they preface their post with "man here!" or similar- who cares? Anyone could be anyone on here so it's the content of the post that counts.

Morepositivemum · 20/01/2026 14:14

Never seen that and I’m here 10 years!!! Though I don’t go onto the sex topics and not relationships often

eta that was for mumofoneAloneandwell

TheHedgehogCannotBeBotheredAtAll · 20/01/2026 14:14

Sorry, PigletJohn and VimesandhisCardboardBoots are two great examples of men I like seeing posts from. There’s one with dad in his username as well and a couple of other decent blokes on here who add to conversations. The fake ones pretending to be women, on the other hand… 🤬

raspberrychoc · 20/01/2026 14:14

Robertplantgoddess · 20/01/2026 14:13

Just came on to say the same- if it says - speaking like a man- then you know what you're getting. Ignore or whatever but lately some threads let alone answers seem dubious at best.
I think it's ok to have men on here - i can see the argument both ways but my inner belief is no good ever comes from barring people- they will just find another way.

Thats why it isn't a genuine request, more of a wish that I know won't come to pass.

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PeopleTheyAintNoGood · 20/01/2026 14:14

Some are supportive and helpful. Some do bring good knowledge, ie pigletjohn and some lawyers, but yanbu. Some are awful and as per pp, I really dislike the ones that post on Relationships etc, with a really bad hidden agenda.

Sometimes you get to know their posting style, and realise, so can ignore, but often the op doesn't, and it can really change the help or tone of a thread.

ArtTheClownIsNotAMime · 20/01/2026 14:14

Peoplemakemedespair · 20/01/2026 14:12

It’s a bit of a hobby on here for me to click on the previous posts of any man commenting on any subject relating to sex. I’m looking to see how many of their posts are sex related. Some times it’s literally all of them. I’ve never spotted a woman on here where every one of her posts are about sex stuff

That's not fair, they often post in Relationships too.

...to whine about not getting enough sex

ASeatNextToMe · 20/01/2026 14:13

I have no time for the ones that hang around the sex board or on threads on the relationship board that involve sex. Also the ones that only come on to chat with us about their wife not wanting sex. It son becomes obvious why their wife doesn’t want sex with them.And the ones that come on to tell us NAMALT… 🥱

There have been loads of men caught out for pretending to be women on the sex board. 🤢