to wish this was a woman only forum?

Or the men that pretend to be women here.

I don’t mind men being on here at all - as long as they don’t pretend to be women for sexual kicks.

This is an excellent point, he's amazing. Learned so many things.

How could that be done though? How would anyone know from a poster's name whether they were female or not, and how could MNHQ possibly check all existing and new posters to find out? They have enough on their plate as it is.

There was one very similar to that the other day. Someone searched his username and he posted on the sex board a lot, including revealing on there that he had one night stands behind his wife’s back. These threads happen fairly often and we tire of them. They can’t even be arsed to name change and try to hide it, or they’re just thick. 🙄

As a man (👀🎣) it is a bit of a double edged sword in terms of the announce/don't announce issue.

Unless it's specifically gendered I think it's absolutely weird to announce your sex and it's a common trope for men to do it to add weight to their opinion so even if it's not done with that intention you should know that's how it will come across and avoid doing it. So for 99% of AIBU threads it's fucking pointless. being male has nothing really to do with parking wars or maybe it has everything to do with them.

For threads where the sex of the poster adds content I think it's probably more relevant and actually in the interest of goodfaith to do it because then there's no insinuation of posting under the guise of a woman, it can add context and it shows other posters to ignore you if they simply don't want a male perspective on a certain subject be it trans issues, feminist topics,male on female violence or relationship issues. But even then there's subtler ways of flagging that you're male than starting with as a "man/Male here/from a male POV."

As for wanting a female only space I'd say go and create one then. There absolutely should be room for it in real life and online. But your argument is with mumsnet creators and how they wish to run the space they created rather than posters who have been told by the owners of the space that they are welcome here.

How do we know who anyone here is anyway?. A poster saying ' man here' could be a mother of 3. The mother of three posting about her mother-in-law could be a man.

Really? I know this is often given as a reason but I find there are so many spaces that are inhabited almost exclusively by women (not because men are banned but because only women work there/go there etc) that I don’t get worked up about the odd man on a website full of bots and online trolls.

But my wife used to have sex with me when I was young and nice to be around and now I don't understand why she won't have sex with me after spending the day working, looking after children and doing my laundry... should I have an affair with the single mum at the school gate who said hi to me once?

I know, I'm probably just trying to justify my reasons for disliking it. I just feel like we're not allowed to have anywhere without men in the real world, and now they're hanging about here. It annoys me beyond belief. There's plenty of other places to go than a parenting forum that's largely inhabited by women.

Reactions are also so starkly different to the same problem depending if the poster is male or female. Generally if it’s a man who is having issues eg with a controlling relationship, the advice is that his partner is in the right, how people would love to hear her side, stop moaning etc. If it’s a woman posting, there’s nothing but agreement, cheering on and support. There are also extreme double standards and contradictions eg the idea that 50/50 custody is awful for kids and is a ploy by greedy dads to get out of paying child support. Yet anyone who is dating a dad who doesn’t have 50/50 is told he’s a deadbeat, awful, doesn’t give a shit about his kids, Disney dad etc. It makes no sense.

On the other hand a man's perspective is often interesting. I know we all support women but men's perspective can be quite different.

Most don’t seem interested in those……funny that.

Same here. I have been told 'listen to women'. Um, I am a woman. I'm just not a misandrist.

Yes and no for men being here. Sometimes I think it may be useful if men read women's views on a lot of things, esp important things like sexual harassment, abuse - even just dating.
And those who come on to complain about partner, such as lack of sex, I've seen MN'rs really go to town. Lovely!

YABU. There are plenty of unpleasant posters on here, do you really think that the majority of them are male?

I agree it would be useful if some parts were Female only.

But not the Parenting, Education etc type boards.

It is so interesting that some posters hate anyone saying "man here" etc and others (up on this thread) hate it if men dont say that and just post!

The raging hatred of men on MN at times definitely implies men's advice doesn't count even when helpful 🤣

There was a trend, certainly a wee while ago, for men who post on forums such as Reddit to come over and post on certain threads on MN. They would post really goady things, generally picking on certain posters. And the they would make fun of the responses they had elicited back on the other forum websites. It was a game to them .

And certainly you see posters whose viewpoints chime with a male agenda, working in tandem with each other on some threads, with the obvious aim of undermining the OP.

I think a lot of them are women, I’ve seen people acccused of being a man and it’s not,

as said, we should not be pretending there is some mythical sisterhood here, as as much as there are women who are kind and supportive I’ve seen regularly women attacking other women on here, women who just ask for advice being ripped apart by other women, and I’ve seen it far far more than I’ve seen men do it.

pretending it must be men is silly, as I think we all know it’s not.

women posting images of other women and ripping them apart, for their weight, clothes, hair, face, women attacking other women foe their parenting choices, partner choices, lifestyle choices. Working or not working choices.

women attacking women on here is hair raising and incredibly dismaying.

Tbh I’ve been accused of being a man when someone doesn’t like what I’ve posted. I promise I’m female.

Isn't he too busy being very high up in a very important company 😁 This one was rife during covid, it seems to have settled down lately.

Some of them are women no doubt.
But a lot aren't.
I have never directly "accused" another pp of being a man but have occasionally searched a user name and found confirmation on another thread that the poster is indeed a man.

I welcome contributions from men, although I have no idea how you can tell a lot of the time. I would never join any organisation, forum, etc thst tried to restrict its membership to women.

GOD that winds me up.

“My husband pays tax, my husband doesn’t like cheese, my husband thinks our son is a unicorn, my husband works so hard for our family, I’m so proud of him he’s my favouritest person ever.”

I would much prefer the actual husband turns up and speaks for himself.