To want to rehome my dog

I am very rarely in favour of rehoming because I think that pets should be a responsibility for life and that they should not be casually disposed of like inanimate objects but in your circumstances I absolutely would rehome him because that is no life for a dog. It would be incredibly cruel to keep him. Please do it via a rescue and not social media as others have suggested, there are many smaller rescues out there. Which area are you in?

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I was going to say YABU but you’re no longer able to meet the dogs needs and that’s unlikely to change.
Perhaps the Cinnamon Trust might take him as an older person looking to home rescue dog often prefer an older dog

Rehome asap. Even with a dog walker that would be far to long to be alone.

No judgment here OP, absolutely rehome and lift a weight off your shoulders.
Yes of course circumstances change but now both you and your dog are suffering for it.
Find a good rescue and/or a new home for him and know you did the best thing for him.
All the best.

Please do rehome your dog. No dog should be left alone all day, it’s cruel. Make sure you choose someone who is home at least half of every day.

Yes you should rehome him. He can’t be left on his own all day.

No dog lover should judge you for doing the right thing for the dog. This is a perfectly straightforward decision. There’s only one right thing to do. That doesn’t mean actually doing it is easy but deciding to do it should be.

Both of mine are rescues, the second one is nearly 9 and we adopted her 10 months ago so hopefully age won’t be a factor.

Awwwwww, lovely post ❤

FWIW my dog was a rescue.

She had the best life ever and was loved so much for many years.
I can’t explain how I love her.

I would have never had the gift of her if someone hadn’t given her up.

My heart absolutely breaks for your teen but this is a good opportunity to teach her that when it comes to pets you must put their needs above your own emotions.

I still remember my grandads dog being PTS I kicked off massively knowing they were planning it and how could they kill their dog etc and they said something like how it’s cruel because he’s suffering and my feelings do not trump him suffering.

I would find the rescues asap as I know it may be a few weeks at least before they have space.

You are absolutely doing the right thing.
You are doing what’s best for your dog, even if it’s heartbreaking for you and your DD.

This time next year your dog could be with a loving family who has loads of time for it vs being stuck as he is now.

Well done for making this decision OP.

I mean this kindly but it would be cruelty to not rehome under these circumstances. Your situation has changed and you are no longer able to provide the home he needs, so don’t feel guilty xx

Rehome. Saying “I don’t give out to him” doesn’t put you in the category of a “good” owner by the way. It shows a fundamental misunderstanding of the obligations you owe to another living creature. Providing access to the outside to go to the toilet is a right not a favour.

I think when you take on an animal you commit yourself to doing the best for it while it is in your care and sometimes that best means rehoming, no matter how hard it is for you. I think to rehome him is a brave choice and I support you. If someone hadn't decided to rehome DH's dog because he was too much for her to manage our lives would be so different. I'm grateful to her for her honesty in giving him up and allowing us to have him and I'm sure someone will be grateful to you for giving them time with your dog. Don't let anyone make you feel judged.

Yes, you definitely need to rehome asap. This is so damaging for the poor dog. He's alone all day, no option to even go to the toilet outside, and then you leave him alone downstairs all night. Don't worry about the judgement from family, your dog shouldn't suffer like this just because you don't want to face it.

Because she said her family will judge her for rehoming

Bloody hell, yes you rehome the poor thing!

12 hours by itself, you wonder why he is wee'ing all over the house.

And what do you mean getting knocked down by a car - you seriously think the alternative is to let him out by himself all day?

Hand him over to a decent rehoming place near you. Today if possible.

There are foster organisations for older dogs, some are breed specific some not like a pp linked.

I think rehoming is probably the answer. However as the dog is 10 realistically they will be hard to rehome.

I’ll be honest I feel bad for you OP but I think if you’re rehoming you owe it to your dog to try and find them a home with someone you know (doesn’t have to be local) so they don’t end up stuck in kennels or going to some random on socials which is truly heartbreaking and extremely distressing at this age.

If you haven’t a full check up at the vets bloods etc to ensure weeeing and night crying isn’t also medical please do that asap.

In the short term while looking fur a home Id also be working to try and get the dog weeing on puppy pads and have a basket in my room for them on a night to avoid the separation crying.

Why make up stories? What is the point of lying.

Excellent advice. Never rehome a dog by advertising on social media.

You need to rehome the dog and as soon as possible. Having done this myself for different reasons, I know it is a hard decision. Its harder to be the dog though. You dont need judging, you need support to see this through.

Don't leave it another day.

Are you saying that your only options are trying to rehome an ageing dog with SA and house training issues or leaving it outside all day? Rescues are crammed at the moment. Why would your dog get run over if it was outside?

@Ubah i would 100% rehome in your situation

don't let what others think or their potential judgment stop you

we had to rehome ours, and were very worried about what everyone would say or think. But the dog is in a better place with a better life, and as soon as she was gone the stress, the weight of it all just lifted

and a few years on everyone has forgotten about it!

Dont get me wrong, i cried many tears over the dog. It's hard, letting them go. But if they will be better off, and you, don't hesitate