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To have mentioned moving out the area?

29 replies

StuckInIt · 20/01/2026 09:29

Sorry in advance if this is long or confusing, I have a lot going on at the moment and my mind is a jumbled mess.

My home was broken into last week whilst myself and my young DC was in bed. A lot of things were taken and currently remains unsafe to stay in. My boyfriend (of just under a year) hasn't been that supportive in the aftermath but has offered me to a place to stay for a night or 2.

Yesterday we were vaguely discussing the fact that I am really anxious about going back home when the damage is repaired and the house is secured as I really dont feel safe there anymore. I am a lone parent with minimal support and looks like it was a targeted break in. Ultimately i said i would probably look at moving and may consider looking at another town closer to where I work. This set my boyfriend off on a tangent, he instantly started calling me everything under the sun and threw me out. He has this morning sent me a message saying we are done and blocked me.

I really cant deal with this on top of everything now, was i in the wrong here?
I am trying to keep things as normal as possible for my DD outwardly but inside I am already struggling enough as it is without this.

OP posts:
Nicecatneighbour · 20/01/2026 09:35

YANBU. You are prioritising your safety.
He, on the other hand has some other agenda and priorities. Leave him be. He's done you a favour, man baby.

Makingpeace · 20/01/2026 09:33

Gosh! Sorry for all that you've experienced! I would want to move too. Your boyfriend is not being a DP.

rubyslippers · 20/01/2026 09:31

He sounds like an absolute pig and you’re well rid
a nice boyfriend would be supportive and kind after such a horrible incident
I’m begging this is not the first time he’s been horrible to you

JamesClyman · 20/01/2026 09:30

He's a dickhead. You are well rid of him.