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Will my life be better if I move to USA?

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Yatre · 19/01/2026 22:51

I truly hate the UK class system.

I hate the whole private school vs grammar school vs state school elitism.

I hate the Oxbridge elitism and how Oxbridge-educated people dominate public life and the arrogance many of them have.

I hate the posh Etonians and Harrovians.

I hate the elitism of the Royal Family, the British aristocracy, all those titles and landed estates, the House of Lords etc.

Just the existence of certain British politicans (regardless of their politics - because this isn’t necessarily about their political beliefs) really irks me. Think David Cameron or Boris Johnson. Both upper-class, privately-educated, Oxford/Bullingdon Club, which have given them a great sense of arrogance about their position in life.

I hate the Oxford Union and the way they all dress up in posh attire, acting all special, and thinking their oratory skills will materialise into anything of worth.

This arrogance has been talked about before with many Brits believing that these Oxbridge, privately-educated, middle and upper-class people have the arrogance to think they have the right to run the country.

They’re present everywhere. Edward Davey, Keir Starmer, Suella Braverman, Tony Blair etc. it’s not just a right-wing thing. In fat, you could argue, these days, it’s more so left-wing.

Even successful British actors like Emma Thompson, Tom Hiddleston, Eddie Redmayne etc exhibit these attributes. They

I just don’t want to have to live in the same country as these types of people or listen to their antics.

Luckily, I’m a dual UK-US citizen since I was born in the US while my parents were living there for a while, but I have never been there since my parents returned and I don’t know anyone there.

I really want to move to the US.

If you know what it’s like to live in the USA, can you just tell me whether if I moved to the USA, I wouldn’t have to come across any of those posh, aristocratic, upper/middle-class, privately-educated, titled, Oxbridge graduate snobs that I mentioned.

I would live in a much more meritocratic country where nobody would tolerate Oxford Union debaters thinking their opinion matters or privately-educated people thinking they have a right to run the country.

At least Trump’s wealth or that of the Kardashian’s isn’t offensive to me because it just feels different - it doesn’t feel as layered and it doesn’t make them act as entitled or snobbish.

So, if I move to USA will I be free from these types of people or will I still see some of them/hear from them? I’m not sure if America is dominated by middle-class or posh, Oxbridge graduates or aristocrats.

Sorry for the rant. Just felt overwhelmed.

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Veryproudtobehere · 20/01/2026 03:50

The race based entity america, the most racist entity in human history, where only whites are american per its founding naturalisation law, where Natives were deemed subhuman savages according to its racist 'declaration' before they were ethnically cleansed (an act admired by Hitler), and the Africans (who provided wealth for the elite white slave owning tyrants who founded this racist entity) were deemed 3/5ths of a person according to its racist constitution.

This image sums up the race based entity america and its white privilege DNA.

https://www.theguardian.com/world/2018/jul/05/facebook-declaration-of-independence-hate-speech

Facebook labels declaration of independence as 'hate speech'

The website told a local newspaper they violated its community guidelines by posting the original document

https://www.theguardian.com/world/2018/jul/05/facebook-declaration-of-independence-hate-speech

AdaDex · 20/01/2026 03:41

Yatre · 19/01/2026 23:23

Is America dominated by Oxbridge people too?

Ivy league

RawBloomers · 20/01/2026 03:40

The US isn't meritocratic. Social mobility has been higher in the UK over the last few decades. They don't have Oxbridge, or the same sense of class as the UK. But they absolutely do have class, (and significantly more racism too, so if you're not white that's probably a bigger problem).

Almost no law makers at the federal level are working class. (The Democrats are probably worse than the Republicans on this front too). The US have political dynasties that span multiple generations in a way that really ought to be shocking in a country that went to war in part to reject hereditary rule.

Getting into the top colleges is hard for working class children. Good state funded high schools are generally at least as segregated as they are in the UK, with many places relying on parents and local communities to fund significant amounts of state school budgets. This results in rich communities having better facilities and curriculum than poorer communities as well as the advantages that often come with a more middle class community, and working class kids being concentrated in schools with fewer facilities and more hard to serve children. There is a huge amount of nepotism in the working world and who you know, college alum networks and the right names on your CV are huge advantages in getting ahead.

Even with the new tech frontier, that has allowed lots of people to gain far better incomes than their parents - still almost none of the CEOs and CTO or CFOs come from a less than middle class background. Often an upper middle class one.

There is a lot of opportunity, but there are also a lot of people vying for that opportunity. The potential to get rich is higher, but it's a huge gamble for working class people with luck a significant part of making it. There's a greater gap between rich and poor in the US and the chances of falling into crippling poverty is higher.

It's a good place for UK middle class people to try and make it big. Less so for working class. But if you have dual citizenship, you have little to lose trying as you can always return to to the UK.

Veryproudtobehere · 20/01/2026 03:38

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/African_Americans#Racism_and_social_status

"Formal political, economic and social discrimination against minorities has been present throughout American history. Leland T. Saito, Associate Professor of Sociology and American Studies & Ethnicity at the University of Southern California, writes, "Political rights have been circumscribed by race, class and gender since the founding of the United States, when the right to vote was restricted to White men of property. Throughout the history of the United States, race has been used by Whites for legitimizing and creating difference and social, economic and political exclusion".

In 1770s Britain, men of property could vote (this included black people), in 1770s america, only white men of property could vote. It would take almost another century before blacks could do the same in america as Britain (although it would take yet another century before they gained full rights).

abraham lincoln in 1858,

"I am not nor ever have been in favor of making voters or jurors of negroes, nor of qualifying them to hold office, nor to intermarry with white people; I am as much as any other man in favor of having the superior position assigned to the white race."

america, a race based entity founded by a group of elite, white slave owning tyrants, for america to stop being racist it would need to stop being america.

Ponderingwindow · 20/01/2026 03:22

The US has a class system, it is just based upon different things than the UK system. It is possible to change classes in the U.S., but that doesn’t make class any less important or dominant.

my child was born into the upper middle class. Like many similar families, our entire goal as parents is to make sure she has what she needs to stay here or rise higher. It influences every aspect of our parenting from birth.

don’t be naive and think you will escape the issue of class in the US. Class determines the quality of your child’s school. Class determines the maintenance level of your neighborhood. Class determines your access to good, healthy grocery stores. Class determines your access to health care. Your socioeconomic status is everything here.

Veryproudtobehere · 20/01/2026 03:21

Yatre · 19/01/2026 22:51

I truly hate the UK class system.

I hate the whole private school vs grammar school vs state school elitism.

I hate the Oxbridge elitism and how Oxbridge-educated people dominate public life and the arrogance many of them have.

I hate the posh Etonians and Harrovians.

I hate the elitism of the Royal Family, the British aristocracy, all those titles and landed estates, the House of Lords etc.

Just the existence of certain British politicans (regardless of their politics - because this isn’t necessarily about their political beliefs) really irks me. Think David Cameron or Boris Johnson. Both upper-class, privately-educated, Oxford/Bullingdon Club, which have given them a great sense of arrogance about their position in life.

I hate the Oxford Union and the way they all dress up in posh attire, acting all special, and thinking their oratory skills will materialise into anything of worth.

This arrogance has been talked about before with many Brits believing that these Oxbridge, privately-educated, middle and upper-class people have the arrogance to think they have the right to run the country.

They’re present everywhere. Edward Davey, Keir Starmer, Suella Braverman, Tony Blair etc. it’s not just a right-wing thing. In fat, you could argue, these days, it’s more so left-wing.

Even successful British actors like Emma Thompson, Tom Hiddleston, Eddie Redmayne etc exhibit these attributes. They

I just don’t want to have to live in the same country as these types of people or listen to their antics.

Luckily, I’m a dual UK-US citizen since I was born in the US while my parents were living there for a while, but I have never been there since my parents returned and I don’t know anyone there.

I really want to move to the US.

If you know what it’s like to live in the USA, can you just tell me whether if I moved to the USA, I wouldn’t have to come across any of those posh, aristocratic, upper/middle-class, privately-educated, titled, Oxbridge graduate snobs that I mentioned.

I would live in a much more meritocratic country where nobody would tolerate Oxford Union debaters thinking their opinion matters or privately-educated people thinking they have a right to run the country.

At least Trump’s wealth or that of the Kardashian’s isn’t offensive to me because it just feels different - it doesn’t feel as layered and it doesn’t make them act as entitled or snobbish.

So, if I move to USA will I be free from these types of people or will I still see some of them/hear from them? I’m not sure if America is dominated by middle-class or posh, Oxbridge graduates or aristocrats.

Sorry for the rant. Just felt overwhelmed.

america, the most racist country in human history, the global leader in race law (white only citizenship, white only vote, white only schools to white only graveyards, white only education etc. etc.), a race based entity founded by a group of white elite, slave owning, racist tyrants, the country that ethnically cleansed the indigenous population from their fertile land and forced the tiny number who survived into reservations, the country that imported enslaved Africans to provide wealth for the white elite (washington, jefferson et al), the country that coined the term '''white privilege''' given now rampant it is there, since when was it meritocratic?

That's a comment from a whitewashing ignoramus.

I detest america with every fibre of my being. Even the national anthem (the lyrics not the tune which is British) is racist with it's no longer sung third verse excoriating the slaves who fled the plantations of the white elites (18 from washington's alone)

Some history (and not a version of Trump's "patriotic education" (whitewashed) that you have espoused) and up to date data from the London School of Economics:

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Slavery_in_the_United_States#Economics

"The end of slavery has seen marginal change in the racial wealth gap. In 1863, two years prior to emancipation, black people owned 0.5 percent of the national wealth, while in 2019 it is just over 1.5 percent.

Those who economically gained the most from slavery were the planter class, owners of large-scale agricultural estates, plantations, where large numbers of enslaved Africans were held captive and forced to produce crops to create wealth for a white elite. Having a prominent role in politics with eight of the 15 presidents prior to Lincoln owning slaves while in office, upon the end of the Civil War the planter class kept control of their land and remained politically influential, with the London School of Economics stating, "this persistence in "de facto power" in turn allowed them to block economic reforms, disenfranchise black voters, and restrict the mobility of workers."

www.washingtonpost.com/outlook/2019/06/19/why-racial-wealth-gap-persists-more-than-years-after-emancipation/

Shellewriter · 20/01/2026 03:14

Watch palm beach: members only on netflix. That'll cure you.

Veryproudtobehere · 20/01/2026 03:13

flirtygirl · 20/01/2026 03:09

America is a country of idiots so you would fit right in.

How stupid do you have to be to 1) want to live in the US and 2) to think they don't have a class system.

It is a race based entity that has been dominated by whites since it was stolen from the Native people who were massacred.

Veryproudtobehere · 20/01/2026 03:12

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/White_Anglo-Saxon_Protestants

In the United States, White Anglo-Saxon Protestants or Wealthy Anglo-Saxon Protestants (WASP) is a sociological term which is often used to describe white/wealthy Protestant Americans of English, or more broadly British, descent who are generally part of the white dominant culture, and who belong to Protestant denominations. Some sociologists and commentators use WASP more broadly to include all White Protestant Americans of Northwestern European and Northern European ancestry.[2][3][4] It was seen to be in exclusionary contrast to Catholics, Jews, Irish, immigrants, southern or eastern Europeans, and the non-White. WASPs have dominated American society, culture, and politics for most of the history of the United States. Critics have disparaged them as "The Establishment".

flirtygirl · 20/01/2026 03:09

America is a country of idiots so you would fit right in.

How stupid do you have to be to 1) want to live in the US and 2) to think they don't have a class system.

TimeForATerf · 20/01/2026 03:02

You sound young, bitter and a bit naive just go and see how it works out for you. It could be a great learning experience if nothing else.

trustedadult · 20/01/2026 02:54

Gosh. You need to reconcile your obsession with a university

anotherside · 20/01/2026 02:48

I guess if you want somewhere less wealth and privilege focused, somewhere in Scandinavia might be better, or perhaps even Ireland. But truth be told it’s a bit of a weird thing for the average person to fixate on.

anotherside · 20/01/2026 02:46

Johnson and Cameron fair enough. But Blair, Starmer, Braverman, Davey - none of them had particularly privileged upbringings.

Seems their parents were all born pretty normal people who did quite well for themselves and then yes invested a bit in their kids education. If you think that’s not the case in the US and that US politicians “come from the streets” you’re in for a shock.

In fact Starmer in particular had a bang average upbringing, the first of his family to go to university, and only went to a good school through his own academic merit. The contrast with Trump could hardly be more stark.

ForTheForseeable · 20/01/2026 02:31

knitnerd90 · 20/01/2026 01:43

Seriously — that sounds like someone's expecting to live on the set of Gossip Girl!

I live near DC and educational snobbery is real, but the rest of it, no. And even then there are plenty of people who didn't go to elite universities and have done well.

To be fair op's description of the UK won't chime with many people's either.

ForTheForseeable · 20/01/2026 02:29

So you want to move because some people have more than you and because of that they get access to better things?

Where do u think this exists? You'd move because students at Oxford dress up?
Come off it.

CallItLoneliness · 20/01/2026 02:25

Places that claim to be meritocratic typically have hidden value systems that are nothing to do with merit: https://doi.org/10.1007/978-3-031-65498-5_4

What you're actually looking for is a culture with low power distance--ironically the US is a HIGHER power distance culture than the UK, meaning that elites expect more deference.... https://clearlycultural.com/geert-hofstede-cultural-dimensions/power-distance-index/

Power Distance Index – Clearly Cultural

https://clearlycultural.com/geert-hofstede-cultural-dimensions/power-distance-index/

Derbee · 20/01/2026 02:21

Yatre · 19/01/2026 23:23

Is America dominated by Oxbridge people too?

No, America has no elite universities which are attended by privileged, wealthy people. It does not have a system whereby the wealthy elites find their way into positions of power or privilege within government.

They’re highly welcoming to immigrants, especially at the moment. They’ve created an all powerful gestapo community of government agents called ICE, to ensure that immigrants feel welcome and safe.

It sounds like a magical wonderland. I’m sure you’ll love it. Off you pop

Swedishh · 20/01/2026 02:21

Go if you want to go …. However I think you’re living in the wrong U.K. location. Look for alternative places like Totness, Stroud Bristol

PigletJohn · 20/01/2026 02:09

I was wondering how many old Etonians and Harrovians you meet in a typical day.

DdraigGoch · 20/01/2026 02:03

MissConductUS · 20/01/2026 00:56

I checked the website, and you are correct. You used to be able to upgrade to a sleeper, but they seem to have discontinued that option. You could use the pass to travel to day-trip destinations and buy the sleeper-car tickets separately.

Or you could rent a car, but I expect that would be more expensive, and many people wouldn't want to do that much driving, especially out west where cities are so far apart. The rail pass would work nicely on the east and west coasts, though. Think Boston to NYC to Philadelphia to Baltimore to Washington, DC. Those are all only a few hours apart on Amtrak.

That's a nuisance. There aren't many routes where Amtrak is good for a day trip. I'm too old to overnight in seated accommodation, I need a sleeper! Driving and flying are travel modes I treat as last resorts.

Anyway, 2026's travel budget has been blown already.

ThereAreOnlyShadesOfGrey · 20/01/2026 01:52

meanwhile, back in the real world……

BootMaker · 20/01/2026 01:44

PS @Yatre, it was in the last century that the House of Lords was largely abolished as an hereditary mechanism.

So you don't need to worry about that any more.

knitnerd90 · 20/01/2026 01:43

MissConductUS · 20/01/2026 01:00

If you're not rich, professionally successful, beautiful, well-dressed and well-connected they'll despise you.

Um, no. There's a large British ex-pat community where I live (the northern suburbs of NYC) who don't fit that description and fit right in here, with loads of friends, because they are lovely people. I go to church with two of them.

Despise? Where on earth did that come from?

Seriously — that sounds like someone's expecting to live on the set of Gossip Girl!

I live near DC and educational snobbery is real, but the rest of it, no. And even then there are plenty of people who didn't go to elite universities and have done well.

knitnerd90 · 20/01/2026 01:41

Well on MN they'll always say the USA is a hellhole...

Salaries are better by the way, but costs are really out of control. That said, now is not the time. The demented Cheeto in the White House is destroying our economy and our politics. And moving to another country never fixes you. You need to be moving to something, not running away from it.

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