To ask do a lot of bullied children then become bullies or is this a rumour

I think there are a lot of interactions where one person can feel they are bullied but the other one genuinely doesnt think they've bullied them. There will be lots of people posting here that they were bullied and none saying they were a bully.

Objectively, I can't think of any bullies I've seen as an adult watching children where the bully has an enviable life.

Insecure people can behave in unpleasant ways and is the root of a lot of bullying behaviour. Bullying can make someone more insecure, but that's as far as it goes. I think someone who has been bullied might be a lot more likely to join a pile on, relieved it's not them on the receiving end.

Looking back to 1980's, my school bullies were all kids with a bad home life - poverty, abuse, single parent struggling to cope with 6 kids or undiagnosed medical conditions like autism etc.

I never went on to bully anyone.

I don't know. I mean, I was bullied at school, so I knew what it was like, and I didn't want to inflict that on anyone else. In any case, by the time I left school, I rarely spoke to anyone outside of my family. My confidence was so low that I couldn't have scraped it off the floor, and that was before I had people spitting on me and trying to set my hair on fire, etc. By the time that happened, I'd stopped reporting anything, because nothing had changed. When I went to sixth form, I was surprised to find that I actually had friends.

However, my so-called dad came from a family were inter-generational abuse was "normal", and because I was a girl, that was inflicted on me. Needless to say, it was a huge relief to me when he died. I have, however, worried in the past that I would inflict it on my children, and I desperately don't want that to happen. I'd rather it came to an end wth my generation being the last to bear the brunt of it.

I was bullied horrendously throughout my teen years at a crap comp, verbally, physically and pyschologically. It marred my entire teen years and also my adult life as it caused severe lack of confidence, low social skills, etc. But I can honestly say I've never bullied anyone else, neither at school nor in adult life. So, no, I don't think there's much truth in your assertion. Of course "some" bullied kids will be bullies themselves, but I'd say it's a tiny proportion. I suspect it's an excuse trotted out by bullies to try to justify their crap awful behaviour.

I was bullied by my dad and I’ve thought about this alot, and to be honest I think I spoke more harshly to those around me because of this. I wouldn’t say I was a bully at all, but I think I was probably at times more cutting to those around me more than the situation called for, not because I was trying to be horrible, but that was my normal if that makes sense? As soon as I knew better, I did better, but in my early teenage years I had a sharp tongue when angered.

Some can, but I don't think many or most do. The bullied child I know who became a bully, learned from his dad- his first bully- and bullied his mum and sister.

Not in my experience.

Some might, of course, but it's not a given.

I was bullied horrendously at school and I never became a bully. Casting my mind back to other children who I know were also bullied, none of them as far as I know became bullies.