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To answer one of those ”Hi Mum, this is my new phone number” texts?

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PuzzledObserver · 19/01/2026 15:57

I didn’t actually do it - I blocked the number. I know for fact it is not from my child on the grounds that I don’t have any.

But it crossed my mind to reply with “OMG! Hope you’re OK! Is that Johnboy, or Tracey?”

And then mess with them.

My other thought was to reply with “Which of my children are you?” As they would then have to supply a name. Which would probably indicate to them that they’d been rumbled. Much more fun the first way.

Anyone done this?

I admit this isn’t really an AIBU, so I’ve removed the poll. But this struck me as the kind of forum where people might enjoy kicking this idea around.

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TheLette · 19/01/2026 16:21

My dad unfortunately fell for one of those scams. It was surprisingly clever how it all panned out. Fortunately he got his money back from the bank somehow. Good idea to remind older relatives not to fall for them, and to always check with you by speaking to you before sending any money over.

My mum got caught out this week.
We reported to fraud, we’ll see if we get her money back.

However, the fraudsters called back later in the day pretending to be the banks fraud team. Used a number that had a bank logo as a picture.

They told her to download revolut, as her accounts had been compromised, therefore she needed a new one with revolut. Thankfully she didn’t pass the auto checks with them and it failed.

They called her at 4pm, she was on the phone until 8pm, when she messaged me to say that she’d sent me £1800, could I send it back to a different sort code and account number.

I went round to her house where I then discovered she had given them a photo of the front and back of her Santander card, and driving licence.

They had activated Apple Pay on her phone and tried to get her to buy items worth £2499 with another card.

They got her to use another card in the same way.

She had fraud text messages on her phone from all her banks asking about transactions, where you have to say Y or N, she said yes on about 5 of them… meaning she had said she was trying to buy the items.

Thankfully they didn’t get any money. The fraud protections at the banks stopped all transactions.

Usually my mum is sharp, and smells a rat, but this has devastated her. She wouldn’t have known how to deal with this if I wasn’t there to help. The technological march of banks is sadly making the older generation sitting ducks. There’s no local branch to talk to.

I had heard that this scam is prevalent due to the M&S and Co-op data leaks.

I hope your dad was ok.

Politicians247UnderwearExtinguishingService · 25/01/2026 14:01

JudgeJ · 25/01/2026 10:16

Not our problem to solve, their governments know exactly who and where they are, let them deal with it. India has some massive scam factories that their government don't deal with either.

They always say on Scam Interceptors that they will alert the Indian government about what's happened - and hand over any helpful identifying info that they might have; but I'm as sure as I can be that they just say thanks and then ignore it.

The owners of the scam factories almost certainly give them a very generous kickback - they might even treat it like a genuine business and actually pay tax on their ill-gotten gains; so what's in it for their authorities to care about somebody in the UK being stolen from?

I think they have it in their head that the UK is a very rich country, along with everybody who lives here; and so whatever they can get from British people is more in the territory of 'how annoying to lose that proportion of my wealth' rather than the reality of devastating their lives and often leaving them penniless.

TheZanyScroller · 25/01/2026 13:36

Scam baiting is fun. I following Scambait channels on YT and they're experts in p*ssing off scammers. Scammersbshouldnhave their time wasted 100%. Depending if and when I get a call or message I'll engage and wind them up. Whole they're investing their worthless lives trying to scam me, they're at least leaving others alone for a while at least.

I feel for vulnerable people who aren't savvy with these scumbags. So I'm all for having some fun to get the scammer irate. Faceless wonders.

YouBelongHere · 25/01/2026 10:51

It's why it's worth talking to people about scams - my Mum received the 'hi Mum' text but given two of her kids can't text she just asked me and I confirmed it wasn't me. Then I told her if I ever was in a situation where I didn't have my phone how I'd get in touch with her and that I'd never ask her to put money in a random account.

My great aunt nearly got taken in - she only has one child so she replied to the 'hi Mum' text with 'assume this is [name]'. Luckily she caught on when they asked her for money and she asked them to confirm the name of her childhood dog and the scammer replied 'we didn't have a dog'.

Easier and better to just block and move on.

Fascinate · 25/01/2026 10:47

Replied with "which one of you ingrates is this?". Never heard another word 🤣

bellocchild · 25/01/2026 10:43

This happened to me a few years ago, before it became a well-known scam. I replied with a request for confirmation: "Of course I'll send you money if you need it, but first tell me Grandma's middle name." Worked a treat.

emmetgirl · 25/01/2026 10:41

I tried engaging with one that I got. I knew exactly what it was so wanted to have some fun. Sadly they didn’t reply.

DeanStockwell · 25/01/2026 10:35

This series is really good and covers all sorts of scams , including the one you are talking about @PuzzledObserver

www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/m002j74q?partner=uk.co.bbc&origin=share-mobile

WindyAnna · 25/01/2026 10:25

I've replied "which one?", they reply "your favourite", I reply "I don't have favourites", they reply "come on Mum who else would it be?".

I don't care that they know my number, they can tell if the message is delivered, my number is available online and what difference does it make? I get one every few months, they stop after about 3 responses. I've also replied in French & Dutch

Hotchocolate4 · 25/01/2026 10:24

i love messing with them and I think I’ve been blacklisted as I haven’t had a call or message for ages.

I love just making a really unbelievable story. I’ve been in an accident, well yes I was drinking some whiskey, in these lovely jeans that my dad had brought me for my birthday, I had this party at this pub with a pink cake with a gold candle. But anyway I crashed my car into a cow after drinking too much. Luckily the farmer was really nice but I was a bit upset that my new jeans got damaged.

i just carry on talking and talking until they hang up 😂😂

Sharptonguedwoman · 25/01/2026 10:19

BusyDenimLion · 19/01/2026 16:08

There’s an interesting Reddit where people reply to these scams. Some of quite good reads.

Yes, I liked the one where the parent was dubious and asked for the name of the family cat. There was an awkward pause then 'Mittens?' Caught out.
Excellent guess though.

JudgeJ · 25/01/2026 10:16

KimberleyClark · 19/01/2026 16:40

I listened to a quite disturbing podcast, it seems lots of these scammers are virtual prisoners in massive “scam factories” in countries like Myanmar. They get scammed themselves into going for a job in Thailand then get spirited over the border. They get physically punished if they don’t meet their quotas.

Not our problem to solve, their governments know exactly who and where they are, let them deal with it. India has some massive scam factories that their government don't deal with either.

Hoppinggreen · 25/01/2026 10:15

JudgeJ · 25/01/2026 10:12

Everyone should have a phrase to be used on genuine messages regarding emergency funds, no phrase, no response.

We have a family thing to prove its genuine
We also use it to say that someone needs help and can't speak freely.

Hoppinggreen · 25/01/2026 10:14

I had fun with one texting them all the local "gossip"

JudgeJ · 25/01/2026 10:14

ChimpanzeeThatMonkeyNews · 25/01/2026 08:16

Bless your mum.
My sister-in-law was caught out by a scammer.
He frightened her and took about £15k from her savings. Fucker.

She managed to get it all back from Lloyds, in the end, but she was in a bad place.

She felt humiliated that she was taken in by him, bless her, and (she’s a lot young than I am) I hope i was able to offer some wise counsel that she had nothing to be ashamed of.

Banks should not be encouraging scammers by giving their customers' money to those gullible enough to be scammed! They're not an insurance provider. These scams have been known for years, even before the internet, people should be more aware by now.

JudgeJ · 25/01/2026 10:12

ProfessorRedshoeblueshoe · 19/01/2026 16:01

My DH nearly fell for that. He said my DD had texted asking him for money. I said not in a million years would she ask him for ££. She wouldn't hesitate to ask me though.

Everyone should have a phrase to be used on genuine messages regarding emergency funds, no phrase, no response.

Marmite27 · 25/01/2026 10:09

I call my parents something other than mum/dad so my DM as very confused to receive a message like this. She’d have fallen for it if not for calling her something different. I got a panicked call to see what was wrong. Told her to tell all her friends to worn them.

HRTQueen · 25/01/2026 10:07

They will be receiving many witty replies
and it just another active number to them

AnneElliott · 25/01/2026 10:05

I replied to a couple asking which kid it was and when they said ‘the eldest’ or ‘your favourite’ I replied with ‘Suckers’ and then blocked them. I only have 1 DS so none of those apply!

CaptainMyCaptain · 25/01/2026 10:02

DiscoBeat · 25/01/2026 09:59

I've told my teens to mention the name of our cat if they lose their phone. It will never happen as it would seem their phones have become fused to their hands!

Great idea.

My first step would be to phone the child (adult in my case) on their usual number and check everything was Ok.

DiscoBeat · 25/01/2026 09:59

I've told my teens to mention the name of our cat if they lose their phone. It will never happen as it would seem their phones have become fused to their hands!

Lordofthewing · 25/01/2026 09:15

MIL was scammed by one of these “hi mum” scams- to the tune of around 40K. It was absolutely horrifying how good these scammers were at convincing her she was talking to her child. It really left her feeling so vulnerable, was heartbreaking to watch and the battle with the bank to retrieve the money was so difficult.
i have had this text myself but haven’t been tempted to respond.

EvieBB · 25/01/2026 09:00

It's fun messing with them.....and feels good to waste their time in retaliation but yes, it might just lead to a whole world of pain if your number gets out on an 'active' list

Nevermind17 · 25/01/2026 08:48

I get loads on WhatsApp so they can see immediately if the number is active. I got one last week saying “Hi. My SIM isn’t working so I’m using my work number”, so I replied “Do you think I’m a fucking idiot, you scamming prick?”. But it was actually my brother who was abroad on holiday. 😂

Katemax82 · 25/01/2026 08:47

I had some weird WhatsApps from someone who tried to ring me, I simply said I don't want to talk to them unless I've won raffle house and they are contacting me to tell me