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Help me understand DH

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Advicew · 19/01/2026 11:28

He doesn’t like anyone coming over to the house so I don’t invite people over. My adult niece moved 20 minutes from us so on the weekend I met up with her outside of the house and took my children with me. I asked DH if he wanted to come and he replied really sulkily “why would I? I don’t want to see her”. There’s no backstory or any drama with my family, been married 16 years and she’s 22 do he’s known her since she was very young.

I came back from the outing to be met with him being drunk. He went to sleep as soon as we arrived which was 8pm! He never sleeps that early. When I went to the room and asked if he was body he told me to go fuck myself. Next day was Sunday and he left the house really early without telling me where’s he’s going. He gets bank again really drunk. He’s telling me to leave his house and I’m up my family ass! My son was crying as last weekend we visited DH’s aunty (I happily went and had a good time and no dramas like he does) but DS aged 7 left his watch in the Aunts house.dh was supposed to get the watch on Sunday but obviously didn’t. Ds was really upset going up school with a another week of no watch

sorry for any typos I’m in work so quickly typing

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SpringsOnTheWay · 19/01/2026 11:31

He’s just not bothered about you, or seemingly his children is he?

it sounds like he’s checked out and is pushing for you to leave.

PinkyFlamingo · 19/01/2026 11:30

What on earth do you need to "understand" apart from the fact he's a complete prick?

Largestlegocollectionever · 19/01/2026 11:29

He’s an arse. LTB?

HappyNewTaxYear · 19/01/2026 11:29

Er

what is there to understand?

Selfish arsehole with a drink problem?

WhyamIinahandcartandwherearewegoing · 19/01/2026 11:29

He’s an arsehole. Sorry you are having to deal with this.