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Are we dating the same guy?

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captainturbet · 19/01/2026 09:39

Been dating a man for a month or so, early days. But been speaking for a few months. He asked if we could be exclusive, which I agreed to.

My friend has sent me a screenshot- his picture has popped up on our local “Are we dating the same guy?” Facebook page. Someone stating they are meeting him next week and asking about him…

He swears he is only dating me, and this must be someone he has previously dated, bitter and out for revenge.

He does have a lot of women commenting on his Facebook posts, being cheeky/calling attractive etc.

AIBU to keep dating him? I’ve no experience with these groups.

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Sesame2011 · 19/01/2026 09:47

I'm on my local Are We Dating The Same Guy page and if he has been posted on there with information (dating multiple people, is abusive etc) then I would be running a mile.

Can you join the group and see/ask for yourself? The groups tend to be run quite well, as in no men allowed, and a space for women to try and check out who they might be involved with.

captainturbet · 19/01/2026 09:43

He says it’s someone trying to cause trouble for him/jealous etc. I just wondered if anyone in these groups knows if they are used for this purpose, or generally legit.

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Purlant · 19/01/2026 09:41

Sounds too much hassle/drama. Things shouldn’t be this difficult after a few weeks. Even if this was true, people aren’t normally ‘bitter and out for revenge’ after a harmonious break up where neither party did anything wrong.

Sartre · 19/01/2026 09:40

Never heard of the groups but yeah, if someone has posted this it stands to reason he’s still using apps and looking for new dates.