I don’t plan to see my ILs again - no big fall out, just LC for a few years and I have no desire to see them again for various reasons.
My issue is, how do I tell my DD that I won’t be visiting them again without affecting the relationship between DD and DGP? I know it’s not my issue that they’re arseholes, but what do I say?
DD is 10, very close with me, not close with my ILs/her DGP, as in they don’t live close by and she doesn’t have a close relationship with them. She’s started to notice that they’re kind of dismissive of me, fairly rude to me at times; I’ve just batted it off so far as though I’ve not noticed. I don’t want to say “I know, they’re bloody rude aren’t they?!” DH knows what I think of them and is LC himself because of the way they are, but they’re still his parents; they’re not evil, they’re just not great. DH can visit them without me and he’ll be fine about that, but really DD should go at least occasionally, but she’ll want to know why I’m not going because that would be unusual, and she’d see it as an excuse for her to not have to go either. I wouldn’t force her to go of course, but I don’t want her to be too influenced by my lack of wanting to see them and therefore forfeit a relationship with her DGP (and her aunt, uncle and cousins who she’d also only ever see when visiting DGP)
Any advice welcomed