Has lack of Premier Inn breakfast ruined the weekend?

I despair at the responses on this thread. She had an idea of going out for breakfast, all agreed, no one argued or even asked to stay and eat in the hotel.

It didn't work out as the cafe was busy and all blame was put on her. At any point her husband could have said let's go back to the PI. He didn't, ate his breakfast and sulked for the day!!

Has to be a woman in the wrong for some people.

Is this the mumsnet equivalent of godwins law?

I’ve always sort of wondered and this thread seems as good as one to ask in.

Sometimes sulking is hurting. The person who has caused the hurt often likes to call it sulking though.

Grown adults sulking is pathetic.

You don't seem to have had anything in the independent cafe that you couldn't have got at the Premier Inn, apart from the coffee being nicer. They probably bought those pastries in Aldi and made the porridge from a packet of Scott's Oats.

I think if my husband and kids had fancied a PI breakfast, I would have let them have it-especially as you weren't all feeling A1 and it is the middle of a cold January.

You could have tottled off on your own for breakfast and met them back at the hotel. They could have finished the packing while waiting for you.

Was it worth the upset for a nicer coffee. By the way, who pointed out the Pret and why did you knock that suggestion back?

Your husband sounds disappointed-he had been looking forward to something and he agreed to something else because he was led to believe it would be so much better and it wasn't.

He now says you're hard work, you make all the decisions. Well, that hasn't just come off the back of this breakfast alone has it? This incident seems to have crystallised what he might think is a pattern of behaviour for you.

Next time, let the poor sod have his breakfast and you have yours.

I’m on team DH here - you turned down an all you can eat and drink PI breakfast for an independent cafe. I’d be more than sulking so would DC, the breakfast is the best part of the stay. He’s well within his rights to be sulking.

Gorging? Ok. The OP's husband clearly has a healthy appetite if you and the OP think that he should make do with a nice pastry and a coffee, the price of the breakfast is the least of the DH's problems...

We prefer give and take in my family.

It just sounds like an ordinary breakfast at home.... I think what a lot of people consider more of a treat is a full English or cooked options like eggs, bacon sandwiches etc.
Toast/porridge/pastries sounds like what's on offer at a chain coffee shop in the mornings that doesn't really do cooked food. I certainly wouldn't think of toast and spreads or porridge as 'nice breakfast out' type options!

I’m not really sure what you want from this thread OP.

Every time someone has an opinion that’s different than yours you seem to get quite cross.

Whether we all think that a fairly simple breakfast of toast, porridge, and pastries is better than a fill-your-boots PI buffet is neither here nor there really. Some will agree, some won’t - but it’s irrelevant.

The issue is when choosing where to eat whether you considered your family’s views (which honestly, I’m not sure about having seen your comments on this thread!) and whether your DH is reasonable to have a full-day sulk about not getting what he really wanted.

The hot food is only cooked to order in some PI - it depends on the location ( and possibly how busy a particular place is )

You say that the family discussed the plan and agreed to go out to the cafe, he says you always get to choose where to go. I'd want to get to the bottom of this - does he believe that he advocated for the PI breakfast but no one heard or listened? Regardless, sulking only made the situation worse. Did he even suggest going BACK to the PI at any point? He says you are difficult but he sounds difficult himself.

Yes I stay at a PI sometimes and the hot food is always cooked to order, they also make very nice bowl of porridge if you ask them!

I normally love a nice independent café but I would have been well pissed off if I'd had to trail around hungry while the op turned places down, especially if we could have had a perfectly OK PI breakfast.

Your H agreed to the plan and when it ended up being less than perfect because of the queue, regretted it. Rather than just accept that it wasn't the best call after all, he decided to abdicate all responsibility, blame you completely, and give himself an excuse to vent his frustration by being unpleasant to you. Very poor behaviour. I hope for your sake it's a one off and not the norm for him.

I think I’d just take him at his word that it ruined his day, to be honest. The mumsnet opinion on PI breakfasts doesn’t matter.

If I was hungry, I’d think it was awkward of DH to suggest we went out to eat to give the morning purpose, not having booked a cafe, and then reject Pret. If you didn’t want a purposeless walk, you could have headed straight home. If you wanted more time in London, it wasn’t purposeless. I know your family agreed, but it doesn’t sound like they really wanted to, or your DH at least.

It sounds like the breakfast you had was nice enough, at the very least, albeit not as filling, but the prelude ruined it for your DH.

Whether he should sulk all day is a different topic… does he do that often? Has he always?

Perhaps you were in the wrong OP?

You might not be, but then again you might

People are answering your question, which is were you unreasonable.

I don't think they are high end breakfasts but they suit us very well for what we want

If we use a PI it's usually been because we've been to a gig in London and are staying over. That means a late night (their bars stay open too ime) and we usually want to get up, have breakfast and head for home

We've found them perfectly fine for that. Neither of us want to traipse round looking for somewhere else

Others will have different scenarios of course

Cheap, cheerful and plentiful. We normally keep a couple of pastries for a snacks later in the morning. We would also rather save the money or use if for activities or a nice lunch at a point in the day when everyone is fully awake/ alert.

Ok, £10 then. Still preferable to Premier Inn!

Actually, you can get a pain au chocolat and a coffee for about £7 in some places in central London.

To be fair the last thing id want to do in the morning is walk out the door past a perfectly good breakfast to go on a treasure hunt for food.

The last London PI I stayed in was awful. Even worse was the food served up in the restaurant which made me unwell. I think you dodged a bullet personally.

A nice pastry and a coffee for £7 in central London!😂

We are all making assumptions here, which is inevitable with a one-sided account. But it’s just as much an assumption to say the OP is someone who listens and doesn’t push their own agenda.

Plenty of people, including partners and kids, will go along with one parent / partner/ DC simply because the cost of pushing back is worth it. That doesn’t mean they were genuinely happy with the decision. It also explains why frustration sometimes comes out later, when someone finally loses their cool and ends up asking AIBU from the other side of the argument which you often seen here on MN.

In an ideal world we would hear the DH’s perspective. All we have OP's - they have already started rolling back parts of the story under the guise of 'clarifying'. For me that raises questions as to how this has been presented.