Has lack of Premier Inn breakfast ruined the weekend?

I think if it was up to him we would just all sit all day and not go anywhere or do anything.

Finally what really needs unpicking.

The thing on MN is that posters such as yourself will come on and make a thread about something like this that in isolation isn’t a massive deal (though it would make me very angry) and could possibly be put down to him being tired etc. - But you just know this isn’t an isolated incident and you’re just getting pissed off in general with his childish, unreasonable behaviour.

Women usually come and post on here when they’re getting sick and tired of living in the shadow of their h’s mood swings and bullying behaviour and are starting to question if it’s normal (it’s not).

Its not really the point but pastries and coffee are just a bog standard breakfast to me, nothing exciting, but a fry up isnt something we ever have unless we're out

The problem is to get a really nice one, is around 20 quid these days.

Anyway not really sure waht OP wanted out of the thread. Probably to bash her husband. So ok, its all his fault.

Your posts are very I focused. I thought it would be nice. I didn’t want Pret. I thought it worked out fine. You are putting yourself in the role of deciding what everyone would 'love', even though it clearly didn’t work out that way. Do you know how your teens felt? Would they tell you honestly if asked? They might be fed up with both of you.

Going along with something in the moment isn’t the same as actually wanting it, especially when one person is driving the decisions. Your DH saying he’s fed up with you making all the decisions suggests this isn’t just about one breakfast, but a wider pattern.

You might not see it like that, but from the outside it doesn’t come across as a joint decision. It looks like you deciding, and everyone else having to live with it when it doesn’t work.

You and your DH need a proper conversation about what’s reasonable. Maybe he’s never clearly voiced his frustration before, in which case you wouldn’t know. You are not a mind reader. Or maybe he has raised it and you’ve dismissed it. Either way, unless you sit down and work through this together, neither of you will really know where the problem lies.

Christ almighty I’m glad I’m not married to a man who strops about not getting his shitty all you can eat Premier Inn breakfast and ruins what should’ve been a nice weekend.

You were in London, you wanted to explore a bit and have a nice brekkie before you left - perfectly normal, reasonable behaviour and he’s having a mantrum and acting like a cunt in front of your dc’s.

YANBU OP.

PI breakfasts are fine, but it’s generally much nicer to go somewhere a bit more individual. Your DH is a big baby 😂

We have this sometimes when we are away more typically at dinner time, we head off out with a couple of locations in mind, we mooch a bit to find the best choice and any indecision can make one of the four of us hangry. However it's ridiculous that it's still an issue for your husband several hours later. Having eaten many Premier Inn breakfasts they genuinely are nothing special, it's not like your husband missed out a gourmet breakfast.

You haven’t said this OP but I bet you’ve been having the PI breakfasts for years and I understand that when the kids are free because it’s good value and you can eat a lot and it saves you a bit of money later. I bet now the kids are older you just want something a little nicer and that’s not wrong. I think some people on here just want to bring women down so I wouldn’t even acknowledge them. Of course he shouldn’t have been that grumpy over a flipping breakfast. I think a lot if men do this btw. They’re happy to do what you say you want and don’t offer any alternatives or voice their opinion but the moment anything goes wrong they blame you. Meanwhile when anything they suggest goes wrong we’re smoothing it all over and saying not to worry.

Wtf!

I mean I love a full English if I get chance, but your DHs reaction is Ott. It's def not worth bringing the world down over it. And to then rant at you, tell him to do one. What an AH.

Another first world problem.

I feel like I’m understanding the DH’s position more as this thread goes on 😬

I've only stayed in a couple of Premier Inns, but in both venues breakfast was not included in the room rate, and in fact was (I thought) quite an expensive add-on. (Also was not freshly cooked in either place.)

Omg is your husband 5 ?

Is the man baby still sulking OP?

Ok @Liesmorelies . He is completely and absolutely in the wrong and you are completely and absolutely in the right.

Well you need to say this to him not posters on here - his sulking was not helpful.

Also that you find him being so passive annoying - that you are putting in all the effort in and are starting to resent that.

You also need to listen to his reponses -as I wonder like many if he and the kids have a very different view of what happened or if they were all fine and he just behaving poorly.

I often get flack from the kids when my DH is pushing ahead with a plan - sometime not unreasonably - they're not happy about and can feel very stuck between them and him - and often won't tell him - so I see if that was what was happening here or if was all his foul out the blue mood.

There is no need to Jesus Christ me, there really isn't @Liesmorelies I wonder if your husband has heard a few of those today.

I have been in a situation with an overbearing personality.

Any decisions or suggestions I made were generally poo pooed. So, I stopped making suggestions and decisions and eventually the overbearing personality told me how passive I was and that he had to take responsibility for everything.

So, he made me into someone who realised that my suggestions would almost always be over-ruled and then blamed for becoming like that, moaning how everything fell to him, he was tired of it etc -when he was the author of it.

That is why I asked you who pointed out the Pret and why you felt it was perfectly ok to over rule them. It isn't.

One small incident , the straw that broke the camel's bank, crystallised the whole thing for me and I packed up my bag and walked. I was young and had no ties but I wonder how it must feel for others who are tied down.

12 pages of dissecting breakfast choices and grumpy people. Yes it was annoying, but only if everyone who was there is still grumbling about it in 2 days time. Regardless there will be another 708 messages on here about the breakfast of broken dreams, long after dh and dd's have forgotten about it...we shall still be analysing bake beans and the value of the pound. OP has been called, selfish, shallow and all manner of things, DH has been called selfish, shallow and all manner of things. OP just wanted a nice morning, DH just wanted a nice morning, it went a bit awry, no one kicked a kitten.

Everyone was hungry, you wanted to eat somewhere nicer and make an event of breakfast. They wanted to eat breakfast, you’d not booked anywhere, so this was probably about you wanting the nicer experience and they just wanted to eat.

I think for future, think if you want to do a nice breakfast you need to book somewhere. If you just want to grab something, then the hotel you are staying in or a chan like pret.

Sorry but this dos read like you made grabbing a bit of breakfast a drama when you said yourself, everyone was unwell and didn’t want to go sightseeing.

Everyone was a bit poorly and tired. Things did not work out as expected (as is often the case) People's tolerance was probably not what it could have been due to the above Real life is not the movies and sometimes things go to shit. On reflection it would have been easier to eat at the Premier Inn (despite half of mumsnet deciding this poison, rather than a fairly priced and standard hotel breakfast). This is life and yes you will be sad paying for an over priced breakfast that did not live up to its promise, you will all move on. People get snappy, and 'I told you so'. The end

This ^

Pathetic sulky behaviour from a grown man who couldn’t rally himself let alone ‘the troops’

Sorry OP must be exhausting managing* the emotions of a toddler man 💐💐💐💐💐

Yes I’m interested in what you think happened here OP given that you think every explanation put forward is wrong.

Either it’s probably one of the reasons here or your DH is a massively unreasonable ogre who enjoys making you miserable for no reason and in fact had a perfectly nice morning and enjoyable breakfast.

Which do you think is correct?

People are just trolling, OP. That’s why they keep making up bizarre details that aren’t true and going off on tangents about them. They’re just trying to get a rise out of you and will keep doing it as long as you respond to them.

It’s unreasonable for your husband to be sulking like this. If he was really that fussed about having the PI breakfast he could have gone down and done that while the rest of you were getting ready and then just had a coffee or something when you found a cafe. It’s fine for him to be a bit disappointed that you couldn’t find a place that offered a cooked breakfast but not fine to sulk. And not fine to keep being stroppy about it when it’s over and done and you’re home now. It’s also unreasonable for him to complain about you making decisions when he always opts out of doing it.