Has lack of Premier Inn breakfast ruined the weekend?

Honestly OP I’d just ignore 90% of the bullshit on here. For a start, anyone who describes an adult as “hangry” can be safely ignored. An adult who can’t control their temper if breakfast is delayed by an hour is genuinely in need of medical help. Same goes for the “I don’t function without coffee” folks. If it’s hyperbole it’s funny, but if literally true they’re addicted to caffeine and nobody should change their lives based on an addict’s demands.

A crazy amount of women just can’t help but give in to the ridiculously sexist notion that the wife&mother of the family should be prepared to sacrifice every ounce of their own happiness for the greater good of the family. And they never expect the husband&father to make such sacrifices. I’d bet good money that if your DS had been on your side and DD wanted the premier inn breakfast a good number of responses would be the opposite.

Ultimately though, it sounds like you and DH are not communicating well at all. It isn’t fair that you are left to make a plans and then get moaned at. He may be a dick, or he may have fallen in to the lazy habit of expecting you to magically make everything work. You need to talk.

It’s been ruined by a grown man sulking like a child because his mum wife didn’t read his mind and have his breakfast ready?

I feel like there’s a new generation of women on MN who are completely clueless about abusive men and their behaviours. They seem to have a very low bar and think everyone else should too.

Or is it the MRA’s infiltrating?

You’d probably get better advice on the Relationships board OP.

What the fuck is this thread?

If OP’s husband wanted to eat at the PI, he could have said so.

If he’d wanted a guaranteed table at the cafe, he could have booked.

He’s not a child. Sulking because your wife hasn’t sorted your breakfast out? Pathetic.

You're right @Yellow544 there will always be those who lack the discretion to read between the lines, even though in this case reading glasses would not be needed.

Anyway, tomorrow is another day and hopefully it will be resolved in the household. Night night!

Also a good number of people have also seen he didn't get his own way so made a big fuss and spoilt the rest of their trip

Ok you’re bound and determined to be in the right here so I’ll bow out now.

However your posts are starting to come across to me as manipulative. And don’t bother disagreeing because I’m sure I’ve got it all wrong and there’s another reason why you’re not wrong.

Hopefully you enjoyed the show and spending time with your family it’s a shame that it’s all been ruined by breakfast and 10+ hours later you’re still upset about it.

I think a good number on the thread have been able to see that there is more to it than him not getting his breakfast.

Well, on the plus side, he's sick of you making all the decisions so you csn now hand off the mental load to him and let him organise your lives from now on. No more cooking for him "I didn't want to decide what you ate" no more washing "I didn't want to decide if the clothes on the floor were clean or dirty, or choose what laundry detergent to use, or choose howmdirt your clothes we're and what wash to put them on, or choose whether the things in your pickets want washing too." No organising the holiday "I didn't want to choose for you." Mate the decisions you make on his.behalf day in day out so that he never needs to worry which brand of soap gives him a rash on his tushy. Stop. He hates you making decisions for him so leave him to it.

Now I may be wrong about him being a big old.man child but competent men don't often throw tantrums.

"Hurting" because he didn't get to eat the breakfast he wanted? How dramatic. Sometimes. Sulking is just sulking

I've been there before. XH would suggest breakfast somewhere and make me wander around with nothing in my stomach, and I felt like killing him! I've learnt it now and I would NEVER leave the hotel with no breakfast or at least a cookie. I either buy something to eat in the room before I leave, or no deal. You were very UR, it would enrage me.

I think there are two types of people in life - those who would really prefer having a Premier Inn breakfast in a place like London ignoring the hundreds of amazing places to explore. And those who would not be happy with that… I wouldn’t want to be married to the former particularly if they sulked when they didn’t get their way. Very unattractive

And his reaction when you told him to unpack and pick up the pets?

They were in a place with probably 100 cafes within walking distance, it’s not like she made him “traipse” to a barren wasteland with no food. Totally fine to wing it for breakfast in an area like Spitalfields.

He sounds awful. He agreed with the plan and only when it went wrong (which happens) he sulked the whole rest of the trip? Fuck that.

Also, if you’re in a place like London and like a decent coffee, it’s actually so basic to just stay in your Premier Inn for a breakfast you can get anywhere… I would always prefer to go and seek out a decent coffee and see some more places as a bonus.

Anyway, your DH sounds very boring and twattish and it’s a LTB from me! Find someone who will go and adventure with you!

OK, so next steps then OP?

Is this how you want to spend the rest of your life, living with a sulker who just wants to vegetate on the sofa?

I can’t believe some of these replies.

The minutiae details of the breakfast are neither here nor there- your DH is being a grumpy arse.

Maybe if he’d had a sulk then acknowledged it and apologised because he was hangry, or because the plans were changed, that would be one thing- everyone gets annoyed sometimes. But sulking all day on a family trip about a sodding breakfast? He needs to grow up.

My husband is very precious about breakfast, he literally cannot function for the day until he has had a cup of tea and a proper breakfast. He is totally set in his ways when it comes to breakfast. He’s pretty low maintenance generally but I would never wing it for breakfast, Premier Inn or a specific planned and booked place for a happy marriage here.

I really feel for you. I had a sulker ex and it's horrible. It's actually abusive.

Disagree.

How can anyone say that the food at a Premier Inn is the same as a decent cafe? Sourdough vs cheapo bread, proper butter pastries vs el shitto veg oil, decent coffee... no comparison..

So wait…he’s over it now and you’re still arguing it in this thread?!

I wouldn't have skipped the PI breakfast purely because of the convenience of it and knowing it works out as good value as we don't eat anything else other than a snack that day. Unless I knew we were definitely going to go to the cafe I had seen (and potentially booked) then I wouldn't want to be wandering round on the off chance of finding somewhere. I think we would all be hangry in my household!