Has lack of Premier Inn breakfast ruined the weekend?

One of my mum’s worst qualities would be dragging us around looking for somewhere to eat, with the pretence of her being easy breezy while also turning down every single place we would walk past. We would always end up in either the first place she refused or in some expensive chi chi place where the food was no better than anywhere else.
It was absolutely infuriating and selfish.

Yep. If I was tired and hungry and knew I could get a breakfast I'd enjoy (and the OP's husband clearly does like a PI breakfast) and DH hauled me off round a strange place pithering over finding somewhere independent, or with a nice aesthetic, or 'interesting', I'd be quite cross.

I have a friend who has FOMO/decision paralysis when it comes to picking somewhere to eat on trips, but also has a long list of food intolerances. Does this mean she actually finds out whether cafes or restaurants in places we visit can accommodate those intolerances? No. She just dithers for hours until someone hangry and thoroughly done with her nonsense says 'right, I've googled it, this cafe does something you can eat, we're going there'. Maddening. Not the same situation I know, just having a related rant while I'm on the subject 😁

Oh I hate the ones who won’t make suggestions or contribute anything until the can moan - he had a chance to say “I’d rather eat here “ and he didn’t so it’s his fault

We have done PI breakfasts and done what you have done.

It totally depends where we are staying and why. Generally speaking, if we are on a city break we won't bother with the breakfast because we want to explore and know we will be able to find something in town. On the other hand, we are prefectly happy to have the breakfast there if that is more convenient. Especially if other food outlets are few and far between, or we are going somewhere we know will only have overpriced food.

Whether YABU depends on what everyone else wanted - but DH is clearly going too far to say the weekend is ruined.

Don’t think Premier Inn breakfast is included in the room price, it’s an optional extra that you have to pay for - £9.99 last time I did it but that was a few years back.

Only during COVID. I've stayed in multiple and it's been a buffet style breakfast.

I'm not sure why you'd choose the trip when everyone's ill, tired and rundown to have everyone traipsing around looking for a special breakfast when you usually tale the convieoent option.

Also, IME, little independent cafe doesn't automatically mean lovely. It can do, but often it can also mean overpriced, poor service and not particularly clean, so unless you have something specific in mind, not necessarily better than PI.

Because a hotel breakfast is convenient, often included in the price and doesn't involve traipsing round trying to find somewhere that's open when you're not feeling 100%.

I think I’m with your DH here. Their breakfasts would usually keep you full for lunch and I like the range and unlimited coffees. I would not be happy traipsing round hangry and finding queues for cafes where you don’t know if it’s any good. You also probably paid more for less food, which would be annoying, but that’s just the northerner in me.
Feed people then go sightseeing.
I get you wanted the cultural experience but the rest of your family were probably just hungry. Think of them and not just yourself. He’s right to feel railroaded.

I think it was just unfortunate (but pretty predictable) the cafe you had wanted to go to had a queue.

I think given you've all been unwell & are tired, late night etc, id have just had the PI breakfast & coffee then gone for a walk around the market picking up some nice things to take home. Had a coffee at one of the nice looking cafes etc

he was a sulky twat who said some unkind things, I hope he apologises.

your 'kids' sound great!

what show did you see?

Arguing over the quality of the premier inn food is pointless since I think we can assume OP and her family like it perfectly fine (given they keep going back).

It still seems daft to me to walk away from food on site to go looking for something else which isn't a given. Massively overcomplicating things especially when you're all tired and run down.

I've never actually had it TBF. I've heard not so great things but if I stayed there I would eat it if it was included in the price. I'm not that fussy and just never really stay in hotels.

It wasn’t perfect because I would have been starving but as a plan it was fine and a bit different and if he didn’t like the plan he should have spoken up and then as a family you could decide / vote otherwise he agreed and it just didn’t quite work out

Not fancying a Premier Inn breakfast or a Pret one isn't being fussy! They are both pretty poor quality and not something I'd see as part of an enjoyable weekend away (unless I was taking toddlers and needed somewhere to cater to their tastes and where it's not a problem if they get the table sticky with jammy fingers.

OP, you weren't unreasonable to try and have a nice breakfast somewhere more interesting and tasty before going home. Id appreciate you suggesting it, rather than just going along with the easy (lazy) option of a Premier Inn breakfast. Why anyone would want a Premier Inn or Pret breakfast if they were staying in East London for a weekend, I can't imagine.

Next time leave him to his basic breakfast and go somewhere nice.

A man sulking over not having a feast on a premier inn breakfast would give me the ick for life. Ewww

I think everyone is at fault here. He obviously had his heart set on PI, which would have been plentiful but also immediate… you insisted on delaying, for something that was mediocre at best?

he shouldn’t sulk and you should not be precious

But they do usually have a PI breakfast, so OP isn't doing this this the time. And they all agreed on the cafe, which her dH rejected when they got there.

And would you really create an atmosphere all day about it?

Sorry OP I’m with your DH on this one. I love a PI breakfast every so often!

If he was looking forward to a fry up and that wasn’t an option then he probably would be disappointed especially if finding an alternative took ages. Porridge and pastries are not the same

PI breakfast is gorgeous

I love a PI breakfast. They have lovely porridge and lovely sausages and the eggs can be cooked to order. We stay in PI quite often and the breakfast is not to be missed.

Conversely, I have never enjoyed an evening meal there. They are always rubbish and I begrudge having to eat dinner there, even if it's the only option available to us at the time. So that's my rule. Dinner somewhere else, but the PI breakfast is a must.

Had you paid for the PI breakfast as part of the booking? If not then YANBU and sulky DH needs to grow up.

This! My DH is you in this scenario Op & it does my head in. Despite not knowing an area, will assume there will be places to eat and so keeps us walking until we find somewhere he likes, whereas me & the kids just want the hotel breakfast & to get on with our day!

He is a lot better now (after years of either me or the kids stropping!) and will research an area before blindly saying no to good food & walking us off into the unknown!