Has lack of Premier Inn breakfast ruined the weekend?

If my husband had his heart set on a nice cafe for breakfast, I’d go along with it.

After an hour of walking aimlessly around, I’d be furious.

She should have planned it and booked something properly.

I want to agree with you but sometimes practicality and that sense of 'better the devil you know' trumps finding that exciting little hipster bagel cafe down the back of some Dalston side street. As the OP pointed out, they tried that, there was a massive queue and it didn't work out.

Also when there is four or more of you it can take ages finding somewhere everyone agrees on. Who doesn't love a decent, self service, all you can eat buffet breakfast with loads of choice from light, fresh and healthy to gigantic builder's fry up?

Obviously it's not just the breakfast that is bothering him, but on this occasion, if this is exactly how it unfolded then he yes is BU.

Yes he could or should have done perhaps

And then she says 'no I dont want that', like she did with Pret

And he says, well I do. And she says well I dont

And he uses his words to insist that he will have the PI breakfast as suggested

And she either goes along with that or she goes out traipsing around to find a nice little cafe

Cue the next thread 'husband refused to come out for breakfast with us', I was forced to have a crap PI breakfast and had to endure UPF supermarket bread - shudders.

Posters would be falling over themselves to say he was controlling, forceful, selfish, hes already been accused of 'wanting to stuff his face rather than spend time with his family'.

Never had a bad premier inn breakfast - the tomato may not be vine ripened and the sausages not Lincolnshire but it’s not that dreadful- especially if you do not know an area and need food before exploring plus the price is set.

Everyone in my family (especially the blokes with good metabolisms) love a premier inn breakfast. I think if he's been unreasonable depends on what his reaction was when you first suggested skipping the PI brekkie and going to find a cafe. If it was full agreement that he was happy then he's got no reason to complain. If he was unhappy and really wanted the PI breakfast but begrudgingly went along with your plan then I can see why he was grumpy. PI is easy and feels like holiday to me...wandering around in a strange place that you don't know, on a Sunday morning, while everyone gets hangry is no fun at all. I think if I'd gone along with the plan against my better judgement I'd also be pissed off at the long queue and the traipsing and the extra cost for a bit of porridge (do you know PI always make porridge for you on request? My son nearly always has hot porridge with honey and jam, a heated croissant with butter, some yoghurt and fruit, and a hot chocolate)

We had a PI breakfast for the first and last time last week - it was absolutely awful! The hash browns could have been used to build a wall, tasteless mushrooms, solid scrambled egg, insipid sausages - what a waste of money!

I’ve voted YABU.

Your DH and DCs love PI breakfasts. (Mine are the same but I can take or leave them but they are too good value to skip) The breakfast was something they were likely looking forward to + was excellent value (portion and money). Instead, you decide at short notice to switch to a 'naice' café, which they weren’t expecting. Did you not have the opportunity to go somewhere 'naice'/trendy the day before?

They accommodate you, only to find a queue, meaning breakfast clearly isn’t happening any time soon. You then spend ages hunting for the prefect alternative. Your clearly hangry DH and the DCs end up paying more for smaller portions of food they didn’t would not have chosen. The only person who actually got what they wanted here was you.

To top it off, you double down and moan why didn't he just get a Greggs after he traipsed around half of London for an expensive micro breakfast that he didn't want. I’m not surprised he’s annoyed. From the outside, this doesn’t read as a one off, you sound like someone who prioritises their own preferences and expects everyone else to adjust around them.

Indeed. It seems a bit irrelevant to me. The important part is, he agreed to go elsewhere then threw a tantrum when that didn't immediately work out and has carried that on for the rest of the day. It's absolutely ridiculous behaviour over a breakfast!

Everyone agreed to this so I'm not seeing how you are being unreasonable.

Most people have said his behaviour is unacceptable tbf, they're just also saying that they kind of "get it" as well.

Have I missed why you didn't all go for PI breakfast then a walk @Liesmorelies?

PI breakfasts are shit since they stopped doing the cooked breakfast buffet style. I prefer to choose my own.

Lots of replies along the lines of

"My kids love a PI breakfast"
"I'm somebody who needs to eat as soon as I wake up"
"I'd have wanted the PI breakfast" if I was ill and tired"

... You're all grown ups with working communication systems, yes? Then you would have used them at the appropriate time to say "Actually darling, I was really fancying the PI breakfast, can we stick to that? We can always get lunch or a coffee and cake out if you like?"

Use your damn words. Like he didn't. It's not hard!

I know for a fact that I would not have eaten breakfast at a Premier Inn.
The reason I am so sure is that about 10 years ago we stayed at a Premier Inn at a town we visit regularly. We usually stay in a Travelodge as we only need a bed and a shower.
However, breakfast was included in the deal so we tried it. Oh it was awful, really dreadful!
So much so that every time we drive past the building one of says, “Oh, the bread!” in tones of horror!

We are easily amused in our family 😉☺️

I love a PI breakfast - I'd only give it a swerve if I was hitting the road early and stopping somewhere on route, or had booked somewhere really decent as an alternative.

Your DH was a bit grumpy and childish, but I can kind of see why tbh!

YANBU OP.

I’m amazed how these stroppy men get any woman to give them a second glance. If your dh wanted a bog standard lukewarm PI overpriced mass-catering breakfast, he could’ve had it. The comment about it doing for lunch as well is an absolute ick, tight wad!

The whole point of going away is to experience something different. If he just wants to stuff his face at an unimaginative all you can eat let him. Next time you and the dc can go away for a change of scene and leave the sulker at home.

Just sounds like you were all tired, ill and hungry.

Draw a line under it and move on.

why - when visiting London - would you not enjoy a walk and cafe?

Because they were all unwell and tired. It's in the fourth line of the original post.

I'd stick with the safe bet of the hotel breakfast over the gamble of traipsing around hangrily in the hopes of finding something better.

Breakfast is an awkward meal as service changes at varying times too.

I've been stung on that one too many times with family and groups.

wierd responses here

He is a total brat to moan about a treat breakfast out. Loads of people would see that as a lovely morning

why - when visiting London - would you not enjoy a walk and cafe?

he sounds spoilt and childish tbh - a totally minor thing to complain about and allow to spoil a nice outing.

They were all a bit under the weather and planned (originally) to just have breakfast and go home which seems pretty sensible to me with two DC.

Because my kids have to be fed before 8am or there’s hell to pay. So we stay in premier inn, have a big early breakfast and then head out for a long day in London with happy, full kids.

I love a PI breakfast and would be disappointed if I was denied it so I have voted YABU.
I also need to eat pretty quick upon waking so I always book a hotel breakfast precisely to avoid the situation you have had wandering around looking for somewhere to eat.

I’m someone who needs to eat pretty quickly in the morning, there’s no way I could be traipsing around trying to find somewhere to eat. I’ve not stayed in a premier inn for a long time so can’t comment on the quality of the breakfast, but I’m sure I’d enjoy a sausage sandwich and a pastry. If it’s included in the price of the hotel I’d definitely see it as “can go out and buy a fancy pastry any time, this is an opportunity for a free breakfast.”
So up to now I’m in your husbands camp. HOWEVER. More fool your husband for just going along with your suggestions by THEN complaining about it. It’s his own fault. If my partner and I were at a hotel where we had breakfast included and he suggested going out for breakfast. Knowing my body and knowing what I want, I’d say to him “right im starving already and the breakfast here is free, I’m gonna pop down for ten mins whilst you finish packing and I’ll grab myself some cereal and a bacon butty, then we can head out together and I’ll get a nice hot choc whilst you’re having your posh pastries.”