Has lack of Premier Inn breakfast ruined the weekend?

Wandering round for dinner and drinks/bars/bistro i the evening is great

Breakfast not so much, the timings are all wrong in any case, some dont start until a certain time, some are just finishing, some wont serve this or that very early in the morning. I find breakfast a gamble.

When you're not starving, they're great.

I don't recall arguing that PI breakfasts are special, I've never had one so I'd be surprised if I did!

I don't think so. Hot food sitting around is hardly ever that great

Did you book the show and hotel OP? If so then your husband should just be grateful and stop being so moody!

The walking around looking for somewhere for simple breakfast would piss me off too. Premier Inn is perfectly fine, unless there is something particular you want.

I've had PI breakfasts a couple of times and not been very impressed. The hot food is not that good

Ignore your Dh, don't let his childish strop ruin what sounds like a lovely visit to London.

Saw Stranger Things in the summer and I'd say it was even better now the Netflix show has finished up.

I'd imagine you'll have to wait a while for your husband to organise the next event or trip, that he won't let you get to decide everything.

Nothing worse than someone being ungrateful when you've gone to a lot of trouble planning for everyone.

Those wandering times finding a great place are part of the magic of a holiday though...surely noone is arguing Premier Inn is special..you could stay local and get that

I don't find Premier Inn breakfasts good value for money so might well have done similar re finding a cafe but only after having eaten a flapjack / slice of cheese / croissant that I'd have brought with me.

I'd be pretty cross at being expected to walk for 20 mins before potentially being able to have breakfast. And getting very cross indeed if that turned into walking around an unknown area searching for somewhere to eat.

So, I think your partner may have been getting grumpy in part because he was hungry and needed to eat now and breakfast kept getting further away.

Of course he's a grown up and should have the self awareness to know if hangryness is a thing for him so he can communicate 'no, I need to eat before we go out' and/or bring his own snacks with him or even 'no, let's stick with the Premier Inn breakfast, I don't feel great'.

But I think a pre breakfast walk was a bad move when you were planning a quiet day / early trip home unless you had cereal bars / flapjacks etc so everybody could eat something first before having a second breakfast at a cafe.

(This is a different situation to people who choose to get up and exercise before breakfast or who just don't eat till later in the day - their access to food isn't dependent on someone else's plans / they're at home and could get food if they wanted).

Also, on a trip away if everybody's had a bit of a lie in, you could be starting this exercise a couple of hours after your standard breakfast time.

100% this.
If he and DS really wanted the PI breakfast, they could have had it and then met OP and DD at the market after.
Hate grown adults who sulk rather than take responsibility for THEIR decisions!

Almost as annoying as ones who seem to think a short walk and 20 mins for their "brekkie" amounts to starvation.

PI breakfast is poor quality stuff...making a holiday extra special and finding somewhere nice or a pastry from a nice bakery is ALWAYS what I'd choose OP.

IF your DH wanted the breakfast surely he could have got up earlier to have that and tagged along with your choice?

There is NO excuse for being a sulky childlike man ..inflicting himself and his mood on everyone else

You didn't ruin the weekend, OP; your DH did, by behaving like a hangry toddler. You all agreed to the plan. If he was that desperate for a Premier Inn breakfast (which i find boggling, given all your options in central London), he could have said, "actually, I'm really hungry and I'd rather eat here and get a coffee somewhere else later." Alternatively, if your DH hadn't stormed off in a strop, he might have found that the wait for a table at the place you originally wanted to eat in wasn't that long. Or he could have made an effort to find somewhere else to eat.

Spitalfields maybe?

I thought your husband sounded really unreasonable and grumpy until the end part - honestly, do you make all the decisions, OP? It does sound like you might have dragged everyone around on a bit of a wild good chase, although with good intentions.

Your husband is acting like a complete baby though for still harping on about it.

We love a PI breakfast

It's rare that we have a full English so we always have one if we are staying somewhere.

Beyond that - this seems to be a bit of both BU. If DH had wanted to stay at PI he should have said so (but as a PP says it might be a bit to do with how it was presented). And long sulking is not on. But the bit that might have got to me (especially if tired and not well) was the OP vetoing Pret. Not a big Pret fan but not the point. As far as I can see there was no discussion about it - just "I didn't want to go there"

If the trip out was all agreed by everyone then surely they should have had a conversation about whether or not to stop there too?

I can see the not wanting to queue if there was no idea of how long the wait was

I’ve eaten a lot of PI breakfasts in my time…. Now we tend to look for a cafe near by instead. Having a husband that gets hangry, I tend to make sure it’ll be somewhere we will get in. But we’ve always eaten better …..

@Liesmorelies Aside from the breakfast, is there any weight to what he said about you making all the decisions, being fussy and hardwork etc? Have there been similar incidences before? (Not saying there has, just wondering why he said it) as it seems quite an extended reaction for breakfast (for it still to be simmering in the evening).

When it’s his birthday you are going to have tell him you have a special surprise.
(It's got to be a PI breakfast)

Well OP clearly think she was fine from her replies but I wonder if it's part of a pattern of behavior ie someone regularly going off piste and consequently making a simple task more difficult.

We tend to grab PI breakfast as they fine and there and gives us time to fill day with other stuff - but wouldn't be adverse to something else. However have had trips where we wander for ages as someone has an idea but then it harder to find somewhere to eat either due to size of party or someone not happy about something or place turns out to be shut that day and others start to get very fed up.

However Op clearly doesn't think it was that more her DH sulking.

I stay at London Premier Inns regularly and never have the breakfast. Used to but I can get a better breakfast elsewhere.

So it would be fine for her DH to put his preferences first and insist on the Premier Inn breakfast despite two of the party not really liking it?

Hmm.

How was it worded op? Can you be a bit overbearing in all honesty?

"does anyone fancy going somewhere different for a change?" is a pretty neutral suggestion where everyone has a chance to input. So id say tough for your DH he had his chance to speak up (possibly!)

"I dont fancy breakfast here let's go somewhere else theres a nice cafe ive looked up 20 mins away, what do you think" is also fine as long as they can push back, you accept the majority feeling, and they dont regret going up against you as it were.

By that I mean my DP can "suggest" things like the second example. In the past when i/DC have said no, we still fancy <original plan>, if something has backfired a bit - food takes too long/wasn't great or whatever, he'll either have a face like a dropped lasagne, or go on and on about how we should have done what he said.

So, now, unfortunately, when he suggests things in the first way, possibly because he has mellowed a bit, sometimes ill just agree even if id want a bit of a discussion or compromise. The damage has already been done because he did it the second way for so long. Not always, I do stand my ground but somrtimes I just cba. So if you would admit you have been a bit overpowering with how you word things, or difficult when someone has disagreed, then I can see how this situation came about even if on this occasion it was just a genuine neutral suggestion from you.

As a side, id be absolutely gutted if I ended up with porridge and pastries and toast over a Premier Inn brekkie, unless the toast toppings you rave about included sausage, bacon, eggs, beans, shrooms etc 😬

A cynic might say this reads like damage limitation, even though the YANBU votes are in your favour.

The long and short of it is that you got what you wanted, at the time, expense and enjoyment of your DH and DCs. Selfish is as selfish does. It doesn’t really matter what strangers on the internet say if the people who actually matter and love you - your DH and DCs - see you as someone who puts their own preferences first and foremost.

That's quite the story you've created!!

How is it a compromise if they always eat there and the one time OP wants to eat somewhere else her DH has a strop?!

I cannot get my head around how many people think men’s ridiculous reactions should be pandered to.

He should have just said he would rather have the PI breakfast and used his words like a big boy. They all do this in my experience, go along with something for an easy life end then moan / sulk. I do see the value in a PI breakfast tbh, he most likely would have eaten enough to sink a ship and therefore it would have been better value for him. I don’t see why you should have to suffer a have something you don’t want though. The better idea would have been that him and DS1 had a PI breakfast and then had a coffee / water while you had a breakfast that suited you and you pushed back going home for an hour or so.