Has lack of Premier Inn breakfast ruined the weekend?

No you'll probably find it happened in January this year as this is an old thread that @wasieverreallyhere decided to resurrect for some reason

Bugger! I didn’t see it was from January. @wasieverreallyhere Why would you do that?!

He's not sulking now and is acting like nothing has happened. Which is fine and, yes, it's a bit of a non-issue, I know I don’t think it is fine. And it would be a massive issue for me. You went to a lot of time and trouble to book something that he would enjoy. If a PI breakfast was something he was looking forward to, then why didn’t he open his mouth and say ‘I’m so glad we’re staying a a PI, I really enjoy their breakfasts’? When you raised the idea of going to look for a cafe, why didn’t he say ‘Do we really have to? I really fancy having breakfast here’? It’s almost as though he enjoys the sulking part of it and likes seeing something you’ve planned not work out perfectly so he’s got an excuse to behave like a fucking child.

Do you really want to spend the rest of your marriage having him throwing a tantrum because he’s refused to give you any input, or help with booking things, and then kicks off because it’s not how he secretly envisioned it?

I think I would wait until the DC are out of the way then ask him what the fuck that was about and that if he’d been a child, you would have assumed he’d had too much excitement and needed a nap. Tell him it’s absolutely unacceptable, that he owes you and the DC a bloody sincere apology. Tell him that he might be sick of you making all the decisions, but that you are sick of him leaving all the organising to you, you’re sick of pandering to him and you’re sick of pretending it’s all ok when he’s over it, when you just feel contempt. Sulking is a pattern of behaviour and it can be broken with a lot of effort and hard work. Tell him that if he wants to remain in a happy marriage then he needs to fix it because you’ve had enough of being married to a sulky child.

If annoys me to go out for breakfast. Either I have to get up too early, or I’m eating breakfast closer to lunch time and it puts my energy out of whack. I’d love to hear his side of the dynamic and whether you’re often a pain in the arse.

I agree with this assessment.

It’s hard to tell without hearing your conversation, but it sounds as if he wasn’t fully aligned on the decision to not book a PI breakfast, and felt that he missed out and the morning was rather spoiled by it. Then because he was already a bit upset he ruminated and felt he’d just rolled over and things were worse because of it.

Next time make sure it’s a joint decision, or agree you’ll take it in turns. He clearly likes a PI breakfast even though you prefer a nice cafe and neither of you are right or wrong, (even though you think you are right !) it’s just a preference thing that each of you should respect.

See if you weigh it up purely as PI vs nice independent cafe I agree.

for me though it depends how long you all ended up spending traipsing around starving in the morning.
why didn’t you just join the queue for the place? And you rejected a few cafes and Pret? I think that would start to annoy me too even if the basic idea of going out was good.

and for a teenage boy a PI was probably preferable to a small smattering of higher quality food 😬

Whilst locations and to an extent facilities are varied, you know what you are getting, so can be an option for one or two nights.

Instead of a poor B+B or putting your safety and health at risk by using a Travelodge.

This exact thing happened to someone last year too! Amazing

We stay in one at least a couple of times a year, they're really good value.

😂😂

There's like 86,000 Premier Inn bedrooms in the UK.... Fairly safe to say loads of people use them.

Op couldn't he have stayed at pi to have his breakfast there whilst you went to a nicer cafe ?

Lots of us. I love them. What other options do you view as more acceptable

Who reactivates a thread from 9 months ago??

Who goes premier inn any more overpriced check other options

Sounds like the hangry type to me. I usually skip breakfast and would happily wander around trying to find the perfect spot for a new and memorable dining experience with the perfect atmosphere rather than just food. That being said I know my dh, despite being the most lovely man I've ever known, once hungry... Can be a right mare 😂 of definitely opt for the PI breakfast. Not worth the drama 😂 he is over reacting, probably a bit embarrassed by his behaviour and doesn't want to admit it and insanely decoding to double down on his behaviour. After this many years together I'm sure you can see the funny side. Take him a few snacks (maybe a snickers 😅) he'll soon calm down 🤭

It just sounds to me that it isn't about the breakfast as far as your husband is concerned. He sounds angry about other issues in your relationship. Perhaps time to dig a bit deeper and find out what the true issue is? Also, you said that all of you were feeling poorly and that can make people very grumpy 😠 I hope you manage to sort things. Xxx

Why didn’t you take into account what he wanted to do instead of dragging everyone out looking for a cafe that may or may not exist in an area you apparently don’t know very well?

This isn’t really about breakfast is it? It’s about him getting sick of your behaviour so I’d discuss it with him if I were you, before he meets someone who doesn’t deprive him of a Premier Inn breakfast.

The Premier Inn breakfast is amazing - especially at Dublin Airport.

You picked the hardest and worst option.
A lovely breakfast laid on for you downstairs - and instead you traipse around in the cold, on the hunt for food.

I'd be VERY pissed off.
Although I would have refused to follow you anyway and would have had a lovely breakfast at the Premier Inn.

Some people just want to do things the hard way.

RG89
Hang on! You say I'm acting like ive had loads of pi breakfasts.

Why am I acting? I probably could have retired early if we didnt have to travel up and down the country staying in PI and buying expensive kit for ds sport for 8 years! Lol 😆

RG89

You act like you've had plenty of PI breakfasts, then say it's included in the rate? It's never included in the rate, you always have to pay extra for it, only kids eat free.
Yep my mistake!
We used to stay in Premier inns about twice a month through the hockey season for about 5 or 6 yeas when my kid played away games in the junior leagues and we always had breakfast. I thought breakfast was included asDh settled the bill for the 3 of us.

One good thing about one of tbe Premier inns we used was they would allow the kids have two breakfasts if they had an early training session, so if they were on the ice at 08:00 hrs they had something to eat before and they allowed them.back in after training. Im certain it was unofficial but the lady that always seemed on duty each year was really good with the kids and said they needed feeding!

I liked Pi breakfasts and we always stopped at one at Dumfries when we went mountain biking in Dalbeatie. Staff were good there and would look after our bikes over night so they weren't left on a roof rack.

You act like you've had plenty of PI breakfasts, then say it's included in the rate? It's never included in the rate, you always have to pay extra for it, only kids eat free.

I do think your husband overreacted, but also don’t see why you didn’t have the breakfast that was provided (unless the breakfast there is awful?) If the rest of the family were happy with the breakfast and wanted to eat there, it would only have taken a short amount of time to have it, (you could have just had a coffee if you weren’t hungry or didn’t fancy it) then you all could have gone about your day, rather than going on a wild goose chase to find somewhere else suitable to eat when you were unfamiliar with the area. Traipsing the family around London while you’re all getting increasingly hungry and short tempered was not the best idea and predictably ended in disaster.

Sounds pretty simple, DH had psyched himself up to stuff himself at the AYCE PI buffet with cheap sausages and bacon and then immediately regretted agreeing to go elsewhere and got in a double huff with ending up with something small and continental. He is being a bit immature and grumpy at the situation and grumpy at himself agreeing to go elsewhere in the first place. Once he is in a calm mood ask him what that was all about and was he regretful about his strop.

Why do you bend over backwards trying to make him happy when he doesn't even bother to moderate his moodiness for you or the kids? Looking for a Greggs so he could "top-up"? Flip that!!