Unpaid nanny to DSD Part 2

Why am I not surprised that he’s produced more shitty behaviour??

Leaving a bathtub full is a safeguarding issue too if DSD is 5, pretty sure this father of the year wasn't with her all the time, was he.

Was his back aching from exercising or what exactly prevented him from unplugging it? Oh wait, no, another abusive tactic against you. C*nt.

Ah, ok that makes more sense! 😂

Still shitty, lazy, entitled behaviour, but not as aggressive as I was imagining!

My god he's so selfish it's unbelievable. He's gaslighting you too.

He's made his child spend what little time she has with him, sat in a fucking gym. And he has the CHEEK to blame you?!

What a terrible, terrible father.

This is awful, Op, what a total shithead and waste of space he is.

Poor child. He's an absolute waste of space.

btw do you mean he's put her worn clothes into a bath full of used bathwater and left them there?!

I get he's not cleared up after himself re dishes, etc and is a lazy sod. That's one (unacceptable) thing. But the only reason I can think he's chucking clothes into dirty bathwater is to make an inconvenient and dramatic mess that he expects you to clear up. It's not something that can be labelled 'lazy' like the dishes, it's calculated and malicious.

Does he think this shit will win you back in some way, put you in your place or something? He sounds spectacularly stupid as well as incredibly selfish and a crap father.

I think in years to come you will be able to unemotionally analyse this relationship and think ‘what the absolute fuck was I doing.’

He clearly doesn’t see you as being a partner, he sees you as a servant and his DD as a hindrance.

amazed at his disrespect

bet as a gastro registrar you have been bank rolling his gym work

Take photos of the state of the house and note all his crappy behaviours for SS record.

Go and stay with a friend for a few days so you don't have to look at him or his mess.

Good. Sorry OP but I was afraid he was going to play perfect dad/husband for a couple of weeks to reel you in again. But no, he's showing his true colours which is good. This will make you able to clearly see things for what they are: shit. I just wish this little girl was in the middle of it 😥. But don't let that stop you from leaving this piece of shit man. Do contact SS though when you have left.

He’s an incompetent, irresponsible, angry, vindictive, immature person. If you have the opportunity to leave, take it. I don’t know why anyone would choose to stay with such a person.

JFC, OP.

I read the final updates on your previous thread and now this and I'm mortified.

Your husband is a shit human being. Shit father, shit husband and a selfish prick in general.

I honestly cannot see any other way than to report both parents to social services, it's not just this poor little girl's mother who is an abysmal parent. It's your husband too.

You can't stay and sacrifice your life and chances of having a happy family in the future. You have to leave and not even consider having children with that prick.

I honestly think the best option for your DSD would be a foster family that would actually show love and interest in her, her so-called parents are nothing else than an waste of space incubator and sperm donor.

How sad, for you and for her. You need to be free, and she needs heavy involvement of SS.

Welldone OP for not just accepting this

Glad you are done

I know it’s not easy leaving a marriage. I found it hard tho I had dc and I’m now a single parent

you can walk away

tho sure you will worry and wonder what will happen to the little girl

Good for you hold firm

That smacks of deliberate incompetence to put you back in your place.
The bastard hasn’t been IN the house most of the weekend to even make it messy. He’s been at the bloody gym!

‘I’m done with him’

Good for you, OP, but I feel for little DSD with a father like that.

Ahh so you are maid as well as nanny.
So sorry this is happening. The only silver lining is that you are addressing it now and not 5 years down the road with two kids of your own plus DSD to contend with while he swans about doing fuck all at home.
He sounds completely imcompetent. It's not normal, many men do not behave this way.
I hooe you don't wash and pair his socks and put away his pants too :((

Good for you op.

Hope you're OK there. You sound pretty annoyed. Deep breaths.

Sounds awful OP- stand your ground for all your sakes.

What does he say when you ask him “why gave you taken DSD to the gym three times this weekend instead of doing something nice with her”. Or “if you’re so knackered why don’t you do a quick home workout instead of the gym and then sort the house/ do an online shop.”

I could almost forgive it if it was just haplessness but it’s the utter selfishness towards his own daughter who seems like she might be having a difficult time that I couldn’t forgive.

The Shit-tip house when you get home? Punishment.

What a weapons grade wanker he is.

Good for you op. You will be approximately 1 billion times happier without this arsehol dragging you down. You have a good job, you are financially independent, no children of your own to consider (don’t let your innate kindness towards children keep you there, you could maybe approach her mother afterwards and see if you could keep in touch if you wanted to. You never know, she might enjoy the solidarity of knowing both your exes is a cunt). You are free. I’d honestly file for divorce tonight.