Unpaid nanny to DSD Part 2

Is he really that dumb that he thinks your response to this would be "Oh dear, I'd better not leave him in charge again. I'll stay home in future!" Rather than just being put off having a future with him?

He doesn't own the gym. He appears to have a fitness business as a sideline to his hospital consultancy work, and he goes to the gym to try to drum up business for that (so he says).

The OP cannot be held responsible for other people's lack of reading comprehension.

So I thought he was a meathead, but now that we know that he has intellect, this somehow makes it even worse.

Hes a consultant so could be anything.
He part owns the gym

Oh goodness, he’s not a surgeon is he!?

As I tell my DC frequently: there’s a world of difference between being well educated and being intelligent. I could run through a list of Oxbridge/Ivy educated people as long as my arm none of whom I’d call intelligent. Equally, some of the smartest people I know never went to university.

His occupation has nothing to do with anything. He’s fundamentally unintelligent and immature, not an evolved human (sorry I keep repeating myself). He can’t even do the necessary to ensure his own future is rosy, let alone his child’s or wife’s. Just yuck.

There's nothing confusing about it. Why would he pay when he can manipulate someone into doing it for free?

Bit confused as to how things got this bad. Surely a consultant can afford childcare, not to mention couples counselling.

It’s a horrible thought that someone with an attitude and outlook like his could be a consultant

Good luck op, I hope the divorce hoes as smoothly as possible for you!

@seasonofthebitch

Glad you're seeing a divorce solicitor. Just remember to keep that to yourself until you've got those ducks in a row.

Sorry to suggest it but if he gets suspicious, play along if you have to. If you've definitely decided to leave, it'll only be temporary and may allay suspicions. I'd also suggest you secure any documentation on joint assets, like house deeds and banking documents. If you can't actually move them, take pictures of them and upload to a secure file. From what you've said about him, he's going to be furious to lose his unpaid nanny. When self-centred men like him get angry, they turn vindictive.

How sad. He is obviously very intelligent but lacks any caring qualities which you would have hoped he would have in his profession. So sorry for you Op and the little girl.

You can be jacked, dangerous, violent and intelligent. Being intelligent isn't a bar to being a meathead gym goer...

So he is a meathead consultant who thinks he should bark and everyone else should jump.

arsehole

So sorry this is happening OP.

I can remember reading a quote which is very true in this case something like - a divorced man is like a rescue dog. He looks house-trained and probably has his own house and bed but the problems will show up afterwards.

@seasonofthebitch , i think you have misunderstood. I thought @Isittimeformynapyet was being sarcastic. That's how i read it.

I've read both threads in their entirety. It's never been clear that this hideous man is a medical consultant. Many posters have assumed he is OP's intellectual inferior. It doesn't change any of the actions OP should take, it just puts a different slant on the kind of man she's dealing with.

You can't hold the OP responsible for assumptions that YOU have made about her husband's intelligence!

Indeed. I think it is time for her nap.

Yeah, what I meant was that he's probably intelligent enough to not give OP any cause to involve the police in their breakup as that would surely be very damaging to his career.

Wtf???

Absolutely spot on.

It is absolutely not true that educated or intelligent men can’t be violent or abusive. They absolutely can be, and better at covering up what they do too.

There’s a whole other thread. That’s why the title is ‘part 2’ . Plenty of info in there.

I don't, he could be just as prone to violence as a gym goer. I don't get the feeling from the OP that he is like that, more preferring words as his weapons, but intelligence in a narrow field doesn't stop people being violent.