Unpaid nanny to DSD Part 2

His female client did tell me they tease him because his catchphrase is always 'you can do better than this'. Sounds bloody annoying to me, but they all love him so it works.

I didn't know that! My dad and brother are fireman and totally lovely, and Ive known loads through them - mostly lovely, although affairs were rife.
The police - Ive worked with loads as a social worker and as a collective they are absolutely power hungry misogynistic twats who love the sound of their own voices. I would never date or befriend one. Huge generalisation but I stand by it. In my current role I work with a lot of psychologists who think they know everything about everything so I can see the god complex there for sure.

I’ve seen TikToks of the drill Sargents I think I’d need one to get me to actually go and stay in a gym 🤣 the types stealing your donuts away.

Your dh sounds like one of the nicer ones doing it for good reasons rather than ego extensions.

Whether he’s OP’s intellectual equal or not, he’s obviously her emotionally intellectual inferior.

Ah, a consultant. I work with medical department heads and consultants. The women are usually lovely to work with but the ego on the men is planet sized.

I often think of the adage that women give each other on chat sites about dating men:

"Stay away from the four Ps: police officers, paramedics, physicians, and pfirefighters"

Yeh my fella says its really really awful, and he won't be drawn into it at all. He's all about the mental health side of things for exercise (personally I reach for the choccie 😂) but I can see what a difference he makes to peoples lives. There's also a rising trend of older drill instructor types (ex marines etc) who are just screaming at and tearing-down-to-lift-them-back-up types there which he can't abide. I quite enjoy hearing about all the drama as its a different world to mine entirely (clinical), and Id rather drink a shit smoothie than ever go into a gym, but we are all different hey!

OP, I remember you saying he was more senior than you. Ignore rude people. 😊

It doesnt matter if he's god almighty. He's not entitled to opt out of taking care of his child and demand you do it.

OP you sound so lovely - they don’t know how lucky they are to have you as a step mum

Yeah they were and it basically just ruined it for her.

Bloody hell, this is her LIFE! Not a bloody soap opera.

We're here to support her, not for entertainment purposes FFS.

seasonofthebitch I hope you are ok tonight. I think it is going to be a very very difficult conversation, and I hope you have support around you.

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Were they young? My fella is 44 and only works with the over 30s. He doesn't like the young ripped insta culture. Thats not at all what its about for him (thank god as that wouldn't really appeal to me). Its all very motivational and positive and not about aesthetics.

@amibeingaknob good point. My dh is pretty “thick” academically at least 🤣 but has been a fantastic dad to ds(21).

Worked PT during the week to spend time with ds before he started school, taking him out to parks etc every day, and then caught up with work to at weekends. Bathtime was his time with ds every night for years. He couldn’t help him when it got to exam years as he had left school with no qualifications, but he was there supporting making dinner while me and ds tried to work out physics!

Mine preferred words as weapons... until that didn't work any more. OP should still watch her back, regardless of how he's been up to now.

Probably dates back to

Those who can teach. Those who can’t teach pe.

Plus the general meatheadness of many Gym bros and most small gym owners are because they love the gym in a gym bro or meathead way.

I have a female friend who was a PT she left due to the gym bro men.

FWIW my DP had a mental health crisis 7 years ago, got into the gym for his mental health and it changed his life. That led him to change his whole career to become a PT, and he helps people in a similar boat now and also helps people on the spectrum regulate their emotions via exercise. Hes incredibly bright, compassionate, kind and with a lot of knowledge around mental health and physical movement, Im super proud of him.

It does fit though they do tend to be more arrogant and I’m always right types. Not all but most.

This thread has made me quite sad. I read this and seeing all the 'he must be thick' posts was shocking/saddening, and now with people changing their minds because hes a doctor! I didn't realise people still made such value judgements based on someones profession.

My partner is a PT and utterly lovely so maybe Im being extra sensitive, but I am sure I wouldn't have thought like this before him. I do work with DV victims though, so Im well aware that aggressive, abusive, cruel men come from every walk of life.

Well being a consultant certainly doesn't help in his case, we all like to think people in medicine are kind, compassionate souls but it's not always true, it's certainly not true with him. What he has is a big, big ego, he's the perfect man in his eyes,well educated, good professional job, decent salary and he keeps himself very fit so obviously the Op is very lucky to have him, all he expects in return is that she's happy to have NO life except work, housework and childcare.

Honestly what does his job role matter to this? It’s irrelevant, he’s still a lazy twat who is forcing his wife to be a unpaid nanny.

God.... this guy is such a loser.

What kind of consultant dr needs to drum up business at a gym.
I assumed he was the owner and doing paperwork or some shit

That poor little girl...

Interesting! Most consultants I know have a side-hustle: working in private health care and bringing in a fortune. Odd to have a side hustle in the gym that takes so much time and brings in no money.

@seasonofthebitch Does he picture himself as the next Rangang Chatterjee, Chris van Tulleken, or Joe Wicks. Is he building his 'client list' ready to launch his world famous podcast and tour the world as a motivational speaker?

Ew, is he an ortho bro? 🤢