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To go to a funeral for someone I’ve never met?

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LemonBelly · 18/01/2026 08:54

My boyfriend of 2.5 years lost his uncle just before Christmas. He lives about 3 hours north so my partner doesn’t see him much, I was meant to meet him for the first time at my boyfriends mums 50th next month which obviously sadly won’t happen now.

His funeral is coming up and my boyfriend asked me if I wanted to go with him. His mum and sisters will be there but it’s a 2 hour drive each way that he will do on his own. Nobody ever wants to go to a funeral but I want to be there for him, but I feel weird that I’m going to a funeral for someone I’ve never met. Is that weird? Will other family members think it’s weird? I’ve met his immediately family and his auntie and her family multiple times so I’m not a stranger to them

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Martymcfly24 · 18/01/2026 08:56

Not unusual at all. Funerals are for the living and you are supporting your boyfriend and his family.
I have been to many funerals and removals where I didn't know the deceased.

millymollyminging · 18/01/2026 08:55

Not weird at all. A funeral is for the living to say their goodbyes, you are going to support your boyfriend. No one will think it odd.

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