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To play audio on my phone on train?

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ThreeWordUsername · 17/01/2026 23:00

Would IBU to start loudly playing some ads for headphones from my crappy tinny phone speakers on the train?

Given the number of other people blaring shite from their own they are unlikely to be affected much tbh.

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Ladybirdflyawayhome · 18/01/2026 11:12

60 something granny here 😁. I tell anybody and everybody, very quietly and pleasantly with a smile on my face, to use headphones and stop annoying everyone. I’m generally met with silence and compliance but have also had a few genuinely bewildered people who can’t believe they are being annoying. Interesting and amusing conversations follow. Maybe being a retired lecturer helps 😂

BitOutOfPractice · 18/01/2026 11:09

i asked a man in a cafe who was playing sports highlights out loud on his phone if he could put headphones on a few weeks ago because his audio was extremely annoying. He looked genuinely surprised. And he did turn it off.

I agree though OP I wouldn’t have done that on a train at night.

ThreeWordUsername · 18/01/2026 11:05

Morning folks! Just to clarify for those who took me a bit too seriously - I was in fact indulging in a little fantasy/hyperbole. Hence the Bose ad suggestion.

I understand the sentiment that if we don't challenge it it will continue. However, on a fairly full train post Saturday night drinks I would have felt unsafe as a middle aged woman starting a confrontation, regardless of how politely I did it. I'm also not sure it should be our problem to solve. IMO the train and bus companies should all be publishing, advertising and enforcing rules around this. Above all though I find it depressing that such a large group of society just don't give a shit about their choices impacting upon others.

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SwirlyGates · 18/01/2026 11:01

I was on a train recently, and a woman got on and sat opposite me at my table. Immediately started playing crap on her phone. A guy nearby asked her to stop, and she said, "It's only TikTok!" I have no idea what difference she thought that made, but she did stop.

It was such a huge contrast it felt like the train company had made the standard class so uncomfortable everyone would pay for first.

I rarely use first class, but did so a little while ago as it was actually cheaper than standard. The peace and quiet was disrupted for hours by a drunk middle-aged man (I say his age as he was old enough to know better) who was declaiming loudly and trying to engage everyone else in conversation. I don't mind a chat on the train, but he was enraging.

Blump2783 · 18/01/2026 10:59

I would love to have the confidence to sing along to any music being played (my voice is horrific) or put some kind of ballad on and start singing along to it.

KitsyWitsy · 18/01/2026 10:48

I don't want to get into confrontations with people. I am not shy or anything but you just don't know how it will go and is it worth it if they kick off? You already know they are oblivious, selfish fucks. They could be aggressive as well.

I have new AirPods which are brilliant and block out lots of noise. It shouldn't be necessary, but it is.

JayJayj · 18/01/2026 10:48

I think that’s hilarious and I’d definitely do it 😂😂

Gall10 · 18/01/2026 10:47

Jugendstiel · 17/01/2026 23:06

I was on a train recently when I big man stood up and bellowed down the carriage: I don't like your music mate, and I don't want to listen to it. Get headphones or turn it off.
Whoever was blaring their music turned it off. But I did think they wouldn't have if the person complaining hadn't been built like a heavyweight boxer.

I’d vote for this guy!

nevernotmaybe · 18/01/2026 10:43

KimberleyClark · 18/01/2026 08:01

You get a lot of sound leakage with cheap headphones which can be just as irritating as someone playing audio without them.

Not really, they are just playing stupidly loud when you hear that. You cant hear anything at a decent volume from the cheap £15 bluetooth earphone I take out.

I think even going back 20 years and talking about £1 poundshop earphones, at a normal volume you wouldnt be able to hear them over the bus sounds - maybe the slightest hint if you were sat next to them and really unlucky.

Normandy144 · 18/01/2026 10:43

For those suggesting that comedians address the issue, you should check out Russell Kane who absolutely nails it on his Instagram with a post for headphone deniers. There's actually an official name for the condition it's called chronic underperception neurological tendancy. Not sure if this link will work but do check it out as it is quite a serious condition but luckily there is a cure.😂
www.instagram.com/reel/DRo2Z-vDKh3/?igsh=emF0cm04a2MwM3pw

EmpressaurusKitty · 18/01/2026 10:37

IdleThoughts · 18/01/2026 10:23

Why don't you have noise cancelling headphones? I wouldn't get on public transport without them, you literally can't hear anything around you.

Yes, but then you’re the person who’s still sitting there when everyone else is getting off because they heard the announcement about a diversion / the bus terminating at this stop / the tube on the next platform leaving sooner.

NoSoapJustUseShowerGel · 18/01/2026 10:33

Ginmonkeyagain · 18/01/2026 10:02

My most authoritarian opinion is, if after being asked once.people don't use headphones or turn the phone off , it should be legal to take their device and destroy it in front of them.

We were once tormented by a very annoyoing Amercian woman on the Eurostar who carried out numerous phone calls on loudspeaker. Then one hero bloke just started joining in. Whe she asked him what he was doing, he just looked at her straight faced and said "You included me on this call so I thought you might want my opinion"

Well done that man! Did she carry on with the call after that or what?

NeedWineNow · 18/01/2026 10:33

Allisnotlost1 · 18/01/2026 01:08

This is why I never travel without headphones. I don’t want to listen to other people’s music, conversations, kids or breathing.

This 100%

NoSoapJustUseShowerGel · 18/01/2026 10:30

IdleThoughts · 18/01/2026 10:23

Why don't you have noise cancelling headphones? I wouldn't get on public transport without them, you literally can't hear anything around you.

Yes but that doesn’t stop people from being antisocial and inconsiderate. The onus shouldn’t be on everyone else to cut off one of their senses.

Unhappyitis · 18/01/2026 10:30

CharlotteStreetW1 · 17/01/2026 23:48

Blame the phone manufacturers, especially Apple who started it, for removing the headphone jack and making people have to buy earbuds which are stupidly expensive. I haven't bought any (but I don't play stuff out loud).

At least you can get headphone adaptors for phones now.

You can buy cheaper ones. They just use bluetooth to attach. No one needs expensive ones.

TKMAXX even offer some designer ones cheap like DKNY or guess under £20. B & Ms do them even cheaper. If can afford a phone, can afford some cheap bluetooth pod earphones.

Theeyeballsinthesky · 18/01/2026 10:28

Augarden · 18/01/2026 10:24

This should be the next Mumsnet campaign. It's completely unacceptable and there's no excuse, but I've seen young and old, men and women, people of all races do it. My husband and I have had some success asking people to turn it off. You assume they are so deliberately violating social norms that they'll kick off, but actually in most cases they seem genuinely ignorant that it was annoying anyone. It's bizarre but I do think awareness of how unacceptable it is would have some effect.

Some people just can't go two minutes without their hit of TikTok!

totally agree, it really does seem to span society

i still can't wrap my head around how we got to a stage where fully grown adults need to be told that listening to things out loud in a public place is really rude and annoying but here we are...

LargeJugs · 18/01/2026 10:27

Get a pair of headphones you prick.

or if it’s a reverse … the person who did that is a prick.

Astra53 · 18/01/2026 10:27

CrispySquid · 17/01/2026 23:02

I generally consider myself a reasonable person, but I do think people who play stuff loudly on their phones on public transport should receive the death penalty.

🤣🤣🤣🤣

AlecTrevelyan006 · 18/01/2026 10:26

All train carriages should be 'quiet carriages'.

Augarden · 18/01/2026 10:24

This should be the next Mumsnet campaign. It's completely unacceptable and there's no excuse, but I've seen young and old, men and women, people of all races do it. My husband and I have had some success asking people to turn it off. You assume they are so deliberately violating social norms that they'll kick off, but actually in most cases they seem genuinely ignorant that it was annoying anyone. It's bizarre but I do think awareness of how unacceptable it is would have some effect.

Some people just can't go two minutes without their hit of TikTok!

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 18/01/2026 10:24

What I hate most on buses is people bringing their horrible smelly, fatty fast food on board to eat - and then as often as not, leaving the greasy wrappings behind.
I have no hesitation in using the C word for them - no, not that word - I mean CHAV.

IdleThoughts · 18/01/2026 10:23

Why don't you have noise cancelling headphones? I wouldn't get on public transport without them, you literally can't hear anything around you.

ruethewhirl · 18/01/2026 10:12

ThreeWordUsername · 17/01/2026 23:05

I'm not seriously going to do it but for fuck's sake they're driving me insane. Who the hell thinks this is an OK thing to do in a shared space? (Answer: about half the train apparently)

Feeling your pain OP. Such ignorant behaviour!

EmpressaurusKitty · 18/01/2026 10:10

There are posters about it on the tube now, but a lot of the idiots who do it don’t notice, don’t care or assume it can’t possibly apply to them.

I agree that if comedians started taking the piss out of them it might make a difference. Also, stop adding bloody sound effects to games. They don’t need them.

Bloodycrossstitch · 18/01/2026 10:10

CharlotteStreetW1 · 17/01/2026 23:48

Blame the phone manufacturers, especially Apple who started it, for removing the headphone jack and making people have to buy earbuds which are stupidly expensive. I haven't bought any (but I don't play stuff out loud).

At least you can get headphone adaptors for phones now.

You can buy earphones with a usb c fitting cheap now. They’re about a £5 in b&m.

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