Can I have an opinion on my marriage

It doesn't matter what he says. You are entitled to 50%, as a starting point, of every asset unless you've only been married 5 minutes. You need advice from women's aid and a solicitor

She asked him on Tuesday to drive her a different day.

This. Sounds like he cannot stand her but likes the convenience of having a wife.

I would be in the divorce courts so fast…

If your daughter came to you and recounted this to you what would your response be?

I get some of his frustration as an adult who could not navigate public transport and seemed ignorant of tolls on a route they were driving would drive me insane…but he made a commitment, reneged and then spoke to you like a dog for raising that. Has he always been like this.

He is talking utter BS -
In the UK, if married, the wife is entitled to a share of the family home regardless of it being in the husband’s name, especially if she is the primary caregiver for the children. Courts prioritize the children's welfare, often allowing the resident parent to stay until the youngest child turns 18, or granting a larger share of equity to ensure housing stability.

Your marriage is not a marriage its a warzone. Mine was like this with two kids. I thought I had shielded them from everything. Theyre both adults now and carry that trauma. I wish I could have seen at the time the best thing for everyone would have been for me to leave a damn site earlier than I did X

He sounds awful, you sound anxious, I'm sure if you left him that would improve greatly ( I remember with my abusive ex I couldnt decide what colour of grapes to buy and getting overwhelmed).

Right - this is not on - he is an arsehole. He takes your money, and keeps you short of cash so you can't leave.

Leave

So I guess you don’t leave because you can’t afford to?

Well at least check out the turn 2 us calculator so that you can see what help you will get with childcare and benefits if u were to leave him

if he is a good earner then u will get maintenance

He sounds like a gaslighting abusive prick. Nobody should be telling their spouse to fuck off or screaming at them over minor issues (or even major issues!). I wonder how much your anxiety and MH issues might improve without managing and living with him. I think you really need to leave - tell yourself you will and then start making small steps. Try grey rocking him and keep your energy for yourself and your DC. Gather info on finances if possible - how much he has in savings, how much mortgage is, what is his salary etc.

He is wrong to say you are not entitled to the house - if you're legally married then you will be entitled to at least half the equity (maybe more if you are deemed to need more to house DC). Could you try and save up to see a solicitor to find out where you stand?

Sadly (for him) you're married, so please don't take his word for it.

Speak to women's aid

You're being financially abused at the very least

Sorry but without wanting to be harsh, you've already started many, MANY threads about your husband and his abusive behaviour and everyone has told you multiple times to leave him. I really don't think another thread asking for more opinions is going to make any difference.

He's a completely abusive arsehole, OP, but I think you know that already, right?

The bigger problem I see is that he's causing this anxiety and self doubt. It worries me that an adult woman would find going on the underground sufficiently daunting that she would need her husband to take her.

It sounds as if he's deliberately encouraged this dependent and scared mindset to put you off developing your own independence.

You know you need to leave him, but I think you also need some counselling to build up your sense of your own competence.

Tell me you’ve never been in an abusive relationship without telling me…

To everyone sticking the boot in regarding OP’s “neediness”, this is exactly what abusive men do to you. They put you down, tell you that you’re incapable. They make you “need” them, and in the end you believe it and feel unable to do the most minor things for yourself. That’s their objective (to stop you leaving because you will never cope without them). Having a go about OP’s very natural reaction to DV isn’t helpful.

OP, you really do need to contact Women’s Aid. You know you can’t continue like this.

Your DH is a bully, but you sound very needy. You do need to leave him but you've got to put your big girl pants on. You can get the tube it's not hard, you've driven somewhere you need to sort the tolls. In no way am I excusing the way he speaks to you, but how will you cope on your own if you can't do very simple day to day tasks?

from what you’ve said your DH doesn’t sound nice, but quite frankly you don’t really sound great either, why on earth are you asking your DH to be driving you around the minute he walks in from work? Why did you not just pick somewhere initially that was mutually convenient for you and your friend? I’d like to hear your DHs side in this.

There’s a charge for the Blackwell tunnel now. It used to be free but no longer.

You asked for an opinion so I will give it to you. He is not being kind, supportive or even nice. I was married to someone like this. We had three kids together and I never felt so alone in my whole life. Eventually I left and it was obviously hard but I was so much happier. You have to decide what you want out of life because I don’t think he’s going to start being a good husband anytime soon.

If you are married then it doesn’t matter if the house is in his name you should get half of it in a divorce. I think you should divorce him he sounds abusive. I used to think I had mental health issues then I left my abusive ex and it all cleared- so obvious once you are out hat he is the cause but while you are in it they twist it into a reason you have to stay

If you are married & divorce, the starting point for splitting all assets is 50/50.
You both own everything half/half

My husband would never speak to me like that. He is financially and emotionally abusive and this is probably a big part of your anxiety and depression. Speak to women’s aid as he is wrong about the house, you are married and that’s is a legal contract to combine everything financially.

Get away from the utter dick head.

But it’s not up to him. Keep your money. Start working on a plan to leave. Nothing will change if you don’t change it.

You are married right? Legally officially married?

then get proper legal advice because he is wrong

he is also controlling and abusive

There is no charge for the Blackwall Tunnel. There is the congestion charge and ULEZ which you can access easily online. Do it today because you’ll be looking at a nasty fine if you don’t.

He didn’t get the house if you’re married.

He is an arsehole.