Where do you hide your running away fund

appologies, assumed OP in UK.
really hope you find something suitable 💐

In an ISA which only I know the details of. Mine is largely shares from a redundancy payout in any case. Cash is a terrible idea! What if you have to leave in a hurry and can't go home?

That is a perfect excuse to set up a current account with a different bank/building society and then a savings account. You say you need this to make sure you put your pay aside for your tax and NI. You then set up a savings account he knows nothing about.

Premium bonds, have an online account, & if any ‘winnings’ can be paid back into buy more premium bonds

@Somuchsugarinoneday you're not currently living or working in the UK, is that right? So advice about paying in cash via the Post Office isn't likely to be relevant, and opening a new bank account in the UK might be trickier/not possible too.

Just to reiterate.
i have an account with Starling. I do NOT receive letters, statements or anything from them ever. Everything is either through email or through the app.

Having checked, depositing cash in the account is straight forward (go to the post office with your card) but is only free up to £1000. After that, it’s charged at 0.7%
cheques: done through the app.

Under the carpet in the airing cupboard but the plumber found it!

Agree cash is bonkers but couldn't help contemplating places to hide cash:
In a deep part of the attic
In the pockets of a coat in your wardrobe
In the hood of a coat in your wardrobe
In the hoover
Between pages of books
In the top of the piano
Under the spare wheel in the car

Where else?

If you go to HSBC, they can talk you through setting up separate finances on the quiet. They had a brief advertising campaign about it a few years back.

Leaving cash around even in a hidden place isn't wise. If it gets pinched what then?

Just open an instant access ISA? You can do one online so nothing about it much would ever come through the post?

If you really want to have post sent somewhere different I think you can have a PO box no and it gets sent to a locker or something?

Just open an online account (Starlink is great).
All done online. Easy agd straight forward. No one needs to know.
Statements are online
The only person who has access is you.
If the situation is complicated, you could have your wage going into your account and you then move whatever is agreed on the joint account.

fwiw if you have to hide money to be able to pay for health expenses, then you have a big issue….

??? Eh?

Yep!

Your bank may have a team that specialised in financial abuse etc. They will be able to help you set up and account

You need a total reset of your money. Use the new job as the reason.

You need a personal current account and so does he, one each, for your own spending money.
You then need a joint account you both put an agreed amount ( you lie about your income here ) . This could be 50:50 of agreed joint expenses. Or proportional to your incomes.
You then set up a saving account or two with a new bank, and transfer money. You may need a current account too, but this is easy to do. If you access this via a website rather than an app, it won’t show up on your phone.
You need a saving account for your taxes and a saving account for your running away fund.

This is what we do, and we have accounts with four banks to get good rates, and so that at least one will survive a cyber attack.

I always had a slush fund but never in cash. If haven’t already, open your own bank account as long as you DH can’t see your main bank statements for income and transfers.

If you need a running away fund you should have already ran surely?

I believe that in the uk the bank is required to send a summary by post once a year. Might be worth checking.

This is concerning, especially as he has a child that isn't yours, so this is not a fresh relationship straight out of high school.

How do you not have an individual account?

How do you not know that you can have paperless banking; when most organisations are begging customers to go paperless?

I have a joint account with my daughter that shows on both our apps, but the single name accounts only show in our individual apps.

For your peace of mind, just open an account with a separate bank, in your name only and opt for paperless everything.

Money in envelopes and threadbags was my grandmother's days. I don't even think that's safe anymore, especially in a complicated relationship.

Open a Monzo or Revolut account - they also do savings accounts and ISAs. Get your salary paid there and transfer however much of it you don't want to save into your joint account each month. That way he will not know how much you are earning and how much you have squirrelled away. It can still look like you've had a pay rise but you don't have to own up to all of it.

Nationwide does online accounts only w a decent interest rate. No statements etc in the post.
I have a few (not running away fund _ we just have a jo8nt a/c elsewhere which we both pay into. My money in excess of that are mine, and his money”s his)

or a GBP Wise account. No statements either.

I have an isa with £20 000 every year solely in name and so does husband and every child over 18. Solely in my name and solely in his name. I could walk tomorrow and pay upfront for a years rent as could he.

Exactly. Men fret about the financial impact of divorce because they don’t want the indignity of living in the smaller houses or flats many women are literally dreaming of getting together enough cash to secure because they’ve scaffolded their partner’s careers for a decade.

Another REALLY depressing example of how wifework/childcare/domestic duties are classed as worthless and not as important as a 'paid job.' (In the eyes of some!!!)

Absolutely unbelievable that it's 2026, and some people still have this shitty attitude! The OP spent time looking after and raising the children and brought less income home from 'a job' because of this... The children she chose to have, and her husband CHOSE to have too. He CHOSE this. As you say, he would have paid a fuck load out of his money from his big important job if he had had to pay for childcare!

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