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No1YouKnow · 17/01/2026 15:59

Ok, this got me thinking over Christmas and really irritated me so I’m interested to know what other people think!

I have three children - all boys - and lots of people sent cards to me, DH & ‘the boys’. If they used their nicknames (which they are usually referred to as, shortened version of their name) it would literally be 4 characters extra to ensure every name was wrote.

It’s SO annoying! I can’t really articulate why, just feels like they aren’t being addressed but lumped into a group.

If you have ‘girls’ do you have the same thing? Is this a 3+ children matter?

This is quite lighthearted, I mean I’d never say anything & I’m not sat seething about it, just pondering whether I am being unreasonable to be highly irritated & wishing people would write their names…

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jbm16 · 17/01/2026 16:05

Some people really have too much time on their hands...

Perhaps they can't remember all the children's names??

Gahr · 17/01/2026 16:04

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Littletreefrog · 17/01/2026 16:04

But I have only two boys and they get "the boys" a lot as well so I think when you have all of one sex they do get lumped together unfortunately.

Littletreefrog · 17/01/2026 16:03

Who is sending the cards are they people who can definitely remember all 3 names? We send "and family" cards to some of DHs half brothers and sisters as we are not overly close and they have quite a few kids and step kids between them and I would rather do that than get a name wrong or miss someone off.