To ask if this is controlling?

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Chefpig · 17/01/2026 15:52

Riding in a relatives car, I'm mostly on the back seat. He has the child lock on the window and very rarely allows me to wind the window im closest to down even on a nice day. He doesn't like the wind apparently. His wife does not think this is controlling but thinks it's hilarious when I ask and he refuses.

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TokenGinger · 17/01/2026 15:59

When my back windows are open, it creates a dragging feeling. I can’t explain it! I have a long car, my old car (much smaller) didn’t do that. It makes a really awful noise. I have to have the front windows at the same time to mitigate the sound.

So I also have the child locks on the windows so that the kids can’t wind them up and down to distract me.

Nannyfannybanny · 17/01/2026 15:59

Ask the front seat passenger to open their 🪟 a little. We don't open the back windows, the road noise is horrendous, especially as I have hearing aids.

MildlyAnnoyed · 17/01/2026 15:57

I don’t let my children wind down the back window unless the front one is open because it’s noisy if just the back window is open. The noise hurts my ears!

Morechocmorechoc · 17/01/2026 15:55

Mayhe he doesnt want the fumes in the car.

TragicMuse · 17/01/2026 15:55

In isolation I wouldn’t say controlling exactly. But weirdly restrictive and not very accommodating.

rubyslippers · 17/01/2026 15:54

Imdunfer · 17/01/2026 15:53

Driver chooses unless there's a medical need, for me.

What? Everyone had to sit in a stuffy car?!

rubyslippers · 17/01/2026 15:54

Yes and rude

Imdunfer · 17/01/2026 15:53

Driver chooses unless there's a medical need, for me.

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