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Aibu to feel humiliated by this

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Ionbroo · 17/01/2026 15:27

So my DH had a peloton ride today. When he finished he went upstairs (very sweaty) and sat on the ensuite toilet seat to "cool down a bit", had a shower then came downstairs and sat and had his lunch. While he was eating I took some clean clothes upstairs to put away. Part way through I needed the loo so went to use the toilet. I sat down and the seat was wet. I very quickly realised I was sitting in DH's sweat! 🤮

I feel pretty disgusted by this and we ended up having a big row over it. I feel justified in being upset but not sure if I'm making a bigger thing out of it than is necessary. Not sure what I'm asking, I think I just needed to vent. I'd appreciate some perspective.

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YourLoyalPlumOP · 17/01/2026 16:02

You sure it wasn’t condensation after a shower?

we have this in our en suite a lot. My husband likes hot hot showers.

ErlingHaalandsManBun · 17/01/2026 16:02

Humiliated? Strong word and not one I would use in the circumstances. Its a bit grim though.

I would mention to DH that he hadn't cleaned the seat and I had sat in his sweat. He would no doubt be mortified he forgot and apologise.

The End.

GoldDuster · 17/01/2026 16:01

Humiliated why? If you've ever had a shag on a hot day you've been covered in his sweat and more hopefully.

I don't think that this is big row territory, it's wipe up the trail you leave behind, that's all.

DappledThings · 17/01/2026 16:01

Why on earth would it be humiliating? That makes no sense. Bit grossed out and annoyed sure.

cardibach · 17/01/2026 15:59

If the shower is in the same room as the toilet, which is how I read it, it’s far more likely to have been condensation from shower steam surely? Sweat would have dried by the time he showered, dried, dressed, came downstairs and sorted his lunch.

YourLoyalPlumOP · 17/01/2026 15:58

Ionbroo · 17/01/2026 15:27

So my DH had a peloton ride today. When he finished he went upstairs (very sweaty) and sat on the ensuite toilet seat to "cool down a bit", had a shower then came downstairs and sat and had his lunch. While he was eating I took some clean clothes upstairs to put away. Part way through I needed the loo so went to use the toilet. I sat down and the seat was wet. I very quickly realised I was sitting in DH's sweat! 🤮

I feel pretty disgusted by this and we ended up having a big row over it. I feel justified in being upset but not sure if I'm making a bigger thing out of it than is necessary. Not sure what I'm asking, I think I just needed to vent. I'd appreciate some perspective.

Eh?

i asssume you’ve swapped bodily fluids at this point before???

I mean yeah. Wouldn’t bother me at all. I’d just clean the lid. Wouldn’t gross me out though.

he didn’t do it on purpose so wouldn’t bother me but I know it would others.

shrug.

TokenGinger · 17/01/2026 15:57

I’ve had DP’s sweat drip all over me many times before, I couldn’t get worked up over it 😂

I’d simply say hey sweaty balls, you forgot to clean the bathroom after you. That’s one in the bank for me next time you complain I didn’t clear my hair out of the drain.

20thCenturyFecks · 17/01/2026 15:56

Yuk! He should have wiped down after himself.

Humiliated though? What else is going on in your life..

No87 · 17/01/2026 15:53

ChurchWindows · 17/01/2026 15:47

You - Urgh grim, I just sat in a puddle of your sweat.
Him - Christ, I'm an animal. I meant to clean up. Sorry.
You - Please don't do that again, it brought my bile up.
Him - Of course. D'you wanna cuppa?

Marriage continues in cheery fashion.

Or in my household it would be:
You - eww, I sat in your sweat, gross
Him - oops, sorry. Your bum ok?
Both of us laugh and move on with our day.

Life is too short and stressful enough without big rows over essentially nothing.

Screamingabdabz · 17/01/2026 15:52

I thought you were going to say you sat in his spunk… 😦

Even then it wouldn’t merit a row, just an eye roll and a ‘oh ffs…’

TessSaysYes · 17/01/2026 15:51

Personally I don't think it's worth a big row at all...unless he's a total slob I'd be more forgiving of smallish transgressions.

Swedishh · 17/01/2026 15:50

Crazy to argue over this, surely you just ask him to clean it after sitting on it next time.

IceBrownie · 17/01/2026 15:48

Do you understand the definition of "humiliation"?

Overtheatlantic · 17/01/2026 15:47

I don’t think humiliated means what you think it means.

ChurchWindows · 17/01/2026 15:47

You - Urgh grim, I just sat in a puddle of your sweat.
Him - Christ, I'm an animal. I meant to clean up. Sorry.
You - Please don't do that again, it brought my bile up.
Him - Of course. D'you wanna cuppa?

Marriage continues in cheery fashion.

TheAutumnCrow · 17/01/2026 15:45

He must have been literally dripping sweat? It’s a bit odd not to strip off his lycra downstairs by the washing machine or the front door.

Humiliated, no. Fucked off, yep.

goldenlockets · 17/01/2026 15:43

WhyamIinahandcartandwherearewegoing · 17/01/2026 15:39

a man who doesn’t sweat you say? That’s not the win you might think…

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At least we all know it wasn't Andrew Windsor Mountbatten

JLou08 · 17/01/2026 15:43

I'd tell my DH it was gross, he'd laugh and apologise, that would be the end of it. Not really worth a huge roe.

HisNotHes · 17/01/2026 15:42

You’re definitely overreacting!

He should have wiped his sweat off out of courtesy but it’s really no big deal, just ask him to make sure he does it next time. As bodily fluids go it’s not the worst one, and I assume you’re regularly sharing others with him.

Taweofterror · 17/01/2026 15:41

Humiliated?? I'd have told him to wipe his sweat off next time but can't imagine it descending into a row

FieldInWhichFucksAreGrownIsBarren · 17/01/2026 15:40

It's gross yes, humiliating? No. Bit strange that's how you felt tbh. Definitely not worth a big row though. I'm assuming he does other shitty things and this is the final straw?

goldenlockets · 17/01/2026 15:40

Ionbroo · 17/01/2026 15:27

So my DH had a peloton ride today. When he finished he went upstairs (very sweaty) and sat on the ensuite toilet seat to "cool down a bit", had a shower then came downstairs and sat and had his lunch. While he was eating I took some clean clothes upstairs to put away. Part way through I needed the loo so went to use the toilet. I sat down and the seat was wet. I very quickly realised I was sitting in DH's sweat! 🤮

I feel pretty disgusted by this and we ended up having a big row over it. I feel justified in being upset but not sure if I'm making a bigger thing out of it than is necessary. Not sure what I'm asking, I think I just needed to vent. I'd appreciate some perspective.

Good grief.

You're getting worked up over nothing.

If this is how you manage your marriage it's a wonder you're both still in it.

How do you cope with sex? you know, some people even get sweaty together and exchange bodily fluids as well.

WhyamIinahandcartandwherearewegoing · 17/01/2026 15:39

Mischance · 17/01/2026 15:30

You are very easily disgusted!

When you ditch this chap, make sure you find one who does not sweat.

a man who doesn’t sweat you say? That’s not the win you might think…

Aibu to feel humiliated by this
PinkyFlamingo · 17/01/2026 15:36

You're humiliated? Why?

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Ionbroo · 17/01/2026 15:35

Maybe saying humiliated was a bit ott but in that moment when I realised why it was wet it felt pretty humiliating!

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