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I just got pulled over for doing 32 in a 30

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dialdrunkforyou · 17/01/2026 13:02

I’m shaking as I write this. I just drove out to walk the dogs and on my way back a police car pulled me over. I was doing 32 in a 30 and he said I was “lucky” that he’s not choosing to prosecute me over this.

AIBU or is this total overkill? It’s a dry sunny day, the roads are relatively quiet and I wasn’t driving erratically.

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grumpygrape · 18/01/2026 16:09

DenizenOfAisleOfShame · 18/01/2026 14:07

What? Have you never driven behind a bus, or buses together?

Do you seriously think drivers hang 50 yards behind a bus?

Not so close I couldn't see road furniture (and have an appropriate braking distance).

50 yards. Do you know how far 50 yards is? 😂

NoKnit · 18/01/2026 15:57

No clue if it's already been mentioned as not read 25 pages of thread but surely you could avoid this if you actually walked with your dogs on their walk instead of taking them in the car? That is the bit I find strange

Elbowpatch · 18/01/2026 15:52

oviraptor21 · 18/01/2026 14:39

Anyone else find it odd that it was a lone police officer? I thought they worked in pairs?

Lone police officer OK if the police car has a calibrated speedometer.

trustedadult · 18/01/2026 15:45

Why are you so scared about this? That's weird. If there's a limit it's a limit if 30 isn't the limit ,would you expect everyone to say it's 32 or 40 or should there be no limit

DenizenOfAisleOfShame · 18/01/2026 15:45

Saladbrains · 18/01/2026 15:39

Up the thread you wrote:
“But the simple fact is that we all break the limit a little, without any carelessness at all.”

Do you drive “at entirely safe and appropriate speeds”

Do you break the speed limits “a little”

Do you lie when it suits you?

What are talking about? Your comments are just silly now.

Saladbrains · 18/01/2026 15:39

DenizenOfAisleOfShame · 18/01/2026 14:04

I don’t have a speed limiter.

And I drive at entirely safe and appropriate speeds and distances behind vehicles of whatever sort, adjusting for conditions.

Up the thread you wrote:
“But the simple fact is that we all break the limit a little, without any carelessness at all.”

Do you drive “at entirely safe and appropriate speeds”

Do you break the speed limits “a little”

Do you lie when it suits you?

Somersetbaker · 18/01/2026 15:21

oviraptor21 · 18/01/2026 14:39

Anyone else find it odd that it was a lone police officer? I thought they worked in pairs?

That's why the op was let off with a warning, maybe it was the end of his shift and he didn't fancy the paperwork. Presumably the police car was following the op for some time before he pulled her over, so she was not only speeding but not keeping an eye on her mirrors, the guys with cameras in vans, on motorway bridges etc, don't pull you over, you get a NIP in the post with a link to download the photo of you breaking the law.

SpoonFaces · 18/01/2026 14:51

Piknik · 17/01/2026 13:37

I live in London and most roads are now 20mph. It's almost impossible to keep to it and takes a lot of concentration. I got 3 points and a £120 fine last week for doing 23.

I did exactly the same. I got a ticket and fine for doing 23 in a 20 road during the pandemic. It was 6 am and I was going to the hospital to work. I admit that I had resentful thoughts of outrage as I thought about everybody else staying home, and I was been given a ticket as I was driving to work on the wards at 6 am. But I got over it and have pretty much kept to the speed limit since. Though in 20 mph zones, most people here do not keep to the speed limit unless there is a speed camera.

ThreeSixtyTwo · 18/01/2026 14:48

grumpygrape · 18/01/2026 11:49

But presumably he explained after their communication and they were then aware?

You really don't see how invasive and bigbrothery this approach is?

Noone should question why are you driving if you aren't drunk or speeding or breaking law in some other way.

Pollyanna87 · 18/01/2026 14:47

dialdrunkforyou · 18/01/2026 13:40

Well the reason she was hit was because the driver bent down, not because he was speeding.

You are a thoroughly selfish individual

oviraptor21 · 18/01/2026 14:39

Anyone else find it odd that it was a lone police officer? I thought they worked in pairs?

SerendipityJane · 18/01/2026 14:38

The guys with the speed guns tend to be the same guys who get to pick up the pieces when someone is speeding and causes an accident. They aren't always that lenient.

A guy I was at school with (eventually) became a fireman. His first week he was called to a car smash on the A40. It was foggy and a van had inexplicably broken down or stopped in the right hand lane. A Mini Metro with 4 teenagers went into it at well over 60. My friend was sent to look for someones head.

He'd always been a bit "roughie toughie" as we said. But that made him a bit less cavalier about things.

DenizenOfAisleOfShame · 18/01/2026 14:07

grumpygrape · 18/01/2026 14:04

How close up the exhaust pipe of the vehicle Infront are you if you can't see road signs ? and if the rain or fog is so thick you can't see signs need to slow down, or probably stop anyway.

What? Have you never driven behind a bus, or buses together?

Do you seriously think drivers hang 50 yards behind a bus?

grumpygrape · 18/01/2026 14:04

DenizenOfAisleOfShame · 18/01/2026 13:49

Oh wow. I didn’t realise Specsavers did glasses that let you see through buses, lorries, fog and rain. And around bends and corners.

I must get some of these Bionic Woman specs.

But I try not to look around me too much anyway, because MN posters tell me I must be aware of my exact speed at all times so I’m largely fixed on the speedometer. 🙄

How close up the exhaust pipe of the vehicle Infront are you if you can't see road signs ? and if the rain or fog is so thick you can't see signs need to slow down, or probably stop anyway.

DenizenOfAisleOfShame · 18/01/2026 14:04

Saladbrains · 18/01/2026 13:57

Hence the speed limiter control: your eyes are liberated from speedo duty and free to take in speed limit signs and hazards.

Golden rule, if you can’t see through it, slow down enough so that even if it brakes hard, you won’t smash into the rear of it.

Same with rain and blind bends, imagine there’s a stationary 44-ton truck just out of sight, and that given a preference, you wouldn’t want to impale yourself onto the back of it.

Simples. No bionics required.

I don’t have a speed limiter.

And I drive at entirely safe and appropriate speeds and distances behind vehicles of whatever sort, adjusting for conditions.

Saladbrains · 18/01/2026 13:57

DenizenOfAisleOfShame · 18/01/2026 13:49

Oh wow. I didn’t realise Specsavers did glasses that let you see through buses, lorries, fog and rain. And around bends and corners.

I must get some of these Bionic Woman specs.

But I try not to look around me too much anyway, because MN posters tell me I must be aware of my exact speed at all times so I’m largely fixed on the speedometer. 🙄

Hence the speed limiter control: your eyes are liberated from speedo duty and free to take in speed limit signs and hazards.

Golden rule, if you can’t see through it, slow down enough so that even if it brakes hard, you won’t smash into the rear of it.

Same with rain and blind bends, imagine there’s a stationary 44-ton truck just out of sight, and that given a preference, you wouldn’t want to impale yourself onto the back of it.

Simples. No bionics required.

NemesisInferior · 18/01/2026 13:55

dialdrunkforyou · 18/01/2026 11:45

Interestingly I’ve just had a google. Toyota tend to build in a 3-5mph overestimation into their speedometers as they can be over, but not under.

So I was likely only doing 29!

You wouldn't have been pulled over if you were doing 29.

Just grow up. You broke the rules; you got caught and you were lucky enough to get just a warning. Accept some personal responsibility like an adult.

Elbowpatch · 18/01/2026 13:55

OonaStubbs · 18/01/2026 07:27

It's supposed to be 10% of the limit +2 that they pull you over at anyway. Which is 35 in a 30mph zone.

They can pull you over at any speed over the limit. It’s up to them whether or not they actually prosecute or not.

As the OP found out.

tigger1001 · 18/01/2026 13:53

dialdrunkforyou · 18/01/2026 13:40

Well the reason she was hit was because the driver bent down, not because he was speeding.

Jesus!

did you read the post?? That's what you took from it?? I'm not actually sure you should be driving at all!

golemmings · 18/01/2026 13:50

I got done doing 62 up hill in an overtaking lane in a 60.

The guys with the speed guns tend to be the same guys who get to pick up the pieces when someone is speeding and causes an accident. They aren't always that lenient.

Id consider yourself very lucky and stick to the speed limit in future.

DenizenOfAisleOfShame · 18/01/2026 13:49

Saladbrains · 18/01/2026 13:31

You need to go to Spec Savers.

And use your reading glasses with your car manual.

There are large round speed limit signs.

There are control stalks and buttons on/around the steering wheel for speed limiter, and cruise control, that specifically maintain speed for drivers who need help with that.

Sheer laziness

Oh wow. I didn’t realise Specsavers did glasses that let you see through buses, lorries, fog and rain. And around bends and corners.

I must get some of these Bionic Woman specs.

But I try not to look around me too much anyway, because MN posters tell me I must be aware of my exact speed at all times so I’m largely fixed on the speedometer. 🙄

Saladbrains · 18/01/2026 13:47

dialdrunkforyou · 18/01/2026 13:40

Well the reason she was hit was because the driver bent down, not because he was speeding.

An awful thing happened to that poster’s SIL and all you can say is something defensive??!

MargoChanningsglass · 18/01/2026 13:46

dialdrunkforyou · 18/01/2026 13:40

Well the reason she was hit was because the driver bent down, not because he was speeding.

Wow

The empathy is really hanging out of you isn't it?

Mumsnet pettiness at its finest

Shaking at the nasty policeman having a word but ignoring a posters lived experience, well done you

grumpygrape · 18/01/2026 13:45

dialdrunkforyou · 18/01/2026 13:40

Well the reason she was hit was because the driver bent down, not because he was speeding.

Did you read that post? The reason she died was the excessive speed.

dialdrunkforyou · 18/01/2026 13:40

Ducksbehindthesofa · 18/01/2026 13:22

Many years ago, my SIL was a pedestrian when she was knocked over by a driver who dropped something in the footwell of his car and reached down to retrieve it, swerving onto the pavement in the process.

The driver was doing 36mph in a built-up area. The coroner said if he had been doing 30mph, my SIL the likelihood was that she would have survived her (fatal) injuries.

Well the reason she was hit was because the driver bent down, not because he was speeding.

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