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I just got pulled over for doing 32 in a 30

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dialdrunkforyou · 17/01/2026 13:02

I’m shaking as I write this. I just drove out to walk the dogs and on my way back a police car pulled me over. I was doing 32 in a 30 and he said I was “lucky” that he’s not choosing to prosecute me over this.

AIBU or is this total overkill? It’s a dry sunny day, the roads are relatively quiet and I wasn’t driving erratically.

OP posts:
grumpygrape · 17/01/2026 14:36

dialdrunkforyou · 17/01/2026 14:30

I tend to pay attention to the road ahead of me, which is what you’re taught to do.

OP, from your posts.

AIBU or is this total overkill? It’s a dry sunny day, the roads are relatively quiet and I wasn’t driving erratically.

Where does it say you are OK to drive above the limit on dry sunny quiet days (the French, sensibly, reduce their speed limits in wet weather, they don’t increase them for dry, sunny, quiet days).

Yes, you shaking is overkill. You should be suitably contrite and appreciative you haven’t been prosecuted.

Because it’s a slight downhill?

I’ve already said – this isn’t going to wash with the Magistrates.

Nope. The speedo showed me at 32.

If you knew your speedo told you 32, which was over the limit, why didn’t you bring your speed down immediately instead of continuing to break the law?

oh give over. If I was doing 35 I’d understand but a couple of MPH on a clear road with a slight downhill isn’t speeding.

Yes it is.

I just think it’s a bit silly. About two miles away there’s a town full of drug addicts and drunks who make part of the town a no go area. But they’d rather pull over innocent people!

Does that mean you don’t want any traffic offences dealt with because the Police should be dealing with other potential offenders ? Are you aware many other offenders are caught by being stopped for traffic offences ?What part of exceeding the speed limit makes you ‘innocent’?

Because he was very intimidating, I’m a woman on my own and he was treating me like a criminal

If he acted inappropriately you need to report him, although I wonder why you think you should be treated differently to a man on his own. However, he was treating you like a person who had broken the law…..

But I was. (in response to ‘you weren’t innocent’)

You were – you were guilty of breaking the speed limit.

This is exactly it. He’s a man on his own, seen a lone woman doing 32 and decided to exercise a power trip.

As I said above, if he acted inappropriately then report him and prove he was on a power trip. He was doing his job.

You’re not going to the magistrates for 32 in a 30 😂

Trust me, you might.

This is how I feel. My town has a huge crime problem. But instead of spending time on that, they’re doing this.

Also, if his Speedo said 32, he must have been doing it too. So he was also just as in the wrong!

I don’t think Traffic cops investigate the other crimes mentioned. As I said previously, higher level criminal are often caught through traffic offences. Also, if we didn’t have Traffic cops we could all drive however we decided was OK. Are you Ok with drug dealers screeching round at 70 outside your children’s schools ?

Oh, please, don’t bring out the ‘if I was over the limit, so was he’ argument. How do you think the Police catch people if they don’t chase them? Burglars, drug dealers, murderers all get away if they put their foot down if the Police can't drive over the limit.

I tend to pay attention to the road ahead of me, which is what you’re taught to do.

Errrr, what do your think that mirror in the middle of the windscreen is for. apart from doing your make up in? Not just for Mirror, signal, manoeuvre but as you travel.


Genuine question. What would stop you from breaking the law in future?
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Oh, and congratulations for posting a thread which has ticked off about 10 boxes on my MN Bingo card for 2026

allthingsinmoderation · 17/01/2026 14:35

jamandcustard · 17/01/2026 14:14

Nope, there's no threshold. Some forces choose not to prosecute until you're a certain amount over, but that's just choice, it's not the law.

I take your point ,I didn't think it was law,my daughter was told by the police that speed camera "guidelines" for prosecution was 10% plus 2 and this police officer followed those guidelines, but it was discretionary and that its illegal to exceed the speed limit and you could be prosecuted 1mp over the limit.

Beachtastic · 17/01/2026 14:33

TamarindCottage · 17/01/2026 14:26

“I'd be walking everywhere if the police round here started doing their jobs” 😂

I think there's a difference between doing your job and being a jobsworth! 🤔😁

NameChangeElaine · 17/01/2026 14:33

In dry conditions:

Stopping distance at 30mph - 23 metres
Stopping distance at 32mph - 26 metres
Stopping distance at 35mph - 29.5 metres

Risk of death: 30mph - 20%
Risk of death: 32mph - 25%
Risk of death: 35mph - 33%

A crash at 32mph has roughly 14% more kinetic energy than a crash at 30mph.

All of you getting on your high horses, yeah it’s all fun and games until it’s you who has to bury your child thanks to a speeding driver, go on, ask me how I know? In my case, a single fucking metre was the difference between life and death so yeah, a 3 metres stopping difference between 30mph and 32mph is not “nothing”. But yeah, poor you OP, shaking because the big bad policeman gave you a telling off for something you actually did.

Also, it’s a speed LIMIT not a speed target, if 2mph is “nothing” why the fuck not just go at 28mph? No difference right?

Also OP, maybe you should take refresher lessons if you don’t know how to mitigate your speed when going downhill and think that’s some sort of excuse.

Driving is so normal that it’s easy to become complacent and forget that the rules are there for a reason and actually one lapse in judgement can be the difference between life and death.

jamandcustard · 17/01/2026 14:31

dialdrunkforyou · 17/01/2026 14:30

I tend to pay attention to the road ahead of me, which is what you’re taught to do.

You should also be regularly checking your mirrors to see what's happening behind and to the sides!

1457bloom · 17/01/2026 14:31

NemesisInferior · 17/01/2026 14:24

Imagine using the phrase "Have the police got nothing better to do?" and then accusing someone else of being immature.

Go straight to pedants corner.

ViciousCurrentBun · 17/01/2026 14:30

We all come across rules we don’t like or maybe disagree with. If there is a consequence to it being broken then we have to live with it. My MIL got a ticket, she was about 5 miles over the limit on a dual carriageway. Because she always thinks she is above mere mortals she wrote a letter, they still fined her and she had to do a course.

TheHillIsMine · 17/01/2026 14:30

dialdrunkforyou · 17/01/2026 13:13

I just think it’s a bit silly. About two miles away there’s a town full of drug addicts and drunks who make part of the town a no go area. But they’d rather pull over innocent people!

You aren't innocent. You drove without due care as didn't notice you had gone over the limit. Shaking over it is meant to get you sympathy but you just sound ridiculous.

dialdrunkforyou · 17/01/2026 14:30

C8H10N4O2 · 17/01/2026 14:29

Crimes caused by common oicks in oicksville should be pursued but crimes committed by naice ladies walking their dogs should not?

You were speeding and failed to notice the police car behind you (so not paying attention). Most of us have been there, suck it up and watch your speed more carefully. I use the cruise controls to ensure I don’t go over the 20/30 limits because its so easy to do, especially if distracted by children or animals in the car. If he was on a power trip he would have given you the ticket.

Most of the injuries caused by speeding drivers are caused by urban drivers going over the 20/30 limits, not drug dealers speeding on motorways.

I tend to pay attention to the road ahead of me, which is what you’re taught to do.

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C8H10N4O2 · 17/01/2026 14:29

dialdrunkforyou · 17/01/2026 13:49

This is how I feel. My town has a huge crime problem. But instead of spending time on that, they’re doing this.

Also, if his Speedo said 32, he must have been doing it too. So he was also just as in the wrong!

Crimes caused by common oicks in oicksville should be pursued but crimes committed by naice ladies walking their dogs should not?

You were speeding and failed to notice the police car behind you (so not paying attention). Most of us have been there, suck it up and watch your speed more carefully. I use the cruise controls to ensure I don’t go over the 20/30 limits because its so easy to do, especially if distracted by children or animals in the car. If he was on a power trip he would have given you the ticket.

Most of the injuries caused by speeding drivers are caused by urban drivers going over the 20/30 limits, not drug dealers speeding on motorways.

TamarindCottage · 17/01/2026 14:26

Beachtastic · 17/01/2026 13:44

I'd be walking everywhere if the police round here started being so picky 🫢

“I'd be walking everywhere if the police round here started doing their jobs” 😂

RaininSummer · 17/01/2026 14:25

It is annoying when here they seem to ignore the prats doing seventy in residential streets regularly.

jamandcustard · 17/01/2026 14:25

MartySupremeisascream · 17/01/2026 14:23

He stopped her for a difference of 2mph.
That's bs.
I wonder how many men he stopped for exceeding the speed limit by 2mph.
My guess is none.
It's a power play by a dickhead.
Anyone nitpicking like this should be in another job.

Anyone doing their job should be in another job? How does that work then?

OP is lucky she wasn't fined or given points/a course.

NemesisInferior · 17/01/2026 14:24

1457bloom · 17/01/2026 13:53

There seem to be double standards, although maybe you are too immature to grasp my point. The police don’t seem to rigidly enforce speed limits on the motorway but they do in town. The messaging this sends is that the speed limit is flexible on the motorway but not in town which is confusing and opens them up to legal challenge.

Imagine using the phrase "Have the police got nothing better to do?" and then accusing someone else of being immature.

jamandcustard · 17/01/2026 14:24

Dweetfidilove · 17/01/2026 14:16

Really 😲. I've always had the 10% rule in mind too, so will ensure I don't go over 29mph going forward.

Yep, really. The 10% rule is just guidance that some forces choose to follow.

DH was on a speed awareness course a couple of years ago and there were people there who were going the same speed as OP. She's lucky she didn't get a fine!

MartySupremeisascream · 17/01/2026 14:23

Shawdown · 17/01/2026 14:08

He’s not taking it further so how can it be overkill?

He stopped her for a difference of 2mph.
That's bs.
I wonder how many men he stopped for exceeding the speed limit by 2mph.
My guess is none.
It's a power play by a dickhead.
Anyone nitpicking like this should be in another job.

SlayBelle · 17/01/2026 14:22

Coulddowithanap · 17/01/2026 14:20

Can everyone honestly tell if the driver of the car in front is male or female? How would they have known until after op was pulled over?

Of course you can. Especially if you were parked up first and she drove past you.

NemesisInferior · 17/01/2026 14:22

Piknik · 17/01/2026 13:48

I have been driving for 35 years and for most of my life London was 30mph minimum. 20mph feels un-naturally slow to me and my car. Most modern cars are not designed to drive at 20mph and it IS an effort to keep adjusting down.

But I am completely in control thanks. Sorry to burst your sanctimonious bubble.

If you can't keep your car at a given speed then you are not in control of it, despite any bullshit excuses about cars "not being designed to drive at 20mph".

This is just a fact. Nothing sanctimonious about that at all.

MimiSunshine · 17/01/2026 14:21

MyLimeGuide · 17/01/2026 13:33

Maybe he has his own personal 'being a dick' targets to meet?

How about you have a think about what horrific scenes traffic officers see when dealing with a crash, often due to excessive speeding. Or when children have been hit by cars in 30 MPH zones.

now use that mental image to consider that they approach their job with the idea that if they can make more people aware of their driving and even their speed when going above the speed limit (even if not excessive) then they may just make that person more aware overall and would have less horrific car crash scenes to attend.

rainforestalliance · 17/01/2026 14:21

My grandmother got a speeding fine for doing 31 in a 30!

Tbf we all creep a mile or 2 over the limit, I don’t believe anyone who says they never do.

LetMeGoogleThat · 17/01/2026 14:21

BeverleyBrooks · 17/01/2026 14:16

I think I would have been shaken by being pulled over too. Probably overkill him pulling you over, maybe he was having a boring day.

I think most people who drive must have occasionally gone slightly over the speed limit without meaning to.

However judging by the idiots who drive right up my backside when I am driving to the speed limit and seem to be annoyed that I am not going faster, I guess there are a lot of drivers around who deliberately go over the limit too….

It’s 20 mph where I live which is difficult sometimes as the neighbouring borough is 30mph so you do have to pay close attention as to where it changes.
Also a lot of idiots seem to think that me driving at 20mph in a 20mph zone is some sort of nuisance, and will try to overtake me at any available opportunity (including going through red lights, driving into oncoming traffic, and driving the wrong way around a pedestrian crossing….) even though it’s highly likely I will be just behind them at the next lights. So it becomes quite stressful dealing with the other drivers. But I have never ever seen anyone pulled over for their terrible driving.

It's not overkill, it's optics! How many other cars went past and slowed down as a result. Overkill may have been if he'd given her a ticket, but even that would have been perfectly legal.

rhabarbarmarmelade · 17/01/2026 14:21

No sympathy whatsoever. Speed kills

WatalotIgot · 17/01/2026 14:20

If you have cruise control on your vehicle you could use it to keep to the speed limit. I agree it seems petty but limits are there for a reason. My daughter was hit by a car at 28mph and suffered a broken leg and hit her head on the road. If it had been going over 30mph she could have died or suffered a catastrophic head injury.

Coulddowithanap · 17/01/2026 14:20

Can everyone honestly tell if the driver of the car in front is male or female? How would they have known until after op was pulled over?

randomchap · 17/01/2026 14:16

So you didn't even notice the police car behind you? Most people will rigidly stick to the speed limit if there's a copper behind them

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