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My doctor was late to my appointment because he had been at the local country hotel full of asylum seekers...

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doodiethewonderdog · 17/01/2026 10:59

When was the last time you had a home visit? Is this a way of managing the " problem" by them taking clinics there? Is it a way of hiding this issue? I understood they did not have access to the NHS yet I see massive bags of medicine labelled for this hotel too at the dispensary. We wait about 6-7 weeks for a routine appointment.

My doctor was late to my appointment because he had been at the local country hotel full of asylum seekers...
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Dollymylove · 17/01/2026 18:38

saraclara · 17/01/2026 18:24

Those twelve female asylum seekers that I worked with a few weeks ago were obviously a figment of my imagination. Or, to double down on infuriating the bigots, maybe they were all trans.

Those UKip billboards showing queues of men trying to 'invade are country' clearly worked for them. Because I suspect that the majority of the population thinks that asylum seekers are all male.

Ask the people of Epping snd the people of Crowborough what they think.
That's just the ones we have been made aware of

CunningLinguist2 · 17/01/2026 18:37

doodiethewonderdog · 17/01/2026 11:25

My file is thick I can assure you.

Not the only thick thing, is it?

LittleMi55Nobody · 17/01/2026 18:37

weetumshie · 17/01/2026 15:14

I often wonder if people like the op would prefer asylum seekers with serious illnesses, sometimes contagious diseases or who are just unwell should be left to either die or roam around the streets infecting people. The racists don’t want them in hotels, don’t want them in army camps so wandering around with untreated illness is the logical outcome if you don’t want them treated or securely housed. As for no access to NHS-given the madness of the antivaxxers would you prefer measles, TB, flu etc outbreaks left untreated and left to spread? I know these racist idiots exist, but I just can’t understand why they’ve never availed themselves of the education offered to them since childhood so that they can at least TRY to use even a modicum of logic in their thinking.

logic being is, if they stopped illegals entering then they wouldnt be infecting anyone and its not rascist to not want these people here..piss off to where theyve come from if youre so pro

CunningLinguist2 · 17/01/2026 18:35

doodiethewonderdog · 17/01/2026 11:21

It's sad that this cannot be discussed. It's not goady. It's a matter of fact for some people. What is Labour's solution? To build new homes for these men. How do people on council waiting lists feel about this. We ARE allowed to raise these issues.

Nigel, is that you again?
😂😂😂

NoSoupForU · 17/01/2026 18:26

Gloriia · 17/01/2026 17:07

Well of course it impacts othere if she can't organise herself and patients are waiting back at the practice.
Maybe they should do these sessions in the afternoon so if they overrun due to poor time management the only person affected is the GP and if they're late off they might review things.

Except that would impact working people who predominantly want late afternoon and evening appointments.

And she doesn't actually work as a GP in surgery on a Tuesday morning, which is when she does her other contracted work. So if she wasn't doing the contracted work she still wouldn't be in surgery.

saraclara · 17/01/2026 18:24

Those twelve female asylum seekers that I worked with a few weeks ago were obviously a figment of my imagination. Or, to double down on infuriating the bigots, maybe they were all trans.

Those UKip billboards showing queues of men trying to 'invade are country' clearly worked for them. Because I suspect that the majority of the population thinks that asylum seekers are all male.

ElectoralControversy · 17/01/2026 18:14

shuggles · 17/01/2026 17:57

@DuncinToffee Your source says 59% of asylum seekers are adult men, whereas 21% are adult women.

That's what I would expect to see. In all countries outside of the UK, men outnumber women by almost 3 to 1. That is common knowledge.

You also need to bear in mind that poverty and war are issues that only affect men. The women in those countries live in magic houses that shield them from all of those problems. So we need to ensure we are doing everything we can to help men specifically.

Edited

Can you think of any reasons why a dangerous journey might have a different risk for men and women?

Even just a simple relatively low risk example like walking alone in UK woodland - what do you think the sex balance of people doing that would be?

Dollymylove · 17/01/2026 18:08

PatchouliPrincess · 17/01/2026 17:45

Then why do the hotels seem to be full of only men. Where are their families?

In one case doesn't suggest it's the norm, quite the opposite.

Probably either no wife and children or they were pushed off the boat to accommodate the MEN.
The citizens of my town have recently been informed that we are a "sanctuary city"
We weren't informed of this or allowed to make any objections.
In this week's news we have an illegal immigrants pissing in a children's play park, pacing up and down outside a primary school and chasing someone while brandishing 2 knives.
Last month it was one of our "HMO residents " , sited right opposite a primary school shouting Alan's snack bar as the kids were coming out of school
Great situation yeah?

IndyGestion · 17/01/2026 18:07

Gloriia · 17/01/2026 17:54

'I was also angry at that recent story of a GP mum who faked appts to do the school '

Yep but some posters on here seem to think GPs wouldn't ever take the piss.

What's the going rate for a session at an asylum centre does anyone know? We know since the GPs ditched out of hours care in the laughable 2004 contract that locums can charge thousands to cover a 111 shift. What do they get for these asylum sessions I wonder.

There are GPs, hospital doctors, nurses etc that take the piss, and those that go above and beyond, like in every profession. We need to come down on those who intentionally mislead (rather than overrun etc because of doing their job properly).

RottenBanana · 17/01/2026 18:04

PatchouliPrincess · 17/01/2026 17:52

I certainly wouldn't expect my husband to leave me behind with the kids in a war torn situation.
Would you?

It is easy to sit in a place of comfort and western privilege and think like this. Less easy is to truly know what people in these countries, with neighbour turning on neighbour are actually like. When you are absolutely desperate and have to decide to head for safety, on foot across 1000s of miles, a lone male is going to get further than a man accompanied by a wife and young children. Leaving rjem, probably with wider family gives them all a chance of survival.

SunnySideDeepDown · 17/01/2026 18:03

Ridiculous OP. Have some compassion and empathy (and critical thinking skills).

It’s much more effective to go there than have so many people try to travel to a GP surgery with no transport. Asylum seekers are not the route cause of problems in this country, stop trying to scape goat the vulnerable.

poetryandwine · 17/01/2026 18:02

Gloriia · 17/01/2026 17:54

'I was also angry at that recent story of a GP mum who faked appts to do the school '

Yep but some posters on here seem to think GPs wouldn't ever take the piss.

What's the going rate for a session at an asylum centre does anyone know? We know since the GPs ditched out of hours care in the laughable 2004 contract that locums can charge thousands to cover a 111 shift. What do they get for these asylum sessions I wonder.

As asylum seekers like all UK residents are fully eligible to register with a GP surgery, why do you assume the visit to the asylum hotel was not a routine part of the doctor’s NHS job?

BlackCatDiscoClub · 17/01/2026 18:00

DuncinToffee · 17/01/2026 17:50

From Gov.uk

A member of the family will travel out to get work and get set up, so they can then send money home and get their family to safety without having to go through the illegal trafficking. Are you as a mum going to put yourself and your children in a dinghy ride they might not survive? To get trampled to death at sea in an overcrowded inflatable full of scared people? Or be unable to prevent your child being thrown overboard as people panic and start trying to make it lighter so it doesnt sink? Thats what can happen when children are trafficked across the channel. In my darkest nightmares I hope I never have to see it.

shuggles · 17/01/2026 17:57

@DuncinToffee Your source says 59% of asylum seekers are adult men, whereas 21% are adult women.

That's what I would expect to see. In all countries outside of the UK, men outnumber women by almost 3 to 1. That is common knowledge.

You also need to bear in mind that poverty and war are issues that only affect men. The women in those countries live in magic houses that shield them from all of those problems. So we need to ensure we are doing everything we can to help men specifically.

shuggles · 17/01/2026 17:55

@wheelygoodfun Take it you've never been in an asylum hotel either. It definitely isnt 4 star luxury with the chef cooking meals off an a la carte menu. Think bunk beds in rooms originally intended for single people, mass catering using the cheapest possible ingredients. All asylum seeker food is meant to meet religious and cultural dietary needs. In practice this means that as long as the chicken nuggets are halal then thats sorted. Ever fancied chicken nuggets and chips at every meal for weeks on end?

Yes... we know...

The point is that no one in the UK gets housed for free.

Gloriia · 17/01/2026 17:54

'I was also angry at that recent story of a GP mum who faked appts to do the school '

Yep but some posters on here seem to think GPs wouldn't ever take the piss.

What's the going rate for a session at an asylum centre does anyone know? We know since the GPs ditched out of hours care in the laughable 2004 contract that locums can charge thousands to cover a 111 shift. What do they get for these asylum sessions I wonder.

PatchouliPrincess · 17/01/2026 17:52

BlanketyBlankBlank · 17/01/2026 15:27

Would you want your husband to take you and your children to an unknown place, where you don’t know how it’s going to be? Or to go ahead gets established and send for you and the children?

I certainly wouldn't expect my husband to leave me behind with the kids in a war torn situation.
Would you?

DuncinToffee · 17/01/2026 17:50

From Gov.uk

My doctor was late to my appointment because he had been at the local country hotel full of asylum seekers...
PatchouliPrincess · 17/01/2026 17:45

LakieLady · 17/01/2026 16:23

Before anyone jumps in this is a genuine question, not for goadiness, I'm trying to understand why the AS are only men.

They're not, @PatchouliPrincess . I've worked with quite a few refugee clients over the years, and a fair few of them were women and, in one case, an entire family.

They all arrived here as asylum seekers.

Then why do the hotels seem to be full of only men. Where are their families?

In one case doesn't suggest it's the norm, quite the opposite.

IndyGestion · 17/01/2026 17:44

As a doctor of many years, I cannot stand other doctors taking the piss. If this doctor was indeed moonlighting, he should face censure. I was also angry at that recent story of a GP mum who faked appts to do the school run. Nope. The public trusts us to do the job we are paid for. Integrity is everything.

Nevermind17 · 17/01/2026 17:44

LittleMi55Nobody · 17/01/2026 16:09

i dont receive any benefits, THANK YOU i work and i pay a lot towards NI I pay for private healthcare, dentist and prescriptions so you dont pay for me so wind your neck in..i was just giving an example re my husbands contributions my husband is retired but still works full time so maybe his contributions arent as big as yours..bloody snob looking down your nose at people

..bloody snob looking down your nose at people

The irony. You’re the one looking down your nose at people. Just for the record, I know a family of asylum seekers who have been here for over three years. They can’t get a dentist either.

GlomOfNit · 17/01/2026 17:41

Mmmhmm. Sure.

Toothfairy89 · 17/01/2026 17:41

LittleMi55Nobody · 17/01/2026 15:11

i have no issues with the NHS treating the migrant families the women and children but we need to send the young male illegals back to whence they came from..they bring nothing to this country... just take...My hubby pays £79 a week in national insurance contributions, and our child has to go private to see a fecking dentist and they get it free...i grudge this immensly

Your husband pays his taxes. Big woop.

They have the same free dental care as your son. There's no extra entitlement

There are some charities that might provide dental care to asylum seekers, but there's no magic government funded NHS asylum seekers dentist. Just your bog standard dentist with an NHS contract that is difficult to find

IndyGestion · 17/01/2026 17:20

I think a GP needs to be professional, and honour their sessional commitments to wherever they agreed to work. That’s an issue of probity and integrity. And needs to be addressed separately.

I am employed by the NHS and treat whoever turns up to see me as a hospital consultant. Immigrant, local resident, asylum seeker, or prisoner in handcuffs. I have seen and treated them all, I don’t care where they have come from. Good job really, as we will receive more and more asylum seekers, as the rest of the world goes to pot.

I admit that I can’t bear to hear the stories of many of the asylum seekers I treat. As I find the stories quite unbearable (and believable). And the condition in some of these hotels is just dreadful, the food appalling and the risks to families from some residents really quite terrifying.

Be careful not to judge too much. There are some economic migrants faking it, but there are still many genuine asylum seekers, don’t worry. They need medical help and it would be cruel to deny them this once they are in our country. I also know we need to treat our own people. It can’t be just one group.

wheelygoodfun · 17/01/2026 17:12

Asylum seekers dont have NHS dentistry on tap either. They have to use the same NHS dentistry as the rest of us- i.e. the non existent NHS dentistry.