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My doctor was late to my appointment because he had been at the local country hotel full of asylum seekers...

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doodiethewonderdog · 17/01/2026 10:59

When was the last time you had a home visit? Is this a way of managing the " problem" by them taking clinics there? Is it a way of hiding this issue? I understood they did not have access to the NHS yet I see massive bags of medicine labelled for this hotel too at the dispensary. We wait about 6-7 weeks for a routine appointment.

My doctor was late to my appointment because he had been at the local country hotel full of asylum seekers...
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OtterlyAstounding · 18/01/2026 01:45

DuncinToffee · 17/01/2026 15:55

Even if those feelings of frustration are born out of racism or misunderstanding?

Do you think the OP would have started a thread if her appointment was delayed because the GP visited a care home?

Then it's an opportunity to validate her feelings, while correcting misinformation or incorrect beliefs. Personally, I just don't think that accusing people of racism (especially if it's xenophobia, often born out of understandable concerns), and dismissing them wholesale as angry racists, actually helps your argument.

GarlicSound · 17/01/2026 23:51

The hotel in OP's post is Cisswood House, Horsham. It used to be an upmarket country club type place, a popular wedding venue, but went bust in 2022. The following year it was converted as temporary accommodation for asylum seekers; locals working there said it was 'unrecognisable' as a luxury venue it had been.

There have been multiple rowdy protests outside the hotel. Horsham's MP called for calm, saying "I would urge everyone to please have consideration that these are young children and families". OP and others spitting venom about "these men", asking why they aren't women and children, are clearly wrong.

My doctor was late to my appointment because he had been at the local country hotel full of asylum seekers...
shuggles · 17/01/2026 23:25

Nevermind17 · 17/01/2026 22:12

You’re reaching. If bombs are being dropped, or an army is opening fire on a crowd, then everyone is at risk.

Where a government is targeting individuals for their political allegiance, it would be the men who are most at risk in a society where women are largely invisible.

Do asylum seekers only come from countries in which people are specifically targetted for their political allegiance? Or do asylum seekers also come from countries in which bombs are dropped?

Kingscallops · 17/01/2026 22:47

echt · 17/01/2026 22:18

Back to the OP, it's so very hard to give credence to someone who just pops up for their thread. Anyone would think they were just a goady bot.

Weak-kneed name changer, first time poster, always dubious.

Well you played to the goad, food and drink.

ShowMeTheSea · 17/01/2026 22:30

DuncinToffee · 17/01/2026 15:42

NHS waiting times are down, falling to lowest level in almost three years

So asylum seekers getting appointments is a dog whistle.

I've had to see my GP and local hospital a lot lately this last year. I agree, the NHS waiting times seem to be getting a lot better. They're obviously still not brilliant, but they seem to be going the right way.
I'll ring up and get straight through as opposed to being 30th in the queue for an appointment for example.
Plus they chase me with results and appointments to the extent I'm thinking "what now?" 😁

ShowMeTheSea · 17/01/2026 22:25

doodiethewonderdog · 17/01/2026 10:59

When was the last time you had a home visit? Is this a way of managing the " problem" by them taking clinics there? Is it a way of hiding this issue? I understood they did not have access to the NHS yet I see massive bags of medicine labelled for this hotel too at the dispensary. We wait about 6-7 weeks for a routine appointment.

Ok
Where do you even start with this rant?
You've posted a random photo of a hotel presumably in England. No link, no nothing.
What's your source? Your friend's best neighbour's Dad's dog?
Where are you seeing "massive bags of medicine?"
If you work at a dispensary and this is true, is there not some kind of patient confidentiality you should be adhering to?

echt · 17/01/2026 22:18

Back to the OP, it's so very hard to give credence to someone who just pops up for their thread. Anyone would think they were just a goady bot.

Weak-kneed name changer, first time poster, always dubious.

saraclara · 17/01/2026 22:17

shuggles · 17/01/2026 22:03

@ElectoralControversy Would you cross the channel by yourself in a small boat, if it meant you could bring your kids safely out of a war zone ...if you reach the other side alive?

Why aren't women making the crossing?

Because the men in their lives know that their journey will be dangerous, and don't want to put their wives and children at that risk. So they try to get to safety via the dangerous way (the only way open to to them at that point) , claim asylum (and remember that the vast majority do so in neighbouring countries or mainland Europe) and then arrange for their families to join them safely.

You, at least, will be glad to hear that the UK government is planning to put an end to their families being allowed to join them.

RobertaFirmino · 17/01/2026 22:16

scorpiogirly · 17/01/2026 21:48

Absolutely fucking mind blowing. Boils my piss!

Of course you'll get the bleeding heart liberals pleading their case here. But you cannot defend this when the NHS is on it's knees and we can't even treat the people who have paid in all their lives.

Sickening.

Edited

Bollocks. The NHS is on its knees because of mismanagement, decades of governmental failures and end users who do not take care of their health.

Smoking, alcohol, obesity and lack of exercise cost the health service a damn sight more than immigrants do. I suspect every single one of us could take steps to improve our health and that of the people we care for.

Nevermind17 · 17/01/2026 22:12

shuggles · 17/01/2026 22:02

@Nevermind17 Also bear in mind that women are usually seen as less of a threat to authoritarian regimes than men, so are probably safer. But without a husband to support them they wouldn’t be able to make ends meet long-term.

We now have people on mumsnet explicitly stating that women are safer in war zones than men.

You’re reaching. If bombs are being dropped, or an army is opening fire on a crowd, then everyone is at risk.

Where a government is targeting individuals for their political allegiance, it would be the men who are most at risk in a society where women are largely invisible.

ElectoralControversy · 17/01/2026 22:11

scorpiogirly · 17/01/2026 21:48

Absolutely fucking mind blowing. Boils my piss!

Of course you'll get the bleeding heart liberals pleading their case here. But you cannot defend this when the NHS is on it's knees and we can't even treat the people who have paid in all their lives.

Sickening.

Edited

We do treat people who've paid in all their lives, as I suspect you know.
The amount of asylum seekers in the UK is tiny, and the cost of a GP spending an hour or two treating them is probably less than the NHS wasted yesterday when people accidentally printed an extra page.

It's a bit sad that people are so ready to believe this stuff, and it stops us voting for things that would actually improve the NHS, when politicians see we just want knee jerk bullshit answers (hi Boris) that change nothing.

pinkstripeycat · 17/01/2026 22:10

Anonanonanonagain · 17/01/2026 11:01

What is the question or is it just you wanted to make a racist rant?

Didn’t know asylum seeker or illegal migrant was a race 😂

bombastix · 17/01/2026 22:09

Still think some sort of badge, identifying how long your family had been in the country, with a digital ticket indicating your personal tax contribution would resolve this to the OP’s satisfaction

shuggles · 17/01/2026 22:03

@ElectoralControversy Would you cross the channel by yourself in a small boat, if it meant you could bring your kids safely out of a war zone ...if you reach the other side alive?

Why aren't women making the crossing?

shuggles · 17/01/2026 22:02

@Nevermind17 Also bear in mind that women are usually seen as less of a threat to authoritarian regimes than men, so are probably safer. But without a husband to support them they wouldn’t be able to make ends meet long-term.

We now have people on mumsnet explicitly stating that women are safer in war zones than men.

Nevermind17 · 17/01/2026 21:58

JWhipple · 17/01/2026 21:03

Maybe don't book any more appointments. That'll teach them. And don't leave your house because of the state of this great nation. That'll show them. And unplug your WiFi as well. Absolutely disgusting.

My mate's Nan's cousin's hairdresser's aunty saw this screenshot on Facebook so I know it's true

My sister actually voted for Brexit because some idiot told her that all Romanians were given £1000 a week each, and she believed them.

DuncinToffee · 17/01/2026 21:58

scorpiogirly · 17/01/2026 21:48

Absolutely fucking mind blowing. Boils my piss!

Of course you'll get the bleeding heart liberals pleading their case here. But you cannot defend this when the NHS is on it's knees and we can't even treat the people who have paid in all their lives.

Sickening.

Edited

Sickening to offer basic healthcare to sick people?

Kingscallops · 17/01/2026 21:53

RobertaFirmino · 17/01/2026 21:44

I echo your heartfelt sentiment and would suggest that not only should OP fuck off but they should, in fact, fuck off to the far side of fuck and when they arrive at this location, they should fuck off some more.

The fascists have spoken.

scorpiogirly · 17/01/2026 21:48

Absolutely fucking mind blowing. Boils my piss!

Of course you'll get the bleeding heart liberals pleading their case here. But you cannot defend this when the NHS is on it's knees and we can't even treat the people who have paid in all their lives.

Sickening.

ElectoralControversy · 17/01/2026 21:47

shuggles · 17/01/2026 19:42

You misread my comment.

"Asylum" means a place of refuge.
An asylum seeker is someone who wants to move from a dangerous place to a less dangerous place.

If the channel crossing is MORE dangerous than the place where they live, then by definition, they are not seeking a safe place.

If they wanted a safe place, then they wouldn't go to the English channel... unless the English channel is safer than where they live.

Would you cross the channel by yourself in a small boat, if it meant you could bring your kids safely out of a war zone ...if you reach the other side alive?

RobertaFirmino · 17/01/2026 21:44

Hufflemuff · 17/01/2026 21:29

Didn't want to read and run, so just wanted to say...

Fuck off OP.

Hope that helps.

Edited

I echo your heartfelt sentiment and would suggest that not only should OP fuck off but they should, in fact, fuck off to the far side of fuck and when they arrive at this location, they should fuck off some more.

Kingscallops · 17/01/2026 21:44

Newyearawaits · 17/01/2026 21:41

'These groups of men'?????

What part of that do you struggle with? That's the mainstream influx of asylum seekers.

Newyearawaits · 17/01/2026 21:41

Kingscallops · 17/01/2026 14:46

Yes and the government has a legal duty. I prefer to treat people as I expect to be treated. As a woman, I don't feel safe amongst these groups of men and I will neither apologise nor make justifications.

'These groups of men'?????

Sometimeswinning · 17/01/2026 21:39

Newyearawaits · 17/01/2026 21:32

Can I ask why NHS funds are not supposed to be used for asylum seekers? My understanding is that the health needs of asylum seekers are met by the NHS

We’re talking about illegal immigrants. Very few of them are asylum seekers. They are just lucky that England is absolutely shit at processing them.

However, I’m happy that they have the service. There are genuine asylum seekers there. Plus with where they live illness would spread through these places.

Newyearawaits · 17/01/2026 21:38

LittleMi55Nobody · 17/01/2026 15:11

i have no issues with the NHS treating the migrant families the women and children but we need to send the young male illegals back to whence they came from..they bring nothing to this country... just take...My hubby pays £79 a week in national insurance contributions, and our child has to go private to see a fecking dentist and they get it free...i grudge this immensly

What?