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To wonder if anyone has or is considering moving to a country that's less likely to be involved if Putin attacks a NATO country. (title edited by MNHQ at request of OP)

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Carla786 · 17/01/2026 00:02

I hope that if WW3 happened, I'd be brave enough to stay and fight. I love Britain & I'd hate to leave it or see it invaded by Putin.

However, at the same time I'm wondering about the recent rush of articles suggesting conflict with Russia is inevitable by around 2030 and that civilians need to prepare to be conscripted to fight if NATO is attacked. I'd always thought Britain being land-invaded was fairly unlikely, but being called up to fight in a NATO war widens the options of what might happen.

Countries that are less likely to be involved include Austria, Switzerland, New Zealand, Republic of Ireland. I don't particularly want to move to any of these. If call-ups are likely to be imminent in about 4 years, I don't know..

The country I've always thought I'd move to if I did move is Poland (where I have family ties)- but of course that's far more likely to be involved in a potential war!

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Carla786 · 18/01/2026 07:12

BMW6 · 17/01/2026 08:56

The elephant in the room is the moment things escalate to alarm you enough to leave you won't be able to!

You wouldn't be able to leave the UK nor would any country take you in legally.

One of the first things countries do is close their borders.

So you would need to cross the Channel illicitly and try to avoid being arrested in Europe and interned (if you're lucky).

The chance of getting to somewhere remote like NZ illicitly must be zero.

So truly if you're thinking ahead about this you need to move to your chosen "safe country" ASAP. Get the applications in NOW.

Read some history OP. In WW2 untold millions of people all through Europe were displaced, on the move, trying to find safety. Very, VERY few made it into Neutral countries nor were they welcomed with open arms if they succeeded.

Honestly you're in total fantasy land on this unless you get going urgently. If you're really lucky some country may accept you - but get cracking!

Good point. Hopefully we are not in war territory for a few years yet, at least!

My mother has wanted to move herself, not due to war though. We'll think this over together.

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Carla786 · 18/01/2026 07:10

Frugalgal · 17/01/2026 10:00

We are already at war with Russia but they are never going to be in a position to invade the UK. They'd have to get all the way across Europe first.

War War 3 has probably already started but if it kicked off properly with nukes and such, it wouldn't really matter where you were there would be no escape from it.

WW3 was hyperbole which I have since altered. ...I was thinking more about if Putin attacks NATO country it seems Brit civilians may be called up as our army is low on numbers.

Missiles are a worrying point..

https://www.ibtimes.co.uk/putins-unstoppable-nuke-missile-could-hit-london-minutes-belarus-1766993

Vladimir Putin

Russian Missile Threat: London in Crosshairs in Minutes

Russia's nuclear-capable Oreshnik missile, now deployed in Belarus, could reach London in minutes at hypersonic speeds, raising UK security fears amid the Ukraine conflict.

https://www.ibtimes.co.uk/putins-unstoppable-nuke-missile-could-hit-london-minutes-belarus-1766993

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RedTagAlan · 18/01/2026 07:09

OutTheWayOut · 17/01/2026 00:20

May I ask what food you are using? I am not sure I am offering best selection at the moment.

Also some squirrels live in trees at the back - so I might need to check the feeders!

I think it would be fun to set up a squirrel assault course to a feeder. As well as being hours of fun for all the family, it would produce battle ready squirrels, to help fight off the invasion.

Carla786 · 18/01/2026 07:05

Elbowpatch · 17/01/2026 10:14

But not so far removed from ANZUS, the Pacific equivalent of NATO.

New Zealand went cold on the alliance in the mid 1980s but has recently endorsed AUKUS’s contribution to regional security and stability.

Good point...

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Carla786 · 18/01/2026 07:05

SorcererGaheris · 17/01/2026 10:33

@Hoardasurass

I'm a coward. Thing is, I don't think that's a bad thing. If someone is too afraid to do something, that's just the way they are. I don't believe it makes them a bad person.

I think even many cowards have their points at which they might fight. If my home and possessions were at threat, I'd be much more likely to fight. (I watch Home Alone every Christmas and while I don't know if I'd be bold enough to do it, I certainly love the idea of bashing people about who are violating my home, which I consider my sacred space.)

In the unlikely event of Britain being invaded, perhaps I would then be willing to fight in some capacity.

But I honestly can't say that that's a given. I might well be too scared to fight even in those circumstances.

So, I'm a coward, but I'm not ashamed of that, because I don't believe that it's anything to BE ashamed of. Being a coward can often help someone survive for longer, or survive completely. "Look out for number one" is good advice, I feel.

There's a great disco song from the 1970s called 'Young Hearts Run Free'. One of the lines goes "Self-preservation is what's really going on today." That's practically my motto.

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I've seen that poster on other threads and they tend to be quite direct & sometimes aggressive.

I respect Hoardassauras' past as a military brat and she's brave to hold that position. But there's not a black & white line between 'would fight for country' and 'total coward' as you say.

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Carla786 · 18/01/2026 07:02

ElleintheWoods · 17/01/2026 09:33

Yes, having had family members severely suffer in war and lose everything, it has crossed my mind whether where we are geographically is safe. Although Britain is one of the countries with most political and military deterrents to not be bombed down like Gaza or part of Ukraine, as long as it stays allied to the US, unfortunately.

I'd have thought Denmark, where I'm from, would usually be fairly safe, but apparently it'll be the focal point. The times we live in, eh.

Would be Switzerland, South America or NZ for me.

War potential isn't the only factor though, been thinking of emigrating for a while. But it does add to it.

I agree strongly.

However, it's nor just an issue of Britain being bombed. If Putin invades a NATO country, civilians may be conscripted because our army is very low on numbers.

Switzerland would probably not be involved but I think NZ and some of South America are probably safer. Specifically Uruguay.

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Carla786 · 18/01/2026 07:00

AgnesMcDoo · 17/01/2026 10:12

Countries safe from Putin are China and North Korea and I don’t fancy them much.

Yes but clearly countries in Europe etc are far more likely to be attacked in a war to regain Russian empire territory

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Carla786 · 18/01/2026 06:58

TakeMe2Insanity · 17/01/2026 09:26

The thing about war is goes where ever it wants.

Remember there are thousands of people in the world trying to escape actual war.

Yes but there are countries who are less and more likely to be involved in one.

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Carla786 · 18/01/2026 06:57

TomeletteswithGreggs · 17/01/2026 09:13

Gosh. Clearly I am still in a daze. 😁
Began the year with some family difficulty, so struggling a bit.
Going out for a long walk now and definitely not checking to see if Trump has invaded Greenland.

It's crazy, isn't it? It seems most Republicans agree and will probably oppose so surely he will not go through with it??

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Carla786 · 18/01/2026 06:56

Hufflemuff · 17/01/2026 16:07

Clearly no geo-political skills 🤣🤣🤣

Why do you say that?

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Carla786 · 18/01/2026 06:56

IPoopRainblows · 17/01/2026 16:37

Agree re Ireland. Whilst we hold a neutral status and are not members of NATO we are very much allies of UK and USA. Reliant on UK to protect our airspace and the US airforce using Shannon airport our neutrality won’t hold in the event of WW3.

That's a good point. If Putin were attacking Poland or Estonia etc Ireland might not get involved but if it escalated further they might well do.

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Carla786 · 18/01/2026 06:53

ChurchWindows · 17/01/2026 15:38

Not trivialising anything.

Mithering about the subject of potential war on opinion forums achieves nothing except instilling an ongoing level of anxiety.

All the blabbing about lockdown before it happened changed nothing.

Much better to get on with real life, try to take real world action to improve things and then relax and enjoy the moment - because it's all we really have.

Come on, assessing the prospect of potential war & wondering if a move to a safer country is wise is a perfectly rational thing to do.

Different situation to lockdown where Covid was a global problem that could not be escaped by moving - so that's a false comparison. Thinking about what to do during a pandemic during the waiting period would have been quite rational though.

Much better to get on with real life, try to take real world action to improve things - how is moving to a safer place not a 'real world action'?

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Carla786 · 18/01/2026 06:51

EasternStandard · 17/01/2026 13:16

Are you in the U.K. How much do you think about and worry about this in your daily life?

One can lead a normal life here & still be concerned about military situation. As pp said, European leaders & our military are warning about this.

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Carla786 · 18/01/2026 06:49

EasternStandard · 17/01/2026 15:19

If there’s an issue a lot of the EU is closer anyway.

Exactly. That's why I'm thinking now that places like NZ & Uruguay are probably the best options. Places like ROI & Iceland are not directly in Europe but placed to potentially be drawn in.

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Carla786 · 18/01/2026 06:46

Starling22 · 17/01/2026 11:58

Not over-reacting. Or being unreasonable. These are scary times and getting worse. So far my planning has only extended to thinking about buying water purification treatment and a wind up radio.

Thank you. I'm not planning to pack my bags now or anything 🤣, but I do think it's important to be aware of what might happen. Of course, it wasn't long ago that LSE professor David Betz was in news headings & podcasts talking about imminent UK civil war! Who knows what would come first? If any...

Your ideas sound good. Could come in useful for many scenarios.

I've seen plenty of posts on here & elsewhere about relocating for other reasons, people saying the UK is finished even. That's not what I think at all, but I do think it's perfectly reasonable to discuss potential relocation on here, especially over something as big as a potential war...!

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Carla786 · 18/01/2026 06:38

GaIadriel · 17/01/2026 17:17

He wouldn't necessarily win against the rest of NATO. They have more personnel, a higher combined GDP, and their combined military equipment is not too far off the US.

The rest of NATO has focused more on things like public healthcare and removing wealth inequality as they've historically had the backing of the US. However, any war would likely be drawn out and preceded by much political posturing, giving the rest of NATO time to produce more munitions/equipment.

In theory Russia should've steamrolled Ukraine and the US should've streamrolled the Taliban but the former has been going on for years and the latter was a couple of decades after which the US gave up. No way could they just take Europe.

There have been a lot of military simulations and the US often doesn't come out very well. Like when the Swedish ultraquiet sub 'The Gotland' faced off against an entire US carrier group and 'sank' the USS Ronald Reagan carrier ship despite it being surrounded by many ships/submarines/anti-sub aircraft.

It was only a training exercise but the Gotland was able to send photos of the Reagen in its crosshairs whilst still being undetected by the entire US fleet so 100% it could've sank it. A £100m submarine (now succeeded by newer designs) facing off against an entire US carrier group and sinking a £6bn ship worth 60x it's own value! And it managed to do this repeatedly over multiple reenactments to the point the US requested to borrow it for two years to study it.

Given the US navy is one of their biggest assets it's not great that a tiny cheap sub bested an entire carrier group and sank one of their biggest nuclear carriers undetected. And in the Sandhurst Military Skills Competition the UK has beaten the US 15 times and only lost twice.

Hopefully, it nevers comes to that but I don't think the rest of NATO would be a pushover by any stretch. The US are far more reliant on Europe for imports than we are on them, and logistically they'd likely face more difficulty importing resources than most of Europe would due to being surrounded by water.

I agree with this but it's also concern about being called up to a NATO conflict in another part of Europe. I agree Putin invading UK is unlikely & would not be his first aim, anyway.

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Carla786 · 18/01/2026 06:35

feellikeanalien · 17/01/2026 17:04

There is no doubt that the world is a dangerous place at the moment but it has always been that way. I was a child in the 60s/70s. I remember my Dad going to his civil defence meetings. Not sure what they actually did as I was quite small but he was just an ordinary person. He was almost called up for the Korean War as he did his national service in the late 40s/early 50s.

I also remember the invasion of Cyprus.

The Cuban Missile Crisis saw Russia and America facing off in the 60s and the world seemed to be on the brink of nuclear war.

I think things seem worse nowadays because we have so much access to news 24 hours a day. When I was growing up there were a set number of news programmes on TV/radio and newspapers. There were probably many conflicts going on which we never even heard of.

People forget about the Bosnian war which was only in the 90s.

Awful things happen everywhere and I think that because in Western Europe we have lived in relative peace since 1945 we can't imagine war. My grandparents lived through the first and second world wars but there are fewer and fewer people left who even lived through the second world war.

I think what I'm trying to say is that , yes the world is a dangerous place but it always has been. We certainly shouldn't bury our heads in the sand but I don't think moving countries is any guarantee.

I agree with this : my grandmother was a teacher during the Cuban Missile Crisis. She remembers the girls in her class being scared but she herself thought it was doubtful anything would happen & didn't get very worried.

However, we know in hindsight it could easily have gone a different way. I get your points re Serbia, Cyprus etc but those wars were terrible but local. Putin feels more Cold War-scale in threat level because war with him could engulf Europe rather than being contained in one country.

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Carla786 · 18/01/2026 06:21

tripleginandtonic · 18/01/2026 06:00

Russia can't even win the war in Ukraine. Putin won't be around forever, Russians will want to participate in Europe and the world again. Who knows what the future holds but I think war with Russia is unlikely, especially to the point of conscription.

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Hopefully they will not. The Ukranians are very brave but we cannot be that sure they will win. Russia has huge manpower, for a start.

I agree surely many Russians do not want this situation. A successor of Putin may still be warlike and not leave them much choice though.

Putin himself is only 72 and does not appear to be in poor health, unfortunately!

If war with Russia & a NATO country breaks out, it's been said that conscription might happen because our army is very short-handed.

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Carla786 · 18/01/2026 06:18

Heyhelga · 18/01/2026 06:09

Russia aren't going to attack a NATO country. Just like China are not going to attack Taiwan. Mutual destruction policy.

Hopefully not. Are you referring to nuclear though?

If Putin attacked a NATO country, NATO would probably respond, but highly unlikely for them to respond with nuclear weapons.

I agree a war without nuclear weapons would still be mutually destructive but not sure that makes it highly unlikely to break out. It's no foregone conclusion that Taiwan is safe either.

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Carla786 · 18/01/2026 06:16

wineosaurusrex · 18/01/2026 06:02

Yeah, probably. This thread is crazy.

Mark Rutte, French government, all those military top brass quoted in the articles I've linked? Are they all just scaremongering about wholly unrealistic scenarios?

That would be very odd. For those who think it's all just scaremongering, why? Do you also think warnings of danger during the Cold War were empty scaremongering? OK, no war broke out, but the warnings at the time were realistic and there were flashpoints where violence could easily have broken out

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Carla786 · 18/01/2026 06:13

pollyglot · 18/01/2026 04:44

MangaKanga · Today 01:56

NZ is a terrific place. But I think it can be hard for foreigners to ever feel they belong there, maybe? If you aren't tangata whenua or of a long standing pakeha family.

Not sure if that is strictly correct, Kanga. DH is a recent Pom import and feels 100% Kiwi. He has a Maori mate in the supermarket who jokes with him every
time they meet about his Pommie accent. DH says "Yeah nah, I'm as Kiwi as you, mate." (Note the "yeah nah" - compulsory Kiwi speak.)We had an Open Home Christmas chez nous, and had: two Germans, two Dutch, one Pom (DH - hasn't yet had the operation - the one that gives you the funny accent), one Aussie, two Americans, 5 Kiwis, one with a Pom father and Maori mum. We all feel that we belong here. Immigrants all, at some stage or other. We had a whale of a Christmas.

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That sounds positive.

I've read a lot of Witi Ihaemaera and Janet Frame, if that helps at all I don't know 🤣

Seriously though, I know I'll need to find out as much as I can before I move if I do this.

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Heyhelga · 18/01/2026 06:09

Russia aren't going to attack a NATO country. Just like China are not going to attack Taiwan. Mutual destruction policy.

wineosaurusrex · 18/01/2026 06:02

Carla786 · 18/01/2026 05:37

Come on, it's not just TV scaremongering.

The links I've posted include top army advisers on the war threat. Are they all wildly exaggerating?

Yeah, probably. This thread is crazy.

tripleginandtonic · 18/01/2026 06:00

deadbobaplace · 17/01/2026 01:37

Forgive me for being slightly sceptical about all these military guys talking up the chances of war. Convincing governments to invest more in defence is literally their job.

Just stop reading the Daily Mail. It'll be a lot less expensive than moving to New Zealand.

Russia can't even win the war in Ukraine. Putin won't be around forever, Russians will want to participate in Europe and the world again. Who knows what the future holds but I think war with Russia is unlikely, especially to the point of conscription.

Carla786 · 18/01/2026 05:37

Mapleleaf114 · 18/01/2026 05:34

Switch off the TV.

Come on, it's not just TV scaremongering.

The links I've posted include top army advisers on the war threat. Are they all wildly exaggerating?

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