I work full time, due to commute leave the house 6:30am get back 6:30pm. DH works about 15hours/week on evenings after I"m back home. If it makes any difference, I make pretty much all the money to support the family.
Things he does every day: school run, takes care of kids (5yo and 8yo) after school, cooking (but leave all mess on counter: egg shells, onion peels, dishes)
Things he does ad-hoc: DIY when needed, garden in Summer, bins out (probably 50/50), wash pots/pans that dont go on dishwasher (I probably do around 60% of that though).
Things I do every day: kids homework, bedtime, dishwasher in/out, clean kitchen (counter, floor as there will akways be crumbs even from breakfast), laundry (there's loads as his work gets clothes dirty and kids are small), washing pots/pans (60% of that), bins (50/50).
Things I do ad-hoc: school projects with kids, school admin (pay for trips, all the "dressed as something" day, "collection for charity" day), checking new providers of internet/insurances/renewing mortgage, buying kids new clothes/shoes and donating old ones, birthday parties (our kids and their friends/buying gifts), doctor/dental appointments.
I think have it much worse (I'm always exhausted) and have tried talking about it in every way imaginable but it never lands. It only started to feel this way after we have kids...
For the house cleaning we have a cleaner once a week.
So:
YABU: It may be a bit unfair but he pulls his weight
YANBU: I wouldn't put up with this.