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Lodger concerns

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Hockorydickerydock · 16/01/2026 18:18

My lodger is having a hernia operation and there no sign of any family support

I work full time and don’t have time to be caring for my tenant who pays me rent, and for me it over steps the mark - he should be having family to help care for him or - or going to stay at family members where he can be helped and supported!

AIBU - to expect him To sort this out ?
AINBU - to leave him to it- as I be out working 8am to 6pm and have enough going on!
I feel like he expect me to sort his dinner and so on! Yet we don’t have any conversations or socialise - he rents a room games cooks and goes to work?

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Hockorydickerydock · 16/01/2026 18:20

wpuld you also try to message his mum- who had already apparently said she short staff at work so
won’t be able to do anything and said she send him a taxi to pick him up! But would he even be allowed out with no care or anything!

his step dad doesn’t work and hasn’t offered!

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