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ICE and your young adult child

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user3867599 · 16/01/2026 14:31

DC is a dual citizen (US and UK), just finished university and is living and working in a city in the US where ICE is about to be deployed.

What would you say to them?

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user3867599 · 16/01/2026 14:47

TakeALookAtTheseSwatches · 16/01/2026 14:45

Tell him to get out of America. No job or uni is worth that.

DC is living a very happy and productive life in a liberal northeastern city which has, so far, been essentially untouched by this madness. I'm not going to tell them that.

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Miranda65 · 16/01/2026 14:47

I wouldn't say anything because they are an adult and quite capable of looking after themselves, without interference from a parent who doesn't even live in the city in question.

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user3867599 · 16/01/2026 14:46

Glittertwins · 16/01/2026 14:44

Why look to put yourself in danger??

Of course the mum in me feels that way, but the person in me realises the same theory could apply to the people who hid jews in Germany or helped slaves escape the south.

It's hard to not be torn on this.

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TakeALookAtTheseSwatches · 16/01/2026 14:45

Tell him to get out of America. No job or uni is worth that.

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user3867599 · 16/01/2026 14:44

GreenPoms · 16/01/2026 14:35

Yes because morals aren’t worth dying for. What is he thinking of doing?

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Joining local protests. DC ordinarily very responsible, prudent and level headed.

@EasternEcho White, so I guess that's some small measure of comfort, but so was Renee Good.

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Glittertwins · 16/01/2026 14:44

Why look to put yourself in danger??

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user3867599 · 16/01/2026 14:43

Idontspeakgermansorry · 16/01/2026 14:34

Depends on if that is more important to you, than them getting shot 🤷‍♀️

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Of course not, but having instilled them, it's pretty difficult to then say, never mind.

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GasPanic · 16/01/2026 14:38

Keep your ear to the ground for local advice and not rely on the advice of a load of randoms on an internet forum from a completely different country.

KillTheTurkey · 16/01/2026 14:38

‘Doing the right thing’ is keeping safe, in this case, so avoiding protests or run-ins with law enforcers.

EasternEcho · 16/01/2026 14:36

Have some sort of proof of citizenship with them at all times, especially if not White.

sorrynotathome · 16/01/2026 14:36

Come home.

notacooldad · 16/01/2026 14:36

Even if many of your conversations during your child rearing years were about morality and choices and doing the right thing?
Well if you think its right to stick your head above the parrapet, tell him to do that.
If you want to avoid drawing attention to yourself ,avoid protests.
Its one or the other I think.

GreenPoms · 16/01/2026 14:35

user3867599 · 16/01/2026 14:33

Even if many of your conversations during your child rearing years were about morality and choices and doing the right thing?

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Yes because morals aren’t worth dying for. What is he thinking of doing?

Idontspeakgermansorry · 16/01/2026 14:34

user3867599 · 16/01/2026 14:33

Even if many of your conversations during your child rearing years were about morality and choices and doing the right thing?

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Depends on if that is more important to you, than them getting shot 🤷‍♀️

notacooldad · 16/01/2026 14:34

Avoid protesting or protests”
Yes, also including any comments on social media.

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user3867599 · 16/01/2026 14:33

MidnightPatrol · 16/01/2026 14:32

“Avoid protesting or protests”

Even if many of your conversations during your child rearing years were about morality and choices and doing the right thing?

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MidnightPatrol · 16/01/2026 14:32

“Avoid protesting or protests”

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