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Only going for a half a family holiday

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MyNiftyKoala · 16/01/2026 13:57

My husband’s brother (very generously) has started booking holidays each year, for all of my husband’s family. He kindly
pays for the holiday house, despite us offering to pay. The holiday is for a large number of us. The holidays are starting to be booked without a heads up on dates, or location… Just on the assumption we will go. I have 4 young kids. It’s not always fun for me for a few reasons, which I can only assume is normal for a big family get together (I feel a bit mentally exhausted by it all). So I told my husband I would only like to go for 2 nights/ 3 days, instead of 5 nights/6 days. He said that was fine. I get the feeling I’m going to rock the boat and look ungrateful. I want to make choices for own family, and avoid the pitfalls of holidays in the past. Am I being unreasonable?

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JazzyBBBG · 16/01/2026 14:01

Completely understand. It's a bit odd he does this without asking. Can you just blame not getting time off work - may be the easiest route. Or a prior engagement.

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