To ask you how long you waited before visitors

Had baby at 11am, mum & ml up at hospital 3pm. Then extended family 7pm, so many visitors they had to do it in turns 😆

Then anyone could visit when they wanted to, I don't understand the wanting to be in a bubble and I don't know anyone who has behaved like that 🤷🏼‍♀️

Both sets of parents (DCs grandparents) came to the hospital the day after (birth was around 11pm). A few friends came over the day of getting home (Birth Saturday night, home from hospital Monday lunchtime, friends over Monday evening)

What good will asking others when they felt ready by do though? I fully understand your excitement, but if everyone on here says immediately how will that change how you handle this situation? It is personal. Let them have some time so that when you do meet that baby in a few days you can do so knowing that your presence is not an extra stress on two new parents.

GPs visited the baby in hospital on birthday. With dd1 my mum came round day after I got home, I was so happy to see her.

On that basis dpil also visited quite soon, as seemed only fair, but I didn’t see them as much as my mum.

All relatives very respectful and willing to put up with my new mum neuroses!

My child's grandparents visited in the hospital the morning after I gave birth, (both my parents and in laws) But having said that I didn't want visitors to stay for very long. My own mum was the only exception, I wanted her to look after me but all other visitors took effort. I didn't restrict anyone but just being honest.

Congratulations on your grandchild! When you are invited round ask if there's anything they need from a supermarket on the way, I remember being so grateful if someone asked is there anything you need and I was running low on bread/milk and that's an offer of help I actually felt able to take people up on.

my parents flew over to be there for the birth then stayed with us. IL’s visited at the hospital that day.
in my family we see mothers and babies within a day or two. Luckily not had any unwell mums or babies.

Blimey. My parents, in-laws and all aunts and uncles came to the hospital the same day my babies were born - any many of them lived 45 minutes away.

But this was back in the late 90's, so I'm not sure what happens now.

If you haven’t heard anything by tomorrow I think I would drop a message to check that they don’t need anything picked up from the shops etc
Its a fine line to tread to not visit too soon but to also seem not that bothered if that makes sense?
I had a tricky birth with my first, early morning delivery and we were kept in for a week, my parents came in that evening because they were so worried. My siblings the day after. Mil was trying to sneak in soon after he was delivered and sent on her way by the SCBU nurse. 🙈
Baby number 2 people came over the day after we were home.

When I had DS I had him in later afternoon but was in HDU with him so no visitors. In laws came next day around lunchtime whilst I just lay in bed, DH had to do everything for the baby.
BIL and SIL came the next day too, but in the evening and my best friend came when we were out of HDU.
My parent was about 6 weeks later, they were due to come earlier but I ended up in hospital with DS for about a month with a serious infection.

I don't have a child, but if i did i admit my MIL isn't going to be on the "day they're born" list.
Only my dad and my sister would be invited to the hospital to visit, and i'd want at least a few days at home getting used to life with whatever potential injuries etc happened to my body after birth and getting a handle on personal care if theres difficulty using the bathroom, incontinence issues etc before anyone out of my immediate comfort bubble were in my space.

Everyone is different and that is okay.

You are right it's boring and isolating. I'd have been stuck indoors alone with DD1 for ages if had no visitors

I had 10 visitors in hospital for baby 1 and a similar number in hospital for baby 2. Both times from the day after birth onwards.

How refreshing! You sound lovely 😊

I don’t get the new trend of preventing family from visiting. With both me and my brother our grandparents (on both sides) visted in the hospital. With my kids the first was during Covid so no one allowed to the hospital, we were kept in for 5 days but both sets of parents came the day after we got home (we got home late in the evening). With my second my mum and uncle came to the hospital, we were in for less time and my husbands parents came the day we got home. The rest of our extended family - siblings etc all came within a week of us being home.

They kept you a while DGS born 6am and DD home for lunch same day. Similar with the others. My DS born 8am was home for dinner that night

If you’re waiting for them to have a good nights sleep, you might be waiting a while 🤣

Every new parent is different and you just have to follow their lead. My parents and my in laws came to the hospital the day after our baby was born. But some of my friends have wanted a week or so to just settle etc. Hopefully you won’t have to wait long, I’m sure you can’t wait to meet the new addition!!

Gave birth on Thursday, home late Friday, ILs on Saturday and my parents Sunday.

Had in laws over roughly weekly after that, plus one other visitor a week usually. With health visitors etc that was plenty for us.

The first month after Christmas was bliss. We had no visitors, I could just hit my rhythm in mat leave and start to make friends with my antenatal group properly. Lots of long walks with baby in the sling, meals out, and baby classes. It was one of my favourite bits.

My mum came to the hospital as I have photos of her holding the baby while I’m in bed. C-section though so can’t say for sure when as I was in hospital four nights.

I didn’t want visitors in hospital and with ds2 we weren’t allowed any anyway because of some norovirus outbreak. Ds1 was born in early hours so stayed in that night then 1 night after, then according to my phone pictures we came home at lunchtime and had visitors in the evening which I’m surprised at given I felt absolutely awful but maybe I just wanted to get them out of the way 🤣

With ds2 it was longer because I wanted ds1 to meet his brother first and have the day together so I think ds2 must have been 3/4 days old.

Actually thinking of it I remember driving to DPs mum ( 10 mins) to introduce her new grandson a few hours after I got out of hospital. .I was proud to show him off and she was so happy to meet him and it was nice to have someone make me tea and sandwiches before I had to pick my elder 2 up and deal with the 3 kids

My mum died 5 weeks before I had my first, suddenly. Obviously I was in deep deep raw grief and right in the first and worst lockdown . I didn’t want to see anyone

second baby had a whole week to ourselves 3rd 9days for in laws.

DS1 - my sister came round the day he was born, we got out at lunchtime. My mum had to travel so arrived on day 3, my in laws never bothered so didn’t meet him til much later when I was ready to travel. DS2 - my parents and DS1 came to the hospital next day and brought us home, my sister met him at 2 weeks because we’d moved away by then, and my in laws met him at about 8 weeks when it became clear I wasn’t travelling to them so they made their one and only trip to visit us. All would have been welcome day 1 or 2 if distance / willingness weren’t an issue.

With my family they came over immediately and they were ever so helpful. With IL’s they lived very far away and needed to stay over with us, so we had them a month later when I felt much better. It really is all about the mother.

Im expecting my 4th any day now and anyone is welcome but they need to bring a meal with them and be prepared to fold laundry ect... help with the other kids...