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I know I am being wildly unreasonable about DD’s New York trip but I need people to tell me I am

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CurlewKate · 16/01/2026 11:56

Dd is going to New York for a two week work trip tomorrow. Obviously I won’t tell her this-but I am so scared about her being in the US at the moment. I’m not at all an anxious person and I’ve never felt like this about anyone travelling abroad before. Tell me I’m being completely irrational!

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Cat1504 · 16/01/2026 23:35

MidnightPatrol · 16/01/2026 12:14

What are you fearful of exactly?

Do you live under a rock? 🙄

Fuggleup · 16/01/2026 23:34

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Dollyfloss · 16/01/2026 23:32

Vivi0 · 16/01/2026 13:03

Do you read the news?

If we are at the point where some people think New York is too unsafe to travel to, then perhaps switching off from the news would be beneficial for them.

This.

It’s crazy.

Fuggleup · 16/01/2026 23:32

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LemonyCurd · 16/01/2026 23:28

I think you need to take a deep breath and apply some critical thinking. Not to mention cut down social media/mainstream media consumption. Why are you falling for all the rhetoric? That’s what you should be worried about, not your daughter’s fabulous sounding trip.

Hopingforaholiday · 16/01/2026 23:26

If she’s entering on ESTA tell her to use MPC app, it’s free and saves long wait for immigration.

Goldenbear · 16/01/2026 23:25

fashionqueen0123 · 16/01/2026 22:05

yes really - why would you think there wasn’t? Plenty are still going. And not everyone goes for a World Cup..?

You should join the Orlando Facebook groups. Full of people off to Disney etc

Nearly 17000 have asked for a refund..

rememberingthem · 16/01/2026 23:01

I travel here weekly and its absolutely fine! Nothing has changed!

TheatreTheatre · 16/01/2026 23:00

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I agree that what is happening is terrifying. And horrifying in a supposedly democratic country that supposedly champions free speech.

I noted that a friend (a professional with reason to travel to the states on occasion) sent me a video (Trump reading the instructions within the speech text) via Messenger rather than linking on Facebook as she would normally have done, a strong sign of how seriously this is seen.

It isn’t new. I was involved in putting together an international symposium / conference / festival in Cuba in the late 1990s. We had to arrange for American colleagues to travel across to a particular Western country on our side of the Atlantic and from there buy new air tickets to Cuba, with their Cuban visas issued while they were in that country, and then to travel to Cuba from there. While there we were totally aware of surveillance by the Cuban regime. The surveillance from … European … countries which became clear while we were there and on our return was a surprise.

I was aggressively warned off a particular slightly controversial project.

I have looked after Palestinian artists, those from despotic regimes in various countries and the risks that can easily be realised.

So, one way and another, I am not naive.

And if CurlewKate’s Dd is aware and professional I stand by my opinion that she is not at great risk.

Which is not to say that what is happening under Trump is not horrific.

NoKidsSendDogs · 16/01/2026 22:24

FiatLuxAdAstra · 16/01/2026 20:20

Unless she’s an influencer posting anti-American videos on social media and her “work trip” is to join ICE protesters, then she will be fine.

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Being anti ice is not being anti American. Ice are thugs, mostly morons (can't even pass an open book test), racist and incompetent. Incompetence is the only thing administration knows. I hope the protests carry on and I say this as an American who fucking hates ice.

NoKidsSendDogs · 16/01/2026 22:19

StephensLass1977 · 16/01/2026 12:38

What is supposed to be wrong with NYC? I was there recently, and my best friend lives and works there. I'm not sure what you're afraid of, exactly?

Probably the loads of stories about ICE goons attacking and killing people for no reason? However NYC should be fine, they tend to only attack helpless women and children who can't defend themselves.

fashionqueen0123 · 16/01/2026 22:05

Goldenbear · 16/01/2026 21:47

Really 😬. Why are so many thousands asking for a refund for the world cup then?

yes really - why would you think there wasn’t? Plenty are still going. And not everyone goes for a World Cup..?

You should join the Orlando Facebook groups. Full of people off to Disney etc

PollyBell · 16/01/2026 22:05

What is to say something couldn't happen at home? Yes you know you are being irrational but other irrational people will agree with you which may keep you irrational

Vodkamartini3olives · 16/01/2026 21:56

@Fuggleup- I didn't say they were only detaining Criminals. I was staying they are not regularly rounding up/ knocking on doors and detaining US Citizens. Just because an illegal immigrant hasn't commited a crime or has lived here for a long time doesn't mean they have a right to remain.
Last time I looked the Guardian is not what I would consider a neutral news source.

Norugratsatall · 16/01/2026 21:54

DD flew home here for Xmas along with her boyfriend, and she sailed through immigration at JFK on the way back. She said it was the easiest bit of the journey, having struggled to get an uber and discovered that her suitcase from the hold had broken. She is mixed race as well.

Goldenbear · 16/01/2026 21:48

Goldenbear · 16/01/2026 21:47

Really 😬. Why are so many thousands asking for a refund for the world cup then?

According to reports 16700 refund requests, they must be concerned.

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Goldenbear · 16/01/2026 21:47

fashionqueen0123 · 16/01/2026 21:29

Thousands of brits live and will be on holidays in the USA. This is really not something to worry about for a work trip.

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Really 😬. Why are so many thousands asking for a refund for the world cup then?

Fuggleup · 16/01/2026 21:45

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Norugratsatall · 16/01/2026 21:45

My daughter lives and works in New York. Am I worried? No. Well… I’m concerned that she has a dreadful cough atm and might need antibiotics and it’s just as difficult (for different reasons) to see a doctor there as it is here.

So yes I personally do think you’re being irrational. It’s just a work trip, she’ll be fine.

Fuggleup · 16/01/2026 21:41

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fashionqueen0123 · 16/01/2026 21:29

Poppingby · 16/01/2026 20:46

You don't have to be near Greenland to be affected by the US potentially disbanding NATO to annexe it. If that happens when you're in the US you're in a country that has effectively just declared war on your own. Not to worry you op sorry 😂. I don't think this will happen, fingers crossed anyway.

Thousands of brits live and will be on holidays in the USA. This is really not something to worry about for a work trip.

Goldenbear · 16/01/2026 21:07

herefortheclicks · 16/01/2026 18:10

It is just like going to London. Massive territory with all things going on. Most people go home at the end of day, and sleep safe

I went to New York when I was 6, I was born and grew up in London, it was nothing like London then.

Goldenbear · 16/01/2026 21:02

I wouldn't want my adult DC to go, sorry OP.

Tikitaka20 · 16/01/2026 21:00

Poppingby · 16/01/2026 20:46

You don't have to be near Greenland to be affected by the US potentially disbanding NATO to annexe it. If that happens when you're in the US you're in a country that has effectively just declared war on your own. Not to worry you op sorry 😂. I don't think this will happen, fingers crossed anyway.

I also think - and hope - it won’t happen. And if it does happen, OP, it’ll affect you and us - not just your DD.