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I know I am being wildly unreasonable about DD’s New York trip but I need people to tell me I am

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CurlewKate · 16/01/2026 11:56

Dd is going to New York for a two week work trip tomorrow. Obviously I won’t tell her this-but I am so scared about her being in the US at the moment. I’m not at all an anxious person and I’ve never felt like this about anyone travelling abroad before. Tell me I’m being completely irrational!

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oneoneone · 17/01/2026 11:02

LemaxObsessive · 17/01/2026 10:13

Nah my DD wouldn’t be going unless/until she’s an adult and making her own decisions. I’ve been and NY is a filthy, dangerous, drug-addict filled, rubbish city that absolutely REEKS of cannabis. I’ve never been more disgusted by a city and I’ve been to Bradford! Eugh I can’t believe people raise children there.

Weird that people are willing to pay so much to live there, then.

Maybe Disney is more your speed?

oneoneone · 17/01/2026 10:58

An awful lot of the posters seem to have missed the fact that @CurlewKate's DD is going on a work trip. Not on holiday, not for the World Cup.

Those of you saying you wouldn't support the trip, are you suggesting she refuses and potentially puts her job on the line?

EasternStandard · 17/01/2026 10:49

Goldenbear · 17/01/2026 10:43

It's not about the same views as that definitely didn't happen in the past but there the extreme right wing wasn't normalised. Why can those people go and create their own forum that's all to do with with their 'politics' so this site can go back to what it used to be!

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Yes you can create your own site, you’re waiting for something mnhq won’t do.

ViciousCurrentBun · 17/01/2026 10:47

I have been heavily questioned twice at immigration in my life, going in to the USA and returning to Blighty, I’m mixed race and it was not enjoyable in the least. I was only really offended by the British immigration authorities as I was born here.

There were 3 million deportations under Obama. I understand why people are worried, offended or upset but deportations are nothing new.

Vivi0 · 17/01/2026 10:46

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TheatreTheatre · 17/01/2026 10:46

CurlewKate · 17/01/2026 10:40

Gosh-the thread got lively and I missed it!!😢

I hope your DD’s travel goes smoothly and you soon receive a re-assuring update from her

Goldenbear · 17/01/2026 10:45

Wingingit73 · 17/01/2026 10:37

She will be fine i. Sure but i would not support this trip.

So politics had nothing to do with that, why hosts the world cup if you don't like much of the world!

Goldenbear · 17/01/2026 10:43

EasternStandard · 17/01/2026 10:25

Aren’t there sites that limit to that? Gotta be easier than waiting for all posters to have the same views.

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It's not about the same views as that definitely didn't happen in the past but there the extreme right wing wasn't normalised. Why can those people go and create their own forum that's all to do with with their 'politics' so this site can go back to what it used to be!

Rosiemate · 17/01/2026 10:40

You are being completely irrational.

Goldenbear · 17/01/2026 10:40

EasternStandard · 17/01/2026 10:25

Aren’t there sites that limit to that? Gotta be easier than waiting for all posters to have the same views.

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No, sadly not, I just wish MN would say, "be gone with you infiltrators"

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CurlewKate · 17/01/2026 10:40

Gosh-the thread got lively and I missed it!!😢

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Goldenbear · 17/01/2026 10:38

Vivi0 · 17/01/2026 10:27

It’s as true as your claim that 17,000 people had requested refunds for their World Cup tickets.

Also, I’m from the UK.

America isn’t a dictatorship, no matter how much you desperately wish it to be.

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You are from the UK, you sound like you work for the U.S. Tourist board (at best).

Lisacuddy1 · 17/01/2026 10:37

I just got back from a work trip and, kindly, you are projecting. New York is as safe/unsafe in places as it has always been.

Wingingit73 · 17/01/2026 10:37

She will be fine i. Sure but i would not support this trip.

Vivi0 · 17/01/2026 10:34

fashionqueen0123 · 17/01/2026 10:24

And? That’s a quite small number out of the number of spectators.

But regardless of the World Cup , that doesn’t mean thousands of other Brits aren’t going there for holidays and already working and living there! I’m not sure why you’ve brought it up. It’s not like the OPs child will be some kind of lonely Brit out there.

One example - Air lingus have recently changed some of their flights from Manchester airport to Orlando and now people have to fly via Dublin. The direct virgin flights are now selling out and prices rocketing because people are desperate to save their holidays. Not everyone is avoiding the USA. Many are spending £££ to get there!

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And? That’s a quite small number out of the number of spectators.

It’s not even true.

17,000 people are not trying to cancel or resell their World Cup tickets.

These are people that don’t have tickets yet.

To be in with a chance to even purchase tickets to the World Cup, you need to submit an application to be entered into a draw.

500 million people have applied.

17,000 of those people have since withdrawn their applications ahead of the draw for the next round of ticket sales. 17,000 out of 500,000,000!

1457bloom · 17/01/2026 10:33

I would be scared of ICE kidnapping me and putting me in the back of a van.

Gloriia · 17/01/2026 10:27

Goldenbear · 17/01/2026 10:21

Yes but N Korea is predictably bad, it's the unpredictability playing out week by week which makes it scarey

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It was the pp calling the US a 'dictatorship regime' I was referring to.

Vivi0 · 17/01/2026 10:27

Goldenbear · 17/01/2026 10:19

It's true though. The external lens is very different to your insulated notions of your country.

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It’s as true as your claim that 17,000 people had requested refunds for their World Cup tickets.

Also, I’m from the UK.

America isn’t a dictatorship, no matter how much you desperately wish it to be.

EasternStandard · 17/01/2026 10:25

Goldenbear · 17/01/2026 10:03

And when is Mumsnet going to treat us to the good old days of Mumsnet, those halcyon days where no Maga/Farage fans posted on this lefty site!

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Aren’t there sites that limit to that? Gotta be easier than waiting for all posters to have the same views.

fashionqueen0123 · 17/01/2026 10:24

Goldenbear · 16/01/2026 23:25

Nearly 17000 have asked for a refund..

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And? That’s a quite small number out of the number of spectators.

But regardless of the World Cup , that doesn’t mean thousands of other Brits aren’t going there for holidays and already working and living there! I’m not sure why you’ve brought it up. It’s not like the OPs child will be some kind of lonely Brit out there.

One example - Air lingus have recently changed some of their flights from Manchester airport to Orlando and now people have to fly via Dublin. The direct virgin flights are now selling out and prices rocketing because people are desperate to save their holidays. Not everyone is avoiding the USA. Many are spending £££ to get there!

Goldenbear · 17/01/2026 10:21

Gloriia · 17/01/2026 10:13

'People from other countries don’t need to visit because, a. It shows support for the dictatorship regime'

Oh dear.

You do know North Korea isn't in the US, yes?

Yes but N Korea is predictably bad, it's the unpredictability playing out week by week which makes it scarey

Goldenbear · 17/01/2026 10:19

Vivi0 · 17/01/2026 10:07

People from other countries don’t need to visit because, a. It shows support for the dictatorship regime

Lol.

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It's true though. The external lens is very different to your insulated notions of your country.

Gloriia · 17/01/2026 10:17

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Wasn't it a jihadi who committed the Manchester arena atrocity? Ditto the July 7th London bombings?

Bombings and atrocities happen everywhere. I'd advise against a holiday in Israel or Iran as tensions are heightened to say the least, anywhere else we all sadly have to take our chances.

SpringsOnTheWay · 17/01/2026 10:15

I’d feel exactly the same.
I should think New York would be safer than other areas, if things escalate id think it would take a while to happen there. So she’s there for only two weeks and going soon.

Gloriia · 17/01/2026 10:13

'People from other countries don’t need to visit because, a. It shows support for the dictatorship regime'

Oh dear.

You do know North Korea isn't in the US, yes?