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I know I am being wildly unreasonable about DD’s New York trip but I need people to tell me I am

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CurlewKate · 16/01/2026 11:56

Dd is going to New York for a two week work trip tomorrow. Obviously I won’t tell her this-but I am so scared about her being in the US at the moment. I’m not at all an anxious person and I’ve never felt like this about anyone travelling abroad before. Tell me I’m being completely irrational!

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TheBirdintheCave · 17/01/2026 20:18

We’re travelling to the US this year for my best friend’s wedding. I haven’t visited in ten years and am a bit wary of it. Everything feels quite tense at the moment and I also have concerns about air traffic controllers being overworked and understaffed. We’re still going though and hopefully everything will go smoothly :)

Buffs · 17/01/2026 19:31

I live in the US and whilst I viscerally loathe Trump he hasn’t yet managed to ruin my day to day life which is pretty good. Funnily enough some Americans I come across are too terrified to visit the UK which they believe has been decimated by Sharia law and stabbings.

Oldwmn · 17/01/2026 19:28

ExpectZeroContext · 16/01/2026 12:59

Kindly, you tell yourself this is about safety, when in truth it is about control, and your inability to tolerate a world you cannot police. Grow up.

You seem nice

hadenoughofsnowflakes · 17/01/2026 19:12

I’ve just got back - nothing to worry about. Honestly New Yorkers are the friendliest people I’ve ever met! My husband was nervous about going and couldn’t believe what a lively atmosphere the place has got, he wants to take the kids next year

fashionqueen0123 · 17/01/2026 19:01

Goldenbear · 17/01/2026 15:19

Yes, of course there are but that's not the question, the OP's DD isn't there and that was the question. Why you are repeatedly informing me of people going to Disneyland I don't know, perhaps it is you that works for the Tourist board. How many Canadians are no longer going to Florida? It's called having principles.

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I said there are thousands of brits there and you said ‘really?’

And started on about World Cup tickets as though that was of any relevance.

You don’t seem to understand plenty of people are still going to the USA and are there already. You seem to have needed some examples.

Snakebite61 · 17/01/2026 18:50

CurlewKate · 16/01/2026 11:56

Dd is going to New York for a two week work trip tomorrow. Obviously I won’t tell her this-but I am so scared about her being in the US at the moment. I’m not at all an anxious person and I’ve never felt like this about anyone travelling abroad before. Tell me I’m being completely irrational!

I wouldn't touch the US with a bargepole.

independentfriend · 17/01/2026 18:36

On a work trip she should have back up from both US/UK sides so is probably safer than on a purely tourist trip. She's hopefully got a local who can pass on bits of local knowledge. And she's probably spending most of her time doing work stuff.

Has she checked she's got the right kind of visa?

Is there travel insurance? I have no idea how that is done for work trips but it's obviously needed given the costs of a trip to a US hospital.

The practical thing you could do is grab contact details for the British consulate and for immigration lawyers based locally to where she's going.

Other practical thing - jet lag going out will make her wake up very early - that might be a good time to talk to each other if you usually do. It's also worth her being aware of what's open at 4-5am that's safe enough to go to (hotel gym, local coffee shop etc) if she doesn't want to stay in her hotel room.

I wouldn't go to the US at the moment and think people should minimise travel there till after Trump is out of the White House but it is probably safe enough for Brits.

MrsLeonFarrell · 17/01/2026 18:30

I'm reading this thread knowing that one of my adult offspring is refusing to go to the US for work because the situation is so uncertain.

I'm not saying either decision is right or wrong but I can see both sides.

Tikitaka20 · 17/01/2026 18:28

CurlewKate · 17/01/2026 18:20

Because it was relevant in a post intended to be mildly humorous and self deprecating. And you then went on to criticise my political beliefs-canMt actually remember what you said. Hey ho. Happy to provide an opportunity for you to make yourself feel important by attacking other people. Fill your boots.

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It didn’t come across as mildly humorous or self-deprecating to me - it came across as superior and smug.

And where did I criticise you for your political beliefs or personally attack you in my post?

I said I think your DD will be very safe on the work trip. I also said I thought you started the thread to show people you’re a wealthy and loving parent and to show in a coded way that you’re ‘good’ because you’re against Trump. I’m not critical of your beliefs - I’m also against Trump.

I know I am being wildly unreasonable about DD’s New York trip but I need people to tell me I am
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CurlewKate · 17/01/2026 18:20

Tikitaka20 · 17/01/2026 18:12

It wasn’t so much that you’d bought them - it was more the fact you felt the need to mention it. Couldn’t you have just said you’d bought your DD some socks? Why add that they’re ’cashmere socks’?

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Because it was relevant in a post intended to be mildly humorous and self deprecating. And you then went on to criticise my political beliefs-canMt actually remember what you said. Hey ho. Happy to provide an opportunity for you to make yourself feel important by attacking other people. Fill your boots.

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Vivi0 · 17/01/2026 18:16

Aethelredtheunsteady · 17/01/2026 17:30

We’ve just been hit with tariffs for opposing Trump’s illegal attempt at seizing Greenland. Is that mainstream media propaganda? What a lovely way America treats its allies these days.

Again, I’m sure this will have no bearing on how OP’s daughter will enjoy her trip but surely the Trump’s America defenders on here have to admit that he is the aggressor here?

the Trump’s America defenders on here

Trump’s America defenders?

But America is perfectly safe to travel to. Remaining rational and pointing this out doesn’t make one a “Trump’s America defender”.

Chill.

You said it yourself:

”I’m sure this will have no bearing on how OP’s daughter will enjoy her trip”.

oneoneone · 17/01/2026 18:15

Aethelredtheunsteady · 17/01/2026 17:30

We’ve just been hit with tariffs for opposing Trump’s illegal attempt at seizing Greenland. Is that mainstream media propaganda? What a lovely way America treats its allies these days.

Again, I’m sure this will have no bearing on how OP’s daughter will enjoy her trip but surely the Trump’s America defenders on here have to admit that he is the aggressor here?

Again, I’m sure this will have no bearing on how OP’s daughter will enjoy her trip but surely the Trump’s America defenders on here have to admit that he is the aggressor here?

I'm the last person to defend Trump's America, and clearly he is the aggressor, but it's still perfectly reasonable to say that OP's daughter will be absolutely fine on her business trip there.

EasternStandard · 17/01/2026 18:13

Tikitaka20 · 17/01/2026 17:58

It was me! <takes a bow>

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Haha cashmere socks is very mn

Tikitaka20 · 17/01/2026 18:12

CurlewKate · 17/01/2026 18:01

I know. Very odd.

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It wasn’t so much that you’d bought them - it was more the fact you felt the need to mention it. Couldn’t you have just said you’d bought your DD some socks? Why add that they’re ’cashmere socks’?

Tikitaka20 · 17/01/2026 18:10

MrsLeonFarrell · 17/01/2026 18:00

You can take a bow if I can take the socks!

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Deal!

Vivi0 · 17/01/2026 18:06

Theonlywayicanloveyou · 17/01/2026 17:43

No it isn’t. They are detaining visitors at immigration based on things they’ve posted on social media. Anyone who has been critical of Trump (an absolute ton of Brits) could find themselves spending their holiday in a windowless interrogation room. No thanks.

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And you could die in a plane crash on the way there.

The likelihood of either happening probably have similar odds.

Goldenbear · 17/01/2026 18:04

Aethelredtheunsteady · 17/01/2026 17:30

We’ve just been hit with tariffs for opposing Trump’s illegal attempt at seizing Greenland. Is that mainstream media propaganda? What a lovely way America treats its allies these days.

Again, I’m sure this will have no bearing on how OP’s daughter will enjoy her trip but surely the Trump’s America defenders on here have to admit that he is the aggressor here?

Exactly it is ridiculous!

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CurlewKate · 17/01/2026 18:01

MrsLeonFarrell · 17/01/2026 18:00

I missed that. Apologies for besmirching your DD's common sense!

What a strange thing to post, what's wrong with being able to buy cashmere socks?

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I know. Very odd.

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MrsLeonFarrell · 17/01/2026 18:00

Tikitaka20 · 17/01/2026 17:58

It was me! <takes a bow>

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You can take a bow if I can take the socks!

MrsLeonFarrell · 17/01/2026 18:00

CurlewKate · 17/01/2026 17:53

Wasn’t dd did the “showing off your wealth” thing-it was a mumsnetter!

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I missed that. Apologies for besmirching your DD's common sense!

What a strange thing to post, what's wrong with being able to buy cashmere socks?

Tikitaka20 · 17/01/2026 17:58

CurlewKate · 17/01/2026 17:53

Wasn’t dd did the “showing off your wealth” thing-it was a mumsnetter!

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It was me! <takes a bow>

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CurlewKate · 17/01/2026 17:53

MrsLeonFarrell · 17/01/2026 15:17

Today's youth are obviously different, I'd have snatched them out of your hands!

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Wasn’t dd did the “showing off your wealth” thing-it was a mumsnetter!

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Theonlywayicanloveyou · 17/01/2026 17:43

YellowPixie · 16/01/2026 12:10

This is just ridiculous.

No it isn’t. They are detaining visitors at immigration based on things they’ve posted on social media. Anyone who has been critical of Trump (an absolute ton of Brits) could find themselves spending their holiday in a windowless interrogation room. No thanks.

Gloriia · 17/01/2026 17:39

EasternStandard · 17/01/2026 17:38

Ok but people just want to use the site without seeing lefties trying to drive everyone else off. Mnhq don’t want that either.

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Yes I quite like the variety of views and correcting people Grin.

EasternStandard · 17/01/2026 17:38

Goldenbear · 17/01/2026 12:38

Didn't say I could, I said it was ashame that they didn't. They are my feelings, my opinion on the subject and I will state it as much as I like.

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Ok but people just want to use the site without seeing lefties trying to drive everyone else off. Mnhq don’t want that either.

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