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I know I am being wildly unreasonable about DD’s New York trip but I need people to tell me I am

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CurlewKate · 16/01/2026 11:56

Dd is going to New York for a two week work trip tomorrow. Obviously I won’t tell her this-but I am so scared about her being in the US at the moment. I’m not at all an anxious person and I’ve never felt like this about anyone travelling abroad before. Tell me I’m being completely irrational!

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VictoriaEra · 16/01/2026 12:20

Ive just got back from New York. It was wonderful. Please let her enjoy her work trip. What a great opportunity.

CautiousLurker2 · 16/01/2026 12:20

No advice on NY other than to listen to PPs here. Posting because I became very anxious when peri menopause hit and it has remained with me! Used to work in high pressured environments so no idea where it came from, but if you are noticing it in other areas, it is worth chatting to a GP re HRT and looking at natural methods to help manage it down.

I burst into tears when my DS announced his preferred uni was Manchester (not in front of him obv) and had no idea where that came from - guess I’m trying to say it’s normal!

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 16/01/2026 12:14

CurlewKate · 16/01/2026 12:07

Thank you. I’ve already sent her cashmere socks in a covert attempt to keep her safe!🤣

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Add a really warm hat and ear muffs! In NY one December I couldn’t believe how cold it was, esp. with wind-chill added - my ears actually hurt. I had to buy ear muffs PDQ.

Some people esp. Brits. like to say that a ‘dry cold’ doesn’t really feel that cold - yes it bloody does! Of course it was ‘dry’ - every tiny droplet of moisture was frozen solid!

MidnightPatrol · 16/01/2026 12:14

What are you fearful of exactly?

GlassofRosePorfavor · 16/01/2026 12:11

Cashmere socks really are life savers so I'm with you on that.

YellowPixie · 16/01/2026 12:10

This is just ridiculous.

Catwoman8 · 16/01/2026 12:09

I was in the US not long ago, though not NY. It was absolutely fine, what exactly are you worrying about?

PermanentTemporary · 16/01/2026 12:09

I’ve stopped planning trips to the US for now but not because of safety. She will be fine.

Limth · 16/01/2026 12:08

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WhatsYour · 16/01/2026 12:08

I have just bought flights today for me and my 21-year-old daughter! Can’t wait for our New York trip…

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CurlewKate · 16/01/2026 12:07

midlifemover21 · 16/01/2026 12:01

I live in NYC with children. She will be fine. Nothing to note normal life here. immigration ok and quick through JFK if that’s a concern.

Just tell her the weather has dropped currently -8 so bring warm clothes! That’s it and enjoy the city for what it is!