AIBU for being annoyed that I got home after a 10 hour shift and DH has cooked for the kids, eaten and was clearing up but hadn't left me plate or even asked me about dinner?
Context it was 7.30 so pretty much within our normal mealtimes, and I had text him at 7 to say I was in my way home.
We usually split the cooking although I'd say I do more especially decent meals as he usually makes 'beige' food for the kids. This is another annoyance as we often have to cook two meals as the kids won't eat much that isn't nuggets and chips type meals and I can't and wont eat like that constantly. The kids are teenagers 13 and 15 and are his bio kids. I don't have bio kids.
If he's late home I would never not include him in meal plans, I'd text or call him to ask if he wanted to wait or whatever.
He got grumpy when I said I was annoyed and said dinner was an hour ago and I thought you wouldn't be back until 8 (no idea why he thought this)
Tbf he did have to take his son to sports
and does do most of the kid running around.
Bit of a pattern. He doesn't ask if I want lunches, never mind that I've just cooked a massive roast with all the trimmings for him and his kids. It comes to lunch boxes and he does his and the kids. For a while I made him his breakfast for the next day, but I've stopped because it's not reciprocated.
I mean I can make my own meals, and do! but it makes me feel left out.
I should say this doesn't happen all the time, he definitely cooks for me sometimes and can be very thoughtfu!l
AIBU and expecting too much?