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AIBU to be upset partner changed his gmail password?

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Sunshine2361 · 16/01/2026 09:24

My partner is miserable in his job, he’s desperate for a new one so I’ve been helping him by doing job applications for him. He says he can’t do them himself as he has no time and he doesn’t know how to do them properly. I work full time so I’ve been fitting it in on a morning before work, between doing the school run for 2 kids. His indeed job account is linked to his gmail so to log in, I had to log into his gmail account. I did a couple of applications for him this morning then I came back from the school run and he’d sent me a load of texts saying how dare I access his gmail account and he has changed the password and I am never to access it again. AIBU to be really upset since I was literally trying to help him. I didn’t even go into his emails I just used his log in to access his indeed account

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CandiedPrincess · 16/01/2026 09:32

Politicians247UnderwearExtinguishingService · 16/01/2026 09:27

So even if your DH asked you to send several emails that were ostensibly from him, on his behalf, you still wouldn't expect to have access to his email?!

Only with agreement.

Also sounds like he hasn't specifically asked for help just said he didn't have time to do it.

(Edited, just seen the drip feed)

Sunshine2361 · 16/01/2026 09:32

Shutuptrevor · 16/01/2026 09:29

Did he know you were doing it?

He knows i am submitting job applications on his behalf. He has repeatedly asked me to do it. Every day he asks how many I sent, what jobs etc., on Sunday he was home while I was doing it and we created the indeed account together by signing into his gmail so it is linked and he was aware of that. I can’t send job applications from my indeed account as that will then have my email and name on it

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Sunshine2361 · 16/01/2026 09:31

Eenameenadeeka · 16/01/2026 09:26

Did he want to apply for the jobs? Did he see the specific job advertisements that you were actually applying for? It kind of sounds like you just did it without him agreeing to it? Which would be a shitty thing to do..

He has asked me to do the job applications for him. He asked me to apply for literally anything because he’s so unhappy in his current job. Tbh I’d rather not do the applications at all as I’m already burnt out from my own stressful job and everything I do around the house plus looking after 2 young kids

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PollyBell · 16/01/2026 09:30

He is a grown up so treat him like one, woman complain constantly about the thought load on here so dont mother him

mondaytosunday · 16/01/2026 09:29

So he didn’t know you were going to do this? Yea that is a huge violation! My DH and I did not know each others passwords and saw no reason to interfere at all with his anything.

Shutuptrevor · 16/01/2026 09:29

Did he know you were doing it?

Sunshine2361 · 16/01/2026 09:29

CandiedPrincess · 16/01/2026 09:25

YABU, he is entitled to privacy. My DH doesn't have access to my email, I don't have access to his.

I get that but I didn’t go into his emails. I logged into his indeed account which is linked to his gmail. I sent some job applications through his indeed account which I’ve done for him before. I didn’t look at any of his emails I didn’t even have gmail open. I’m happy not to do the job applications as they take ages and I’m exhausted as it is

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colachive · 16/01/2026 09:28

You are being unreasonable to do job applications for him! If he can’t fill out his own applications then how is he going to do the job? Don’t enable a man child… maybe if Mr Big Man wants privacy he can also be an adult and run his own life

Politicians247UnderwearExtinguishingService · 16/01/2026 09:27

CandiedPrincess · 16/01/2026 09:25

YABU, he is entitled to privacy. My DH doesn't have access to my email, I don't have access to his.

So even if your DH asked you to send several emails that were ostensibly from him, on his behalf, you still wouldn't expect to have access to his email?!

Eenameenadeeka · 16/01/2026 09:26

Did he want to apply for the jobs? Did he see the specific job advertisements that you were actually applying for? It kind of sounds like you just did it without him agreeing to it? Which would be a shitty thing to do..

CandiedPrincess · 16/01/2026 09:25

YABU, he is entitled to privacy. My DH doesn't have access to my email, I don't have access to his.

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