AIBU to be upset partner changed his gmail password?

Don’t do them. Tell him to adult the fuck up and apply for his own jobs. He is not a child. Is he expecting you to go to the interviews for him too?

Surely you need to have a conversation with him. Strangers here can't really help with this. Either he wanted to stop you doing the applications or he is trying to hide something or he changed for security reasons and forgot to update you. These are very different scenarios and you don't know which it is.

He's asked you for your help, then lost it?
Stop helping. He can put on his big boy pants and apply for his own jobs.

Spot on ! And you now have the perfect out to hand it all back to him.

Tell him no thanks, and that he is to do his half of all housework and parenting.
Otherwise what's the point of him? He's meant to be enhancing your life.

Also, just let him do his own applications.
He's a grown man, not a baby. He can read and write, presumably? Why is it up to you?

Also the strength of the response (when he knows the context of you helping him as asked), being angry etc would set alarm bells ringing that he does have something to hide…. 🚩

I'd now be wanting to know what he has to hide, tbh! You were doing him a favour.
DH and I are open with our phones and often share passwords for emails and stuff for various reasons. It's never an issue - because we have trust. Of course he's entitled to his privacy, but having a go at you for doing something he's asked you to do is not ok.

I think most responses here assume you looked at his email when you didn’t. If you genuinely didn’t look at his emails and you were only doing the job apps AS HE FRICKING ASKED then YANBU. I think the way you have framed it to begin with makes it sound more unreasonable than it is.

I wouldn’t be happy if my partner raised his voice at me and sent me harsh texts like that to be honest. It’s seems a little OTT.

I would expect him to talk to me and I would listen.

Personally, my partner and I access each other’s emails on occasion's, if I want his advice or he wants mine on something. We know each other’s passwords and there is no big drama.

I gather there are other issues as in “ you busy organising kids, have a stressful job as it is , and you don’t have time and feelings ungrateful for asking you as you are already full on. Talk to him about those other issues and maybe get him to help out and stop moaning about his “ email” access lol

Well you know the answer OP, “Hi babe, no problem, you can do your own fucking job applications from now on. Happy to stop helping.”

What a waste of space, he is asking you to do job apps which requires logging in via gmail and then assumes you’re snooping. He must have got a notification about a log in and jumped to conclusions. To be honest, even if he is nice about it I don’t know why you’re doing it when you already work full time and drop the kids to school. He sounds horrible.

I’m just wondering what will happen when he goes for the job interview - will he expect OP to do it instead?

What if they ask him questions about his application and he can’t answer because his mummy wife did it for him.

If he wanted a new job then he’d be spending every free minute he had looking and applying.
The fact that he isn’t suggests he’s not that bothered and it wouldn’t surprise me if OP did all this work for him to turn around and not bother attending the interviews.

I struggle to sympathise with OP though as I can’t help feeling she enjoys being a martyr - why else would you do it.

In light of all your updates, YANBU.

Your partner sounds not very clued-up and not very respectful of you. I'd cool things off until he figures out that he owes you an apology.

He should do his own applications.

Tell him that's fine, from now on he can do his own shitty admin and apply for jobs himself like a bloody grown up! Honestly, what a man-baby 🙄

If he asked you to do the applications, and knows you are doing it, and asks you about them, how does he propose you do it without accessing his account?

Guilty conscience OP.

I don't think someone deserves a job if they are so unmotivated or unskilled that they are unable to be bothered to fill in application forms or apply for jobs off their own steam. And have their Mrs do it for them.

Stop helping him. The lazy git needs to do his own job applications.

If he is a fully functioning adult he needs to sort out his own application not his p.a. He doesn't like his job? He needs to get his arse in gear and do something about it, stop enabling this nonsense OP, he needs to adult like an adult.
It never fails to amaze me that some peeps are sooo busy that they never have time to return a text or parent their own kid but can spend hours on socials and doing their 'hobby'.

This is what he would get from me:

You ungrateful baggage. You can bloody well do your own job applications in future.

Stop fretting about the trivial issue of his Gmail password and start fretting instead about the fact that your husband is so lazy / incompetent that he can't even fill in an online form.

Considering he asked you to apply for jobs for him, which is unreasonable in itself, no, you are not wrong. He should be applying for jobs not off loading that on to you. His feelings now gives you a perfect reason to pass that responsibility back to him.

Everyone is entitled to privacy, which is not the same as secrecy. I don't want my husband having access to my online shopping habit anymore than he wants me having access to all the political activities he is involved with. Not because there is anything to hide, but because it is nothing to do with the other. And quite a lot of his is confidential. Mine not so much.

Having to have access to all your spouse's private emails is a hugely controlling red flag issue. And if you think it will stop cheating or other dodgy activities, you are wrong. People can and will just set up another.

Whatever people say just in my opinion if two people are a team they always dip in and out of each other’s phones and computers, not checking up just looking at stuff for bills, ringing their phone to find it etc. I’d find it sad if someone had a reaction like that

It is fine to proof read someone elses job applications or give them feedback/suggestions but it is going above and beyond to write the applications and send them off if you are not the person applying. He sounds incredibly ungrateful.

You should have asked but the level.of his reaction would make me wonder what he's hiding...