AIBU to be upset partner changed his gmail password?

I think it’s weird and my automatic reaction would be to question whether he’s hiding something. It would have probably been kind of you to first mention you needed to access his email to verify the Indeed account but his reaction is a bit suspicious. If my DH wanted to log in to mine he’d be welcome to, it’s 99% junk mail.

You've given us a very clear reason as to why your are not able/willing to do his job applications (full time job, child care, school runs and exhaustion). So nows the time to tell him the same, and to allow him to do what he should - apply for his own fucking job. I have helped give feedback on DH's cv or covering letters a few times but never would I offer nor would he expect for me to do more. I think its a really weird dynamic and you need to stop facilitating it.

Also if he is so useless he cannot do an application he will likely be useless in the role itself.

Ugh. Nothing would make my fanny clamp shut faster than a man child who can't apply for a job. How do you sleep in the same bed as him ?

Well said

I cannot imagine doing job applications for a grown adult. But I get why he was annoyed at you accessing his email. It’s entirely fair for him to change his password

Do you book GP appts etc for him as well?

He's capable of doing it himself. He doesn't want to do it be because it's bloody boring. So he's asked you.
Let him do it himself. Guide him if he's truly incapable. He was home with you, yet you did the applications?!

Why aren’t you angry with him? He’s clearly a fucking idiot on loads of levels. Hand it all back to him.

Yeah quite. He sounds pathetic frankly and OP is doing him no favours babying him like this.

So why on earth are you doing them then?! 🙄

"Angry puddle" 😂

Given his attitude, he doesn't deserve @Sunshine2361 helping him.

Sounds as tho he would be equally fast to complain she "isn't supporting him".

He sounds horrific.

He's taking the piss! He should be doing his own bloody applications, what a useless bastard

'He says he can’t do them himself as he has no time and he doesn’t know how to do them properly.'

@Sunshine2361 oh dear, you have a man-child for a partner. Is it time to reconsider the relationship? If you two split up, sounds like you'd have one less child to look after.......

Then tell him he is being utterly unreasonable and he can do his own job applications. You're not his bloody pa.

Ask him what was the point, of setting up an Indeed account, then changing the login credentials so that you can't access it, when you were the one supposed to be using it.

Obviously, you can't do his job applications if he's blocking your access to Indeed. So don't bother.

I don't think he was wrong to but equally I think he's totally wrong to have you do his job applications for him. I was stunned at that tbh. He sounds like an idle sod regardless of what else does.

As of now he quits whinging and does his own.

He has asked me to do the job applications for him. He asked me to apply for literally anything because he’s so unhappy in his current job. Tbh I’d rather not do the applications at all as I’m already burnt out from my own stressful job and everything I do around the house plus looking after 2 young kids

Honestly it sounds like he is a clueless teenager and you are his mum with the job applications. There is no way that wouldn’t give me the ick. I’ve been married for decades and if DH asked me to do this I’d blink like an owl and think he’d gone mad. I have little to no idea what he actually does or how he does it (obviously I know the industry he is in and who his current/previous employers are), I’d have zero chance of doing a resume or job application for him, nor would I want to. Pretty much the same for him and my current job.

We don’t have access to each others passwords for anything, why would we? We don’t want that. Hasn’t been a problem over the decades and it’s not because we are up to anything nefarious, we’re just individuals separate from each other in that respect. Having said that we do have a folder somewhere with passwords after experiencing a friend unexpectedly have their DH die, and they couldn’t even turn on/unlock their devices to repurpose or gift them or do a few other things they wanted to tidy/wrap up. Must now find that and make sure it’s all up to date!

If she needs to access his account to do the thing he says he can’t do for himself, then his expectation of privacy is ridiculous. He could have avoided it by doing his own job applications, or setting up an email account specifically for job applications.

I am confused as to why you are applying for jobs for him? What does he mean by he can't do them properly? If he can't even apply for one, how is he going to pass the interview or actually do the job? Has he fully left it to you?
If he isn't doing any, then he should be helping out in the house with chores and childcare. But it appears that you are doing everything- why? If he is so incapable and useless, it seems you might be better off without him. You need to draw a strong line and say you won't be helping with his job search any more.

I think he is being ridiculous to be annoyed that you accessed his indeed account using the saved password if he knew you were going to be doing applications for him. Does he think you have been in his emails?
Tell him to do his own fucking applications from now on.

You shouldn’t be applying for jobs for him anyway OP. He’s an adult that’s for him to do.

I voted you are being unreasonable because you should not be applying for jobs on his behalf, it's bordering on the wrong side of fraudulent. And he's a lazy sod . . .