AIBU to be upset partner changed his gmail password?

Ok with the extra information about how you both set up the indeed account together - maybe he forgot / failed to understand that his gmail id and password are the thing you use to get back into indeed. Then today, he got one of those notifications from gmail telling him that someone has logged into his account - that's you using his gmail credentials for the indeed account - and thought it meant you had gone into his emails? So I can see why he was pissed off.

However! Once you have explained the above, and that you can only apply for jobs on his behalf like he asked you to do if you are able to log into his indeed account using his gmail password, he should bloody well apologise profusely.

But yeah, what everyone else said. He should do his own admin. * *

In guilty of nothing but I would be fuming and feel as thought my privacy was violated if anyone went on to my emails
just the same as opening someone else mail or looking through their phone

I HAVE NOTHING TO HIDE but I would be off like a rocket if someone did this to me I really value my privacy and respect others

Absolutely this.

This is so weird. Why are you doing applications for a grown adult?

Only someone who is guilty of doing something that their partner wouldn’t be happy about - porn/gambling/dating sites - would react like that ime

The main question is what is in his gmail emails that has him riled up that you had seen them?

I think he's got a bloody cheek talking to you like that when you are doing him such a massive favour. He could have spoken to you calmly to clear it all up.

FWIW, I agree that he should be doing it himself. I also think you've had some very harsh and unfair replies on here.

I haven't read the full thread yet so may be answered already, but where you accessing his email or his Indeed?

Completely agree with this. Regardless of the gmail issue, he can and should do them himself. This jumped out at me from the off -

I’ve been helping him by doing job applications for him. He says he can’t do them himself as he has no time and he doesn’t know how to do them properly.

Unless he has some learning disability, he can do them as properly as the next person and is being feeble making you do it - and then complaining about it! Leave it up to him and don't be run ragged by his misery and incompetence.

I am surprised at the replies. Of course you need access to an email account when applying for jobs,

If that is how he is going to show gratitude after you using all your spare time to help him, stuff it, he can do it.

I wouldn't be upset about it, but I'd be pissed off at the way he's gone at you for it.
You say you set it up together on Sunday so he must be aware you have to log in using his details. I can only assume he's not very savvy with how it works and he's assumed by logging in on indeed, that means you've accessed the email account as well.
You've tried to do a nice thing and help him out, it's bit you on the arse so I wouldn't bother helping again. Even if he has assumed you've accessed his actual emails, he could have just spoken to you about it before going mad

You need to refuse to help him any more. He's being really ungrateful and unreasonable if he has asked you to complete and send off some job applications on his behalf which require you to access his gmail account.

He can do it all himself and he won't have any reason to complain.

And that.

So you didn't actually access his Gmail, you accessed his Google account - to which Gmail is linked but also is your profile for Chrome etc and can be used for log ins like Indeed. It seems he is not aware of the difference (along with various posters here). If he asked you to do this, and it needs his Google login to do it, then he is being extremely unreasonable!

You have 3 children and no partner.

FOR GOODNESS SAKE !!!!

There is only ONE reason why he has reacted in this way - there are E-mails in his Inbox / Sent folders, that he doesn't want you to see.

Other woman?
Subscribed to dating websites?
Subscribed to Porn sites?
Subscribed to Hook up sites?

There is no other reason for him to want to hide his E-mails from his wife.

Anyone who wants to hide their E-mails from their spouse, does indeed have something to hide.

My E-mail account is open on my laptop all the time - DH could easily read all my E-mails. Why on earth would that be a problem?

He is being ridiculous! If he wants you to do the applications for him (which is also ridiculous) then he can’t complain when you need to access his email to send them for him..

Explain to him what you've done and that you were trying to help him. Then stop doing his job applications for him. He's a grown-up.

Tell him to do his own fucking job applications. When he whinges that he can't - explain he is going to be stuck in his current job forever then. I can perhaps understand him being a little bit narked if he thinks you've been through his email but there's a way of asking and explaining .Being rude and aggressive about it is the way he's chosen to do it so he lives with the consequences.

He needs to find his own job- why on earth are you doing it for him?

I know DP's passwords, he knows mine - I cannot think of a situation where I would need to access his emails withou him being there but I would still ask! Otherwise it seems you are checking up on him? Same way if I need to google something and my phone isnt there, I would use his, but I would tell him I was doing so.

First of all fair enough email accounts are private; but he shouldn’t have gone on at you, as you needed it to help him. Though, kindly op after this, you should now back off and leave him to it.

of course he says ‘He says he can’t do them himself as he has no time and he doesn’t know how to do them properly‘ as he knew you’d jump
in and do them for him! FFS does he think youve got the time, youve said you’re burnt out, you are up doing his job stuff before you own work!! So if he was living alone he’d have to learn the skill of applying for jobs and do it himself. Don’t enable anymore op, he doesn’t sound even slightly grateful for all your help!!

Gmail accounts are free - if he’s that worried about you seeing his emails then he could create an address that’s specifically for logging in to the job applications.

If he doesn’t use it for anything else then there’ll be nothing personal in there for you to see.

Alternatively, tell him you’re not doing any more for him!

Why are you applying for jobs for him? That is weird for a start. I would stop and tell him to crack on since he doesn't like you using his gmail. Stop babying him.

He’s obviously not the sharpest tool in the shed - he can’t apply for his own jobs and doesn’t understand about using google to login to other systems. Coupled with the fact the idea you had seen his email scared him to death so he obviously has something to hide - I would be looking to re evaluate my relationship.

"Don't be bloody ridiculous, I didn't go through your emails, just used your Google account for authentication to Indeed. But since you've decided it's such a huge issue, you can do your own job applications."