To think we should get the best room in a villa?

It’s the title of the thread!

So then I’m not sure they can argue they get the best room due to culture but not put their hands in their pockets.

It would seem fairest to give the organiser first dibs of room. It's easy to underestimate the time and effort out into researching and organising. It's got 5 bedrooms too, so a range of choice for the group.

I get what others are saying about it being respectful to offer best/biggest room to the older generation. But surely that's hand in hand with the senior couple usually "hosting" either by funding, subsidising and/or organising the trip. Here they have not done those things. (Or being the person/couple being celebrated/treated for a special birthday or anniversary, but here there are two birthday people so that doesn't work either.)

Personally I'd be willing to step aside from the nicest room if someone else wanted it and there was a suitable alternative for me, as I'm just not bothered about spending a lot of time in the room in holiday - it's just for sleeping changing and showering. Who knows, the GF might feel the same.

Why not suggest the organiser allocates the rooms and see what transpires.

It’s literally the thread title - aibu to think we should get the best room. HTH

In most families the 60ish couple would be likely to be financially more secure than the 30ish couple. Later career stages, mortgage paid off etc. It would be nice where that's the case for them to contribute more which could perhaps come with the better room. Where all are contributing equally if the 30 something couple are stretching themselves more I think that's another reason they should get the better room. Or at least first refusal.

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I may have missed something, but the only 'reason' I've seen so far as to why OP thinks that she (and her DH, of course) should get the best room is basically "It's the best one available, and I like me (and maybe my DH) the best of the people who are going, so therefore it should obviously be mine!"

I'm reminded of that time on Shooting Stars, when Vic came out with what seemed like a very improbable 'fact', which was then quibbled - and he stamped his feet and shouted "IT'S TRUE!" three times before saying "And I think that proves it!"

If you're all paying the same, then the organiser gets the best room.

Op has clarified that single son is paying 1/5 and the others are paying 2/5 per couple.

It probably would be in my family as well. However, my parents would be paying the entire cost. The OP is not.

Especially as their relationship is much newer and more nascent (going on their age and the fact that they aren't married yet); whereas OP and her DH have already lived their lives together as a married couple for probably longer than the younger couple have even been alive.

And I say this as somebody who is between their ages, but considerably nearer to 60 than 30.

We do these trips as a family regularly. It’s completely irrelevant but I organise everything and my husband and I pay but I’d never dream of us using anything other than the least good bedroom we’ve done bunk beds on numerous occasions 😄

Our children decide among themselves who gets what in the other rooms but it’s never an issue, the rooms are only there to sleep in so it’s not a big deal for anyone

I absolutely know that, I was just developing a point in order to clarify something that I probably hadn't expressed clearly. 👍

Yes

It amuses me that the OP has decided to pick up the responses to the side point rather than the one she actually came to ask about, which is almost unanimously against her view.

Isn’t it cultural then for thr parents to even pay towards their kids staying?

Who said it was a single room? I’m not talking about single rooms. I’m saying they always get the shit room. In THIS instance they are all paying 1/5 but that doesn’t mean he should get the shit room. Many times single people pay the same still get the shit room. It’s happens to me all the time, I’ve paid the same as everyone else but got the shit room.

Has OP actually spoken to her DS's GF about it?

For all we know, she may have been planning right from the outset to let the older couple enjoy the best room, as a nod to their seniority - could even have chosen that villa specifically to enable this as a lovely special treat for them - but OP is actively going to pick up toys to put them in her pram purely so she can throw them out again!!

As a parent, I'd show respect for DS and girlfriend (who organised it!) and give them the best room. Why expect it just because you're older?

It’s culture and it’s basic manners. Maybe it’s cultural but in my family this wouldn’t even be a question

Why?

older son and his girlfriend should get the better room as they arranged.

My point was just that the organiser doesn't always have to take the best room as some people were saying - they might deserve it. but they might also choose to offer it to someone else as a kind gesture.

Maybe if they’re elderly with mobility issues. They’re only 60 though!

To add to my post that I’m quoting, when you’re the organiser, when anything is wrong with the accommodation, people tend to look to you to sort it out. Remember Kevin in that Motherland episode. 😅