To think we should get the best room in a villa?

I think organiser should get first choice of which room they want. I always organise trips and it's far more time and effort than most non-organising people realise.

I wouldn't necesarily take the best room for myself though, it would depend who I was travelling with, what their needs were.

But in your case, all adults, I think the gf should probably get the nicest room.

It doesn't mean she'll take it though.

To me it's always the most senior couple who get the best room. Or first choice.
So if your parents were coming, I'd hope they'd get it. Then you'd get second best etc.

As it stands you and husband, then second eldest, then younger ones. That would be how my family would do it.

Obviously with the caveat that whichever younger one has a partner has a double room where possible.

But the person booking it is not going with THEIR parents. The OP hasn't done everything for the GF. I think the OP should concede the best room to the GF in recognition of everything that she has done for them, in booking this trip

So your son's girlfriend has kindly organised a holiday to celebrate her boyfriend's 30th, handily your husband's 60th happens at a similar time so instead of being exclusive about it she's now organised a holiday for her boyfriend's whole family for the double celebration. Lovely!

Presumably she'd not have arranged a holiday for her boyfriend's dad's 60th if they weren't happening around the same time. So how kind of them to include you all and widen the birthday celebrations!

Why would anyone except them get the best bedroom? You could organise a joint 70th/40th and have the best bedroom then?

The organisers get the best room, and to be honest it sounds like the best bedroom is the most romantic. Let the younger couple have it, they'll make better use of it no doubt...

I suppose I was speaking personally. I would give my parents the best room in recognition of everything they have done for me. I do appreciate that might not be the same for all families.

The room should go to the organiser and I say that as a 60 year old. Anything else is taking the piss.

We get the best room on all our holidays but then we pay for the entire villa and I organise it all!

If I was in this situation and me or my partner had done all the legwork to research, find and book a villa… well I’d probably start by booking one with similar rooms. But if there was one that was clearly better I’d maybe suggest my parents have it. HOWEVER if my mum had an attitude of “I should get the best room” (like you do!), despite me doing all the organising, I’d probably think “fuck that, I’m having it.”

Your other thread says it's a 70th birthday and DS1 organised the villa. Which is it OP?

I think whoever took the trouble to organise it gets first pick regardless.

You haven’t answered the question of why you think you deserve the best room? I’m trying to think of a good reason, but I can’t.

30 is a big milestone birthday.

60, meh, they've had enough milestones for it to not be such a big deal.

It's your son's 'big' birthday, his GF has organised the whole thing, she's dragging you oldies along too, instead of having a romantic get away just the two of them. They get first choice at least, so you'll have to be patient and see which they choose.

The conception bit is hardly the heavy lifting of parenting.

How did they 'sail past the salient point'? They were spot on!

agree with this, I don’t spend any time in my room on holiday so couldn’t get worked up about whether it was the best one or not. I also don’t think parents deserve the biggest / best room just because they’re the oldest, it should go to who books it and / or pays the majority. Since you’ve all paid equal, your son and girlfriend get it.

or the person paying more than anyone else for his room!

And I'm well over 60!

Why do you feel you should get the best room as opposed to the other couple?

Imagine sticking it to your kids like that, especially when the girlfriend of one organised the lot. As if she had nothing better to do. Goodness.

Oh honestly, talk about sailing right past the salient points.

Does it really matter? How much time are you going to be spending in your bedroom? Surely, they are just places to sleep and you’ll all be spending majority of the time in communal rooms/outside.

I'm a few years younger than the OP. I don't get why it's obvious she and her DH should have the best room but I'm guessing because it's a 'big' birthday.

if it's really important to you, @hwange, offer to pay more for the bigger room. "I know we're being a bit precious here but if you don't mind...however, of course we will pay a bit more."

I was about to land you my very first "Okay, Boomer!" but then I realise OP and her DH are GEN X.

This is NOT how we roll, woman.

I'm not ranking them in terms of significance wrt the room allocation. I'm responding to a poster who felt 30 was the most significant and disagreeing.

And if offered out of politeness, I’d be bit shocked if you didn’t politely but firmly insist your son and partner should have it - acknowledging her work and kindness in organising.

If your son had done the organising it would be in his gift to offer you the best room. Since his partner organised it - for his special birthday - they get the best room.

Why would you be more important to her, than he is?