To think we should get the best room in a villa?

I would usually say the organiser gets first pick as they are the one that put the work in . I book our holidays and then when we arrive I have a walk round and see which room suits me best. It may be a totally different room from the one I originally thought I wanted from the photos but am such an awful sleeper that if there is a rubbish blind, traffic or construction noise then I won’t sleep. If that means I have the smallest room then so be it.
Last year my adult son and his girlfriend got the “best” room with the en-suite and projector screen with surround sound as the the toilet cistern was constantly dripping and I would have lost the plot! And on a recent girls weekend I chose the sofa rather than be close to a snorer
If anything the solo son should be paying LESS not an equal share as he doesn’t have anyone to share costs with and you do- maybe he gets the “best” room instead

One change every few days. I'd personally do it happily to share a room in a villa that was head and shoulders better than anyone else's.

Ha! Totally missed that in the title as only went back and re-read the posts .

No, you wouldn't. You'd all chip in to pay equal shares if you're family.

And please don't assume the single person should get the worst room.

Absolutely 😂

Organiser gets to choose.

As an aside are you short of money becuase if that was us we'd pay for the accommodation for us and our dc, not get everyone chipping in.

They get the best room because they had sex and made children. Lol. 🤪

What’s going on here?

My guess is that OP doesn't like her son's girlfriend and wants to cement her position in the pecking order...

This is their choice though, not an obligation or something I consider myself automatically entitled to.
Agree never said it wasn't their choice but pleased they do because I feel I must have had a positive impact on them because they choose to, as I do for my parents.

I'm presuming that because the OP kids are choosing to holiday with them and have organised it they also must have a positive relationship with them otherwise they wouldn't bother or want to.

I meant 'exist', as in they brought the two sons into existence 🙂

This wouldn’t arise in our family.

Honestly, as soon as any squabbling or resentment about room allocation begins, the whole thing is doomed.

You are going to celebrate birthdays. To enjoy bring together as a family and hopefully enjoy the area you are going to.

Not to play competitive bedrooms and all sit in your beds admiring the bedroom decor (or not).

What’s going on here?

I think either you or your son and GF get the best room. Interesting to see how many people think the organiser should get the best room, last time we went on holiday with my family DH and I ended up with the smallest room despite doing all the organisation and (single) DB was given the biggest double room that was the only one with an en suite which took out that bathroom from general use. I was not happy but DM had decided so that was that. Good to have my view validated though, I think we should have had it then us and our DC could have used that bathroom instead of just DB.

It is the ‘without whom none of them would be there’ that doesn’t make sense. none of them would be there without the organiser.

It is the ‘without whom none of them would be there’ that doesn’t make sense. none of them would be there without the organiser.

God only knows why. Some people are so entitled! Must think she's special.

Son's girlfriend organized, so she and son have 'first dibs' on the room. However, they offer it to son's parents, the 'elders' of the group, just cos it's a nice thing to do.
Quite straightforward to understand that?! 🤷

Offered the best room, yes. Automatically entitled to it, as the OP suggests? No.

I'm still amazed at the number of posters thinking this is a binary choice between the parents and the younger couple, as though the younger son is somehow less worthy of consideration for the nicer room just because he doesn't have a partner in tow.

Can’t believe the entitled responses here. Of course the parents are offered the best room. It’s the respectful thing to do. Why would that even be a question? I’d be mortified if my gf/bf thought that we should have the best room above my parent (or their parents) let alone was celebrating a milestone. Makes me so sad that people think like this.

We have this every time when we go to ski chalets, rooms always different. We pay for everyone so get the best room and the others draw from a hat. If we weren’t paying though we’d most certainly all draw from the hat!

I know it’s only a room but if you want them investing in holidays with you in future you definitely don’t want bad feeling.

This would never be a problem in my family because we're very British and polite and would all offer each other the best room and feel mortified if somehow we did end up in the best room because we'd rather sleep in the garden than make a fuss or appear entitled. So I would offer everyone else the best room (but they'd also offer it to me). I think the girlfriend has strongest claim as both organiser and family outsider (so therefore needs her own space to escape to more than the others)

“I don’t think the op has expressed that she feels she should get the best room”

Well her op was titled “AIBU to think we should get the best room” so yes, she has expressed that feeling.

What a pain in the arse to keep washing/moving sheets and moving your clothes and other belongings from room to room.

Move the sheets if possible, wash if not. No big deal really if one room is so much better than the rest, seems only fair.