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Can I wear this Satin Dress to a Wedding. Husband says no. I feel stunning in it, and think it is ok to wear.

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MegsyLondon · 16/01/2026 06:21

Opinion needed. I got gifted this dress for Christmas it's a bit tight as it is my pre baby size, but it somehow makes me look smaller than I am.

https://www.iconleva.com/collections/best-sellers/products/adel

It is cinched on my waist and then flows into a fitted skirt. I feel confident in it. I feel like me again. I have been desperate to wear it since I got it but we never go out.

It's my husband's best friend's wedding in February. He is one of the best men. I am not in the wedding so I wont be in any of the pictures or anything like that.

Husband isn't happy about me wearing it. Is it reasonable to wear it? I never go out and I think we will be having another baby by the end of the year so I wont get another chance to wear this beautiful dress. I also dont want to go out and buy another dress when I have been gifted this one and it is sitting in my wardrobe.

It is white at the bottom but clearly with the black lace top it is not a wedding dress. Be honest please.

ADEL

Classic. Commanding. Effortless. The ADEL Lace and Satin Halter Gown is an ode to contrast. Delicate lace meets liquid satin in a silhouette that celebrates form. A plunging halter neckline frames the décolletage, its stretchy lace bodice tied effortle...

https://www.iconleva.com/collections/best-sellers/products/adel

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CauliflowerCheese00 · 16/01/2026 08:15

MegsyLondon · 16/01/2026 06:49

EDIT: I dont know why it matters who gave it to me but my MIL gave it to me. She gets me a dress every year for Christmas usually from really beautiful independent brands that I could never afford for myself. Last year was tough for me having a baby I lost my confidence, so she said it was to make me feel good. It does make me feel like me again, which I havent in so long.

EDIT: We did go out pre-baby. But we have a little one now and I had some issues with the baby that I feel too scared to leave her alone with anyone else yet. So the wedding is the only time I see us leaving the baby briefly this year (it's a no kids wedding and he is the best man so we have to go to this one).

None of this makes it acceptable to wear that dress to a wedding though…

I also think it will look even less appropriate with a jacket or blazer etc - the top half will be covered so then it will literally look like you’re wearing a white, satin, floor length dress…. Just like a bride.

travailtotravel · 16/01/2026 08:15

He needs to take you on a hot dare somewhere so you wear it with swagger and get to feel amazing. That place isn't a wedding, sorry!

Daisywhatsyouranswer · 16/01/2026 08:14

You can’t wear that to a wedding, it is totally inappropriate, and you won’t feel good knowing everyone is side eying you thinking god that woman’s clueless.

find another reason to wear it, but don’t put your need to wear it over occasion appropriateness. It’s no more appropriate than wearing it to parents night.

Notonthestairs · 16/01/2026 08:11

BagaChips · 16/01/2026 08:08

Is this some kind of stealth advert for this brand that nobody has ever heard of? They have a new instagram account, 1 follower on Facebook and their only post is advertising this exact dress

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Third time the Op has posted this dress. Three weeks ago it didn’t fit. She must really love it.

TheBlueKoala · 16/01/2026 08:11

Am I the only one who thinks the dress is hideous? And that you would have to be a model in order to wear it?

Rocknrollstar · 16/01/2026 08:10

My husband rarely comments on clothing but if he says ‘no’ he is always right as is your husband. This dress is lovely but not for a wedding.

somanychristmaslights · 16/01/2026 08:10

BagaChips · 16/01/2026 08:08

Is this some kind of stealth advert for this brand that nobody has ever heard of? They have a new instagram account, 1 follower on Facebook and their only post is advertising this exact dress

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And couldn’t find anything on trust pilot either.

NotnowMildrid · 16/01/2026 08:09

No definitely not, you would stand out like a very sore thumb and look silly (sorry).

In life you have wear appropriate attire to appropriate events, it doesn’t mean you still can’t look lovely.

carpetfluffs · 16/01/2026 08:08

BagaChips · 16/01/2026 08:08

Is this some kind of stealth advert for this brand that nobody has ever heard of? They have a new instagram account, 1 follower on Facebook and their only post is advertising this exact dress

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Definitely

BagaChips · 16/01/2026 08:08

Is this some kind of stealth advert for this brand that nobody has ever heard of? They have a new instagram account, 1 follower on Facebook and their only post is advertising this exact dress

carpetfluffs · 16/01/2026 08:07

If the OP can get away with tight white satin around her middle and no bra after recently welcoming a baby then there are so many nicer dresses she could wear.

PonderPONDERponder · 16/01/2026 08:07

I get the vibe you’re going to wear it, no matter what anyone else says.

HK04 · 16/01/2026 08:07

Not at all suitable for a wedding.

Elfbeth · 16/01/2026 08:06

Even the website selling the dress don’t think it’s suitable! - it’s not listed in their wedding guest section

APatternGrammar · 16/01/2026 08:05

Could you have the skirt of the dress dyed and wear something to cover your back and shoulders?

Seriestwo · 16/01/2026 08:05

Yes, I think this is not a troll but a bit odd.

What MiL buys an evening dress for a new mum? for Christmas?

carpetfluffs · 16/01/2026 08:05

TrudgingTowards2026 · 16/01/2026 08:03

Is nobody else thinking that the OP just wanted to drive traffic to the website and get people browsing the stuff there?

Definitely, the site looks new for one.

Bestfootforward11 · 16/01/2026 08:04

Love the dress and it’s a real find when you find something you feel fab in! But I don’t think it’s right for a wedding. Maybe tell your husband you’d love to wear it and feel glam so how about he arrange a date night xxx

3luckystars · 16/01/2026 08:04

Yes and it might have worked.

TrudgingTowards2026 · 16/01/2026 08:03

Is nobody else thinking that the OP just wanted to drive traffic to the website and get people browsing the stuff there?

bigboykitty · 16/01/2026 08:03

No, but you know that already.

GAJLY · 16/01/2026 08:03

No as it’s too revealing for a wedding also it’s half white! You shouldn’t wear white to someone else’s wedding! Can you return it? Or save it for another time?

IDontHateRainbows · 16/01/2026 08:03

Don't know what size boobs you have OP but mine would be flopping about and falling out in that. Not usually a fan.of husbands dictating what wives can wear, but I see his point.

3luckystars · 16/01/2026 08:02

That’s a very unusual Christmas gift for someone to give you, a new mom. Had you tried it on, in the exact right size in their company and they went back and bought it for you?

It is absolutely not suitable for a wedding.

TakemedowntoPotatoCity · 16/01/2026 08:02

It's a beautiful dress, and I'm very envious that you have the figure to carry it off!

Absolutely no to wearing it to a wedding. Sorry but it's not about how fabulous you feel on the day, it's about the bride.

On the plus side you can organise a fabulous evening out somewhere posh that you CAN wear it.